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redstripehubby -> Marriage and D/s (1/6/2006 9:41:17 PM)
Hi I was wondering if there are any sub/slave men here who are married to their Mistress. Do you live in a 24/7 relationship? How successful are you at establishing boundaries between the "regular" life of a couple and BDSM? I have been a slave to my Wife for over 3 years now and it has enriched our life immeasurably but it took time to develop the right balance. We are always learning and trying to incorporate our Femdom aspects into more of our life and are curious how others have succeeded or failed at it...Marriage or Long-Term relationship ok...Thank you!

MHOO314 -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 6:06:30 AM)
I am not there.... yet.

cutentampa -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 8:04:17 AM)
Wow!! Three years!! wonderful restripehubby!! I love hearing success stories! Keep up the good work, you are obviously doing a wonderful job in serving her. Are you familiar with the Eliose Sutton site? THere are many real life stories on her site from Femdom couples who share their stories. I met my sub almost six months ago right here on collarme. I moved him in after the third week. It is working out fantastic. There was, of course, adjustments we both needed to make, but we did it with minimal effort and stress. This is O/our first D/s relationship for the both of us. his submission is the best gift I've ever been given. Femdom has really changed my life and I anticipate much more happiness. Trying to mix the D/s aspects within a vanilla world is sometimes a challenge, but also exciting. The key is keeping the balance and knowing when to keep your mouth shut about your secret little world behind close doors. I wish I could find more dominant women to mingle with. ( I'm sure all the male subs are thinking "Yeah, well take a number!") I would love to host an occasional Femdom party for sharing ideas and supporting the lifestyle. We live in Tampa, so anyone Femdom couples out there in my area, shoot me a message.

cloudboy -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 10:10:18 AM)
FEMDOM marriage begs the question, "Can you have TOO MUCH of a good thing?" My mistress and I sometimes peer around the corner to ask "what if" about ourselves. Generally when I do it, the FEMDOM looks very, very exciting, but at the same time I also think, "shit, we'd be saddling ourselves with all the mundane aspects (bills, lawns, dishes, jobs) of life as well." I guess the question to me is, would things get old and would the mundane seep into the D/S, causing it to devolve.... I don't know.

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 10:46:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy FEMDOM marriage begs the question, "Can you have TOO MUCH of a good thing?" My mistress and I sometimes peer around the corner to ask "what if" about ourselves. Generally when I do it, the FEMDOM looks very, very exciting, but at the same time I also think, "shit, we'd be saddling ourselves with all the mundane aspects (bills, lawns, dishes, jobs) of life as well." I guess the question to me is, would things get old and would the mundane seep into the D/S, causing it to devolve.... I don't know. That stuff goes on whether you're married or not. It would definitely take effort to keep things going, but all relationships take effort at some point. Believing that Femdom can occur 24/7 on a constant basis is just not realistic, in my opinion. I know several couples who make it work, but it's not the fantasy that many make it out to be. There is a conscious effort to incorporate into the daily relationship the lifestyle things that they find important. Be well, Julie

redstripehubby -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 10:20:13 PM)
Thank you for your reply! My Wife has been looking to meet other R/L Dommes for some time now...just to chat and exchange ideas. All the best with your new slave!

redstripehubby -> RE: Marriage and D/s (1/7/2006 10:26:37 PM)
Its definitely not all fantasy. Cleaning the house (even naked) gets tiring and there is much to be done outside of playtime. There is always some aspect of D/s...even if its just the welts on my butt from some misdemeanor...the point is to keep it always in the background of everything we do and not the fantasy version. It becomes a very tasty part of the daily routine. Occupies and excites the mind without all the costume etc that just takes too darn long on a weekday to arrange. There are benefits - no arguments, a generally cleaner house (lol), and great sex, to name just a few.

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