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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/8/2006 8:57:25 PM

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The more I read your posts, the more I'm convinced you should be a civil rights advocate.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/8/2006 9:53:31 PM

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The more I read your posts, the more I'm convinced you should be a civil rights advocate.

I'm guessing you meant this for me but without quoting it's hard to tell, but in any case, everyone should be a civil rights advocate. It's the only way to try to assure that the rights will be there when we need them ourselves. Those who stand by while other's rights are violated don't realize they are actually standing in a slowly moving line.

Just ask Martin Niemoller.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 7:35:10 AM

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Yes, I was responding to you, and clearly you are a civil rights advocate. Here's something for you to think about. Alexander Solzhenitsyn themed in his novel, THE CANCER WARD, that the only free people in Russia were in the GULAG SYSTEM. They had nothing left to lose and nothing more to fear. It was a somewhat romantic view of being a ZEK, or prisoner, but romanticism aside, this idea spoke volumes about the man on the street.

Just to wax a little political here, IMO the greatest thing about US's constitution if the FIRST AMENDMENT and its separation of Church and State. The Constitution's weakest component is not in the Amendments but in the Congressional section, wherein Congress has unlimited power to borrow and spend money. Unfortunately, there is not counterbalancing check on this power, so our esteemed representatives are speeding us toward banana republic status as fast as they can. (The Presidential VETO, absent line-item veto powers, is insufficient.)

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 8:16:44 AM

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we all have disabilities, just varying in degree.

I myself, I have shitty knees from a fall i took down a flight of stairs 2 years ago. Does not mean I should leave the lifestyle bc I cant kneel for long periods of time. I have something going on in my neck, likely a pinched nerve, or herniated disk. I suffer from chronic headaches and migraines. I am also bipolar.

Because of all of this, should I leave the lifestyle, or continue on, with the modifications IE: I dont kneel for more than five minute intervals. It can all be worked around. Is just personal preference in how many of those adjusts you want to make and are comfortable with.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 8:31:38 AM

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Well, I don't think people like me or anyone else should make the choices about what you do. My post to John was really a non sequitor to this thread. I first met him when he fired a shot over my bow on a thread about weight and body issues, and since then I've taken notice of his posts. He is generally a good read and always consistant in his point of view. So, anyway, I was speaking more to him ex. parte of the thread, so to speak.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 9:20:15 AM

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I still love the man to death - but had to tell him I couldn't accept him - be responsible for his health under my care and supervision. (Really wish that for his own health and safety, he'd leave the BDSM scene altogether, but that's his choice, not mine.)

MY RECOMMENDATION: Ask for a medical history and list of meds - or at least discuss this with potential submissives BEFORE play begins.

I applaud the fact that you felt you could not assume the responsibility for him, that does you both a service--however to leave the life may not have been the best recommendation--there is a preponderence of nurses, doctors and parameds in BDSM (hence the popularity of medical play) --I might suggest he find a Dom/me who has that background, or someone who is more comfortable with those conditions--and let Me add, when I was a NO police officer, we had more people get things "stuck" in orifices then we had die in a CSI imagined episode from medical conditions.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 10:00:46 AM

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From the statements in the OP, this sub was on some medication that either thins the blood or prevents clotting and duely might add to the potential of causing bleeding from an enema or other actions that in people with normal blood constitution would not be a problem. Anal and vaginal intercourse does create tiny little tears in the tissue that are, under normal conditions, innocuous and harmless; but perhaps because of this persons medications that were stated as being taken to allow for bleeding that this might be entirely possible under the circumstances. It would also lead me to suspect that the medication levels are not stabalized and/ or that this person might not be aware of the risks of their activity or their limits.

May I propose that not only do partners, either D or s, need to disclose their medical history but in these cases in ongoing medical conditions they also need to come out to their medical professionals. Perhaps a doctor might have warned about increased risks due to medication and fore knowledge might have prevented this as well.

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 11:17:15 PM

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You're going to have to have slightly thicker skin as a Domme and on internet boards so you don't run away when people disagree or even dislike you sometimes.
Your post and points are valid, especially after clarifying what happened in subsequent posts. It seems your prospective is guilty of dishonesty and very poor judgement if he gave self an enema in such a harsh/inapropriate manner that he perforated something that required surgery... He has bigger problems than being an epileptic and on coumadin.
I would encourage you to stay, as there is lots that can be learned from these boards. M

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RE: A New Dominant's Recommendation - 1/9/2006 11:30:37 PM

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I first met him when he fired a shot over my bow on a thread about weight and body issues, and since then I've taken notice of his posts. He is generally a good read and always consistant in his point of view.

I just read your posts on that thread, I hope you consider them regretable mistakes, LMAO.

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You are something cloudboy, but I can't say what exactly. M

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