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RE: Jealousy - 12/29/2005 7:01:05 PM

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You said you both play with others, however this is someone who was an "ex", possibly a little closer relationship than just playing with others. Is it possible this was what made it seem a little more threatening?

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RE: Jealousy - 12/29/2005 9:16:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: HouseofBear

You said you both play with others, however this is someone who was an "ex", possibly a little closer relationship than just playing with others. Is it possible this was what made it seem a little more threatening?

Lady Ursa

This is a copy/paste from a reply I made earlier.

"Not quite true. Another ex I played with had/has more emotional attachment (ex-fiancee), yet the pet showed NO jealousy then."

If the pet showed the jealousy then, I'd have more understanding. Esp. as the ex-fiancee lives MUCH closer then the ex-girlfriend.

Hell, I live in the same apartment complex as the ex-fiancee.

But there is no jealousy (no, I do not normally play with the ex-fiancee. That was a one time deal)

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RE: Jealousy - 12/29/2005 10:58:26 PM

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Sheesh I feel sorry for the ex- no reason to make HER deal with the issues you both are dealing with right now!

Part of being alive is having our reactions surprise us. You need to take the time and work out this reason. It MIGHT be something as stupid as "I forgot to eat breakfast and it made me all wonky" or it MIGHT be something as real as "We haven't had sex in a week and it just hit me all at once"

Forcing you to see eachother when you're obviously in a state is just asking for trouble. I think Wolf is making all the classic mistakes of trying to force a solution rather than letting things slow down and then work on the foundational issues.

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And you don't think either/both could have just been repressing? There's a very strong vein in most subs to "make everything look right" even when they are falling apart inside.

You can't run into a wall and consider that an actual relationship fix.

Lucky albatross....

i would thank you to quit being an ass. Master is a good man, and we do not have any undue problems that affected this jealousy thing... i was just caught by a negative emotion, and that happens to the best of us sometimes. the problem has been solved.

nor do i 'make everything look right' when it is not, as that = lieing.
i do not lie.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/30/2005 5:45:01 AM

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i was just caught by a negative emotion, and that happens to the best of us sometimes. the problem has been solved.

I doubt that. There are lots of communication/relationship issues going on that even Wolf stated he couldn't begin to bring up here. Situations that cause people to get freaked out over and post online threads to get advice on do not simply "get all better."

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nor do i 'make everything look right' when it is not, as that = lieing.
i do not lie.

Respectfully,
adrianne

But you DID withhold your feelings of jealousy to begin with, which is lying. And had to go through a whole big scene for him to finally get you to be honest.

I'm not saying either of you are bad people, you seem to be trying to make an honest go of the poly thing together. I am just saying that you are both trying to backtrack real fast after spilling a whole heck of a lot of beans. Just work on the problems and be happy together. What does it matter how I see it?

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RE: Jealousy - 12/30/2005 7:29:44 AM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: millisande
i was just caught by a negative emotion, and that happens to the best of us sometimes. the problem has been solved.

I doubt that. There are lots of communication/relationship issues going on that even Wolf stated he couldn't begin to bring up here. Situations that cause people to get freaked out over and post online threads to get advice on do not simply "get all better."

The other complications are NOT communication problems. They are problems that I have promised I would not speak to others about. I know the problems, pet knows the problems, and we are working ways around them. That simple.

(if this seems a little assinine, I just woke up.)

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RE: Jealousy - 12/30/2005 9:52:38 AM

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Well I'm certainly not a shrink..(gaw remember shrinky dinks..I loved those)..any ways, you both seemed to have resolved the issue for now as is being told. Thats what counts. It will I suppose become a good learning tool for future useage or just a faded memory.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/30/2005 12:34:09 PM

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But you DID withhold your feelings of jealousy to begin with, which is lying. And had to go through a whole big scene for him to finally get you to be honest.

.... The withholding lasted about 3 minutes, before He convinced me that it was wrong to do not share that information wiht Him... And i didnt do it to 'hide' how i was feeling. i simply realized that i had no right to be jealous, and so tried to squash that feeling on my own, with out bothering Master about it... However He had already noticed.

Also, we have no "relationship issues " that are not caused by outside forces... And those issues are not communication... And the only reason they are not spoken of is that Master has promised othere that He would not speak of them.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/30/2005 5:04:48 PM

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Hi, I have never posted on Forums before and do not even know if I am doing this right or if I should even open my mouth. (I probably shouldn't) but here I go anyway,

I live as a 24/7 slave for last two years and everytime my owner had another come over was the only time that I really got anyplay. So I started to feel like the only reason why I was getting something was because he wanted to play with another, no matter what they looked like they were better then me.

The reason being he would say was "Because they didn't give them a attitude:" Well hell, if I walked in the door and got naked and on my knee's and in five minutes got naked and could call myself a slave I wouldn't have a attitude either".

Point being that I had to work so very hard to get the little play that I got and all they had to do was show up. Of course even as a slave we are still woman with feelings and jealousy.

Thank you I hope I didn't offend anyone.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/31/2005 9:49:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: spoiledbrat

Hi, I have never posted on Forums before and do not even know if I am doing this right or if I should even open my mouth. (I probably shouldn't) but here I go anyway,

I live as a 24/7 slave for last two years and everytime my owner had another come over was the only time that I really got anyplay. So I started to feel like the only reason why I was getting something was because he wanted to play with another, no matter what they looked like they were better then me.

The reason being he would say was "Because they didn't give them a attitude:" Well hell, if I walked in the door and got naked and on my knee's and in five minutes got naked and could call myself a slave I wouldn't have a attitude either".

Point being that I had to work so very hard to get the little play that I got and all they had to do was show up. Of course even as a slave we are still woman with feelings and jealousy.

Thank you I hope I didn't offend anyone.

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autumn
spoiled brat

The pet has no problem getting play from me.

That is not a problem.

However, I do see your point.

If that was the case, she would have more problems then just the jealousy that she showed.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/31/2005 12:06:44 PM

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miti feels your pain, brat. you and your Master obviously have some very deep issues occuring here.

miti loves starshineowned's quote from a different thread...

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if at any point Master no longer looks at me and a slave is not reflected back to Him be it due to some change in Him or in me..that after much discussion to ensure that is what has occurred?..release be begged for.

Bless be, girl

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RE: Jealousy - 12/31/2005 5:29:00 PM

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Agreed, miti.

brat, it seems that your Master is tired of you, at least from the little information you gave.

Perhaps speak to him about this?

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RE: Jealousy - 12/31/2005 6:50:25 PM

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well this girl's Master now has given her a sister slave and she will be coming to us in March. i am so happy. i guess the jeliousy with us females are mainly only about the what if thoughts...such as if treated differently. Master has treated us the same and i am thankful for that. so i can say no i have not had those feelings with my sister. but Master also said that he would get us both with the crop if we misbehaved and did not get along and work things out....blushes.
Master lays down the rules and we follow. but the answer to your question is no not this slave.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/1/2006 6:27:22 PM

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Congratulations, It is so very nice to hear that your owner treats you both the same. My previous owner didn't think the word Fair existed in the English languge. My own fault for getting stuck in a situation before I was ready to.

I am however very happy for you and your new sister, may the two of you enjoy your owner in the ways that you all should.

Happy New Year and Congrutalation

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RE: Jealousy - 1/1/2006 6:30:38 PM

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Thank you very much,

It wouldn't of been so bad if it was a differen't girl all the time. Or it wouldn't of been so bad that they only had to show up to get the play meanwhile I had to jump thru every hoop over and over and once thru the hoop another hoop was put in place. It just got to be a very never ending supply of hoops.

Needless to say the last hoop came on christmas when I went to do laundry in the garage and found a girl hanging there while I was stuck cleaning.

OH well, now that I am gone I wonder who the next sucker will be......

Happy New Year all
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RE: Jealousy - 1/2/2006 5:18:11 AM

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One of the most fulfilling poly situations I know has a rule- no one gets to use her pillow. A chick can sleep over, use the shower, fuck her husband, do whatever they want, sleep in bed, but do NOT use her pillow. Irrational? Absolutely. But it's HER irrationality and what they need to be secure with eachother.

That is so "right on" LA. My Master's Head Bitch (they both have met you) will not allow anyone on her side of the bed. If I am over, I sleep on Master's left side; she has exclusive rights to his right side. If I am sleeping over and she is out of town, I will only sleep on his left and her spot will not be used.

Irrational? Not for her; and it is her right to call the shots in the marital bed.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/2/2006 5:22:19 AM

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Well hell, if I walked in the door and got naked and on my knee's and in five minutes got naked and could call myself a slave I wouldn't have a attitude either".

Then you ought to try just that. I bet your life will get a lot better if you open your mouth to receive Master's cock instead of being a bitch about everything. I know mine has.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/2/2006 8:44:49 AM

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sighs at autumn...miti is unsurprised. miti hugs you tightly and whispers, *not All are this way*

He appears quite immature and uncouth, with no Mastery of Himself or others. it is easy to "play", anyOne in the world can do that. it is much harder to maintain that, which One seeks.

do not wonder who His next "sucker" will be, for there will likely be a long line of them.

hugs brat fiercely and skips off to check on Masters needs....

~miti

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RE: Jealousy - 1/2/2006 10:00:48 PM

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Thanks for the hugs Miti

Hugs to you back

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RE: Jealousy - 1/2/2006 10:03:30 PM

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Only problem I never got to walk in the door. LOl

You have to be outside to walk in and that didn't happen.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/3/2006 12:13:55 AM

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Then you ought to try just that. I bet your life will get a lot better if you open your mouth to receive Master's cock instead of being a bitch about everything. I know mine has.

Whooh. gbgirl, you got my attention and I admire your attitude. (salivating)

However, from other threads, I understand spoiled brat has a situation on her hands that is troubling her, so that bears consideration.

Now, 'baring consideration', gbgirl, you were saying…?

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