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ORIGINAL: MadameDahlia

Oh, one more for now... Don't tell a woman you'll relocate in your first... second... or even third email - (unless she asks!!).

It's kind of creepy.

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

veronica makes again a very valid and strong point about relocation---I see it in so many profiles, yet when it gets to brass tacks, thouhgt has not been give at all to the ramifications of moving and uprooting--and I wil tell you if I get to that point with someone, I'm looking for a background check--

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ORIGINAL: EasyE

I was just wondering if any mistresses had any sugestions for male subs contacting and finding you. Of course the obvious is to read the profile but there must be so much more....

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

that's like going up to a total stranger and saying "I love you, let's get married" wierd

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

that's like going up to a total stranger and saying "I love you, let's get married" wierd

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That worked on me.
Tasha

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ORIGINAL: funboytoy

Hey.

I've only contacted a few mistresses because I am looking for someone within an hour or so distance. I have followed all of these guidelines. In fact my first emails are usually just asking what the mistress expects. I have ALWAYS gotten a reply like -- money or $$$$.

Do I just ignore these? It's like, of course money gets involved -- I'm even into financial domination -- but it just seems like the girls are rude, or fake.

Should I just move on?

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I've only contacted a few mistresses because I am looking for someone within an hour or so distance. I have followed all of these guidelines. In fact my first emails are usually just asking what the mistress expects. I have ALWAYS gotten a reply like -- money or $$$$.

Do I just ignore these? It's like, of course money gets involved -- I'm even into financial domination -- but it just seems like the girls are rude, or fake.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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That worked on me.
Tasha

Is that when you got the Tart part to your name?
I'm kidding; I'm a romantic fool too. M

No, "tart" came after I was on my own.

And I wasn't *quite* that easy, but it was close. Unfortunately, we spent a lot of years, for various reasons, not quite working out...really should use the big head for thinking...ooops.

Tasha

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

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ORIGINAL: EasyE
I was just wondering if any mistresses had any sugestions for male subs contacting and finding you. Of course the obvious is to read the profile but there must be so much more....

1. Persevere.
2. Persevere.
3. Persevere.

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ORIGINAL: MadameDahlia

You are right. The first thing is to read her profile.

* The second is to make sure you have a REASON to contact her. If she's in Ohio and only wants local people to contact her intent to be her submissive... don't bug her. She's made it clear that she wants someone from within her own state. Likewise if she has any other things she considers necessary don't contact her if you do not meet her criteria (unless it is merely to offer a compliment or kind word).

* Third, don't become a pain in the ass. Don't write repeated messages in the span of an hour. Don't send her the same message twelve times. And don't get huffy or bitchy when she doesn't answer you immediately. There are probably dozens of others who are all trying to talk to her at the same time.

* Fourth, do not send spam mail - mail that you're sending to every other creature with two legs and breasts. Such things lack a personal touch, and most of the time it shows. It's annoying to a great number of women (however some won't care nearly as much).

* Be sure to ask a woman what she wants to be called in your first email to her. Mistress, Goddess, Lady... Your Majesty... it doesn't matter. It's up to you to decide if you keep talking to them after they've given you the title they respond best to. You can typically start off with Miss or Ma'am without too many feathers flying. Some people are really touchy about that though. Not everyone likes the term "(fill in the blank)" but others will love it.

* Sixth, (and one I find especially important) spell check... make sure you've got proper grammar. Would you turn in a paper to a professor filled with errors? Or perhaps something to a potential boss - littered with typos? I don't understand why people put their best foot forward in those situations... but have no desire to make themselves understood clearly and concisely when writing to someone they want to get to know.

* Seventh, don't resort to insults if you recieve a "no thanks" type of reply. If you asked a woman out for a drink in a bar or pub and she turned you down would you start a scene and scream all sorts of nasty things in a public place? Just because you've had your ego brushed aside don't explode and splatter your wrath all over her. It isn't fair or proper. You're allowed to pick who you want to contact... but she's not allowed to decide who she wants to talk to? What a load of B.S.... don't be one of these types.

That's all I can think of at the moment. I'm sure there are one hundred and one other helpful things that ought to be passed on... but perhaps others will contribute to this thread.

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ORIGINAL: funboytoy

Hey.

I've only contacted a few mistresses because I am looking for someone within an hour or so distance. I have followed all of these guidelines. In fact my first emails are usually just asking what the mistress expects. I have ALWAYS gotten a reply like -- money or $$$$.

Do I just ignore these? It's like, of course money gets involved -- I'm even into financial domination -- but it just seems like the girls are rude, or fake.

Should I just move on?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Not a real reply to any one post but something that has happened along the original lines of this thread.

I had someone contact me (again) saying he wants a chance to be my slave.

I explain my process of getting to know someone and learning if the potential is there on both sides. I ask him a question (content not relevant) and he replies in a few words.

I explain again that this is a process of getting to know him and ask another question -- again a few words back.

So I write one final time and tell him that he is not giving me enough to encourage me to continue asking questions... we certainly weren't talking.

So my advice is that if you contact someone who says (as I do) this is how I want to get to know you, follow that process. Write back in multiple sentences, ask your own questions, in short, treat this as you would a friendly conversation with someone you meet at a munch or if that feels "too unsceney" to you treat it as a job interview and show you are qualified.

Doesn't mean that the potential will be there but at least you have a shot then.

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Be patient, it isn't going to happen over-night.