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Maybe it's your approach? I read your profile, and yes, while I too was a bit turned off by your self proclaimed advantages in life, there was really nothing there to catch my attention...nothing that said...'hey, this one's a winner'. And quite honestly, if you approach these women with the same attitude that you just expressed here......well, I would not be in a hurry to further any communication either.
/shrug
But that's just me.

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You have to understand though, relationships are not like buying cars...you just can not walk in and say 'ok, I like this one but I want it this color, this style, with these add-on's'. It takes time to find the one that is right for you. And just because you see someone that interests you, does not mean that YOU interest her.

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Hello, I found you ad and find you very attractive, etc, and I think we might be a good match, etc, see my profile and I'll be looking forward to hearing from you.

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i'm afraid i agree with Irish Mist; Your claims to being an expert and having advantages, especially financial, are not appealing; nor is Your targeted age group (mid to late 40's is only 5 years). i saw nothing that told me You were kind, compassionate, had integrity, or shared any of my other core values. You probably do, but You aren't putting any emphasis on it.

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

Most of those off the wall responses come from people you probably wouldn't want to know anyway. I get them occasionally too... one word emails, one liners, strange remarks, etc. Chalk that up to the internet, it comes with the territory.

Then there are those who are brushing you off. She lived 30 min away in the same city and said you were too far away... in other words, she wasn't interested in you.

Okay, now a bit of advice. Think less about yourself and what you want and give some thought to what the kind of lady you want to attract might want. I took a moment to look at your profile and here's a few things I saw about it that might be problems. First, you focus on appearance too much. In a short profile you made six different references to what you expect in her appearance. My guess is that's putting a lot of women off and making you seem superficial. One brief statement that you would like someone healthy, attractive and stylish is enough (once you get some talking with you, you can look at photos and sort through who is stylish and who isn't... right now you want to get someone nibbling at the line but you're using the wrong lures). On the other hand you made a very brief statement that you have had a lot of interesting experiences in your life... but you never say what these were, you missed a golden selling point there. Try talking about that, what things have you done that others might find interesting. Have you travelled? Done anything exciting? Any accomplishments you're proud of? Those kinds of things can all become points of interest for any lady who sees your profile, things to peek her curiosity and start a conversation with. Use the journal feature to add more from time to time, maybe take one of those interesting experiences a week and write about it in the journal... did you have a great expereince snorkeling someplace... write about it. You want to make yourself as approachable as possible. Here's another tip, a lot of women have trouble making first contact (and generally the older they are the more trouble they have with it), so the more you do to make yourself approachable, easy to talk to, and interesting, the better your odds of being approached. Talk more about what you have to offer, but don't mention money. You don't need a Anna Nicole in your life. What I mean about what you have to offer... things like stability, a nice home (not expensive, not how much it costs, not square footage... but nice, comfortable, nice neighborhood, some place relaxing... those things matter to women), someone who is dependable, reliable, sane, healthy, etc. You want to present yourself as someone interesting, someone who has interesting things to say (someone she could enjoy just sitting and listening too, say over dinner or snuggled up in front of a crackling fire), someone who likes to do interesting things. In short, think about the kind of person you are trying to attract, think what aspects of who you are would appeal to that kind of lady. Be 100% honest about who you are, faults and flaws included, because you also want to attract someone who likes you for just who you are... not someone you aren't.

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Foxer55


Kind, compassionate, and integrity are all subjective, self-proclaimed, and relative. Self-stated core values are nothing other than a sales pitch and believing the sales pitch could be YOUR error. I could say I'm the hottest lover on the planet but its meaningless. What I can say that will be obvious to anyone I MEET is I have material advantages that demonstrate I haven't misrepresented anything. Their judgement of my kindness, compassion, and integrity can only be gauged by observing me personally. That cannot happen remotely.

Foxer

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Ahh yes, material advantages, so they will notice the cut of the cloth, the shine of the Rolex--of course--yes material advantages that were we to have a catastrophe would definitely be sure to put you at the head of the bread line---now let's see how many "advantaged people" were destroyed in Katrina and Rita---hmmm easy come and easy go--material advantages mean nothing to Me when it comes to one's ability to care for a submissive/slave--one could be advantaged and be a sadistic abuser--I'm not impressed and quite frankly after reading your profile, the only one who fits would be Princess Diana--and she wasn't very submissive was she? What you seek is what we used to call a trophy--not everyone will fall at those feet---

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women's personals....... HA!

I know my post is off topic a lil, but I am just wondering if anyone else notices….

the warm an fuzzy vanilla personals sites drive me to drink. lol
The women all say, "love to hold ands and walk the beach, I'm down to earth, height and weight proportionate" I'm sure the men's are even worse.

First, Down to Earth - wtf - is there any bigger cliché that is more meaningless ? but they all say it like it's some attraction ~~~ gags LOL

Height and weight proportionate - Translation- I resemble the proportions of a bowling ball. LOL. When I become king of the web site profiles, all women would list their dress size and there would be a required verification service ! (now your really laughing... of mad and yelling at me like I'm behind the screen... :) ...)

When I go to the beach I never see people holding hands and walking the shoreline. Mostly I see geriatric blue hairs with baggy skin that waives in the breeze as they try not to lose their balance without their walker. where are all the romantics that are holding hands I never see any....