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KneelB4You -> RE: Cuckolding (2/2/2006 9:56:38 PM)
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This is interesting. There are currently 694 female profiles (hey, I had time on my hands) on CM listing Cuckolding as an interest at some level. Yet nearly every response on this thread from a woman seems to fit into one of two bins:
1) That's an interesting moon rock you've brought in today Timmy. Where did you say it came from?
2) I would sooner drop my man into a vat of sulfuric acid. Who would *do* such a thing to someone they love?
I think it is something people are either into fiercely - even obsessively - or it is completely foreign to them. I gather it's also taboo enough - even in this community - that some women might be reticent to express their interest or curiosity, for fear of a judgmental response (though I fully believe and respect the negative female responses here - we're not talking about "light spanking" after all).
For me it has been an enduring, unshakeable fantasy since my early 20s (I'm 42). It sort of demarked the plateau (or nadir, depending on how you look at it!) in the progression of my submissive thoughts and tastes. So what is the draw? Well... while I can sincerely second the offerings above of "wanting to see her as happy and fulfilled as possible", to be completely honest that's not the fuel that the primary rocket engine runs on. For me that would be the combination of watching her on a decadent, unapologetic power trip ("knowing he can't, but *I* can, and whenever I feel like it"), and the complementary feeling in me of sudden, utter, powerlessness. When I think on it, the best analogy that comes to mind is a sense of total "free fall", through nothingness, for as long as it is going on. Like one of those dreams where you aren't sure what will happen when you hit the ground, or if you actually will.
At least, that's what I feel when I think about it. I've never done this, all out at least. :) But I've gotten close enough to know that it is a mighty powerful force to play with (read: danger).
Humiliation and service (of her, and possibly him) figure in there too, but then those are forms of submission, and someone covered them above I think.
Where does it all come from? I've heard all types of theories, from Freudian to Darwinian and everything in between. The psychoanalytic and evolutionary explanations both have a ring of truth to me. In a nutshell, the former is that the cuckold yearning is a re-creation of the "safe" feeling of childhood, when mom was right there for you, but meanwhile this powerful male (dad) kept taking her behind closed doors and ravishing her (not very flattering to discuss this "mom" angle, but hey, I'm sure it's there). The latter basically is that throughout the development of our species, a tribe flourished by having "alpha" males with superior genes and all that sorta stuff inseminate the females, while the beta/subordinate ones played other roles like nurturing and other forms of social lubrication (ahem). Things wouldn't "work" for the tribe (and nobody's genes would survive), if the beta males didn't evolve some mechanism that kept them raptly interested in this place in the order - so over eons their genes stumbled on a tendency to get turned on by the desireable females getting mounted by the alphas (sorry to wax so romantic here).
I don't find the angle of it being "an expression of latent homosexuality" mutually exclusive with either of the above storylines, and I think that likely there's not an either/or answer. But I also don't believe hetero/homosexuality is the sharply dichotomous and discrete collection of boxes that people often want to treat them as. There are threads relating to both running through the various drives that accompany us through our day. How much unconscious "homosexual" drive, for example, is present in a straight woman employee wanting badly to please her female boss? Probably at least a drop, I'd argue. Not that I can prove it in court.
There are a number of forums on the web dedicated to the subject - the best-run for years was on adultcommunitiesonline.com, until a hacker suddenly demolished it two weeks ago. Plenty of yahoo groups for different flavors and geographic localities (but generally spotty worth), if you're really curious.
Yow. For a first post on this forum that was a tome. Sorry if it made it hard for people to scroll past who were following someone else's discussion. I get wordy when I'm tired.
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