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RE: is it impossible to find mistress - 11/23/2005 11:09:44 AM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: submissivemale76

well go away you all ladies stink i am not sub anymore ...thats not the way one should be treated .. i am not gonna post on this forum anymore ... i am not begging for anything ... i thought it would be a deal both me and anyone intrested in me will enjoy it ... and there is no way to contact anyone without emailing ....and yes thats frustrating tooo..


If this is how you feel, you were never submissive to begin with. You got treated rather nicely, considering how you were treating Dominants that you were contacting. I didn't appreciate the message that you sent to us, and the other on here who posted that you messaged her with that troll-line didn't appreciate it either. If you go back, the reply message that I sent to you was much harsher than anything anyone posted here - treating someone like a life-support system for your own fantasies is NOT what being submissive is about.

And honestly, I'd be willing to bet that the only reason you are all pissy about this is because you found out that we were right - the only people you "caught" with your troll net were not worth catching.

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RE: is it impossible to find mistress - 11/23/2005 1:08:01 PM   
LadySonelle


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ORIGINAL: submissivemale76

well go away you all ladies stink i am not sub anymore ...


All ladies stink? H'mm Is that because they aren't doing it *your* way? In your original post you complain that it's hard to find a mistress. When changes are suggested you angrily reject them.

If such things "turn you off" ov "being a submissive" then you never were one. Not in the real and truest sense of the word.

One of the hallmarks of the mature personality is the willingness not only to consider viewpoints which differ from one's own, but to LeARN from every viewpoint, to consider each one for its own merits. I am a Dominant of 24 years' stanidng and 25 year experience. I listen to everyone, including the newest and most inexperienced persons, Dom/me and sub/slave alike. I have learned a LOT from people. I am still learning and will be until the day My ashes rest in the niche.

To learn, one must submit to being open. Learning is an act of submission to knowledge. if you cannot submit to that, you cannot progress.

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thats not the way one should be treated .. i am not gonna post on this forum anymore ... i am not begging for anything ... i thought it would be a deal both me and anyone intrested in me will enjoy it ...


Then your needs will be better met by a hired Professional Domme who will give you exactly what you want. You do not understand the give-and-take nature of BDSM. You need to understand that submissiveness and "begging" are NOT done from a position of weakness! When a submissive comes to a Dominant in an attitude of submissiveness, it can be the most powerful statement they can make! A true submissive is one of the most powerful beings in the universe! When a submissive lays his or her power at My feet, it is breathtaking! I take the power, place the submissive in a headspace that enables him or her to view the power entrusted to Me, to understand it, and then, after the scene, I take the treasure, the beautiful strength the sub has entrusted to Me, and lay it, glistening and beautiful, back into hir hands, renewed, stronger for the exchange! The sub stands taller, hir head higher, reassured that s/he truly IS a person of wonder, of beauty!

And interestingly enough, that power which I gave back... remains in Me as well! I am taller, My body straighter, My own soul refreshed and renewed. THAT is the inner secret of BDSM, beyond the kneeling, the whips, the bondages, the playi8ng... That is the jewel in the heart of the beast and only the wisest, the bravest, the best can grasp it! it isn't about sex, although sex is a part of it. It isn't about pain, though pain plays a role. It is about power, strength, beauty and giving and receiving. It is about growth. It is about learning EVERY day, every breath.

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and there is no way to contact anyone without emailing ....and yes thats frustrating tooo..


There are ways to connect. Local munches, local activities, or those in cities near you. If you truly do not feel submissive, then this is not the discipline for you, not the craft you need to learn. I will not insult you or be angry with you, for you have your own path to walk. I will, hgowever, say this: You find what you search for. if you are searching for a "gal" or a cheap easy to get your rocks off, that is what you will find. You will rise no higher than you reach toward. The lower levels can be entertaining. If you want more, however, you must reach higher and to do that, you must learn and listen.

I wish you well in your search. Years will bring you more perspective I hope. Take care and be well.

Lady Sonelle


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RE: is it impossible to find mistress - 11/23/2005 4:41:18 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

I can't think of an approach (aside from "Hi, I'm a serial killer; would you like to be next?) more likely to get rejection.


John, you forgot the "All women are rotten lying money grubbing whores & I don't have a Domme" from LAST week :)

After reading all the way through I think this may even be the same guy under another name. Did anyone pick up the angry financial slave vibe too??

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RE: is it impossible to find mistress - 11/24/2005 12:01:38 AM   
Slaveboiz


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Well i can say that it was no walk in the park to find Mistress as a boi seeking a lez Mistress, but then again i took my time and did some work to prepare.... read alot and wrote alot.... discovered first who i was and what i needed..... found community and then found a Mistress.... together now for three years and still learning.... perhaps part of finding her was first discovering me.....

greeting John Warren loved your book... thanks

slave ziggy'
SE slave 2006

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RE: is it impossible to find mistress - 11/24/2005 5:38:26 AM   
JohnWarren


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slaveboiz

Well i can say that it was no walk in the park to find Mistress as a boi seeking a lez Mistress, but then again i took my time and did some work to prepare.... read alot and wrote alot.... discovered first who i was and what i needed..... found community and then found a Mistress.... together now for three years and still learning.... perhaps part of finding her was first discovering me.....

greeting John Warren loved your book... thanks

slave ziggy'
SE slave 2006


Congratulations in sticking to it. May you two have many more happy years.



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