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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 12:04:50 PM

Cloudz

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

it is THIS kind of posting "I" am having difficulty with.

it SEEM in MY eyes.....

there is far far TOO much b.s. on fetish and sex and fantasy.

"I" look for........REAL life as a sub/slave fixing the clothes dryer like "I" have done........digging up the septic tanks..........as "I" have done. dishes, laundry, holy hell anything everything in REAL life.......

i realize too many NEW people are seeking stuff for play and protocols...etc.........
but WHERE are the training sites for telling subs/slaves HOW to do actual REAL life things??????

i find it SO absurd that "I" am the only one that has asked this Q since 2000 a.d.

good luck and take care everyone.

Interesting, Perhaps you should start a post on how to fix clothes dryers and clean out dig out septic tanks...but that would belong in a different forum...or perhaps you could post a question asking for the specific things you seek...learning to tile or a floor or plumb a bathroom?

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 12:14:51 PM

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Thanks to everyone who responded to my post. I appreciate that so many took the time to give me their advice and view.

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 1:16:56 PM

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i find it SO absurd that "I" am the only one that has asked this Q since 2000 a.d.

good luck and take care everyone.

Wow, what a head trip you're on. How do you think someone came up with answers if they never asked themselves the same question you did.
Like they tell you in ET "You are not alone".

I'd also like to say Home Depot sells books on all types of home repairs. In addition to being a good store to buy kinky toys they have a wealth of information for a handy slave to find answers they seek.

I think you need to relax and stop feeling like you're the only one who works hard and pleases their Master in non-sexual capacities.
Maybe you should read slavecraft or Mrs Abernathy's Consice Slave Training Manuel. They may help you with the hostility you seem to have about doing chores.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 1:35:38 PM

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well this can be a hard one sweets.. Master is kind and tolarant.. but very demanding..
but not unreasonable. It depends if your looking for a real true Master for Long term or just the evening. Seems if its the later you need to team up with a Female Dom who will act as your trainer. If its the real deal.. adn hunny the is no substitute..*^*.. then you need to seek someone who is mature enough in who or what A MASTER is and ISN"T.. he or she will giude you and lead you thru what are my limits..its trial and error... what does he/she want... it grows and changes with time too...

this is not a lark.. if its a game only then find a RPG group who plays at D/s.
Unfortunatley there are more wanna bes out there than tru DOMS.

i can only tell you my story.. when i submit to my Master( now hubby x 5 y) i am at peace and have the greatest control than at any other moment ... sounds contradictory..*lol*
but the greatest control a sub exerts is the power she has when she gives without fear, question or delay. THis can be in the bedroom, at the table while dealing with the kids, during difficult finances... even at church. THis is not all sex... thou that is great too!!

GOod luck on your path and I hope i said something that was useful on your path

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 1:52:04 PM

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If possible find a local club -- a bonus would be if they have a mentoring program. These programs usually allow someone to experience something "outside" of a scene. If you have never felt a flogger, it is a safe introduction, etc ..

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 2:48:40 PM

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what i could suggest here is to visit some awesome bdsm sites that have a mountain of info to learn from, in the begining it is always dark ...my mistake was to rush into seeking a Master before learning more about myself in the bdsm lifestyle. i'd be happy to send you some bdsm links if you care to inquire ...good luck on your journey. =)

Would it be possible if you could send me those links please

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 2:51:06 PM

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Oops i did that one wrong...lol havent got the hang of this yet.

Dracironsgirl, you said you had some links, is it possible you could send me those links
Thanks

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RE: Learning to Sub - 11/22/2005 2:54:33 PM

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but the greatest control a sub exerts is the power she has when she gives without fear, question or delay.
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now THERE is one trick THIS old man aint learned...T R U S T!
i have no fears but i damn well keep myself bottled up unattached...i take NO chances on anyone because i have YET to meet one person that did not have an ulterior motive of thier own. no one has done anything for me w/o wanting something FIRST!

good luck to anyone everyone..."I" question everything from when i open my eyes to when i close them at night...nothing gets past me.
i damn well delay because there are far too many times that some things make NO logical rational sense...

but hey.............it IS just MY way too.

< Message edited by veronicaofML -- 11/22/2005 2:55:21 PM >

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