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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/15/2005 7:35:19 AM

redheadedfire4u

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We're very similar. We view polyamorous as equilateral multiple comitted relationships. Meaning everyone is involved. In the case of Dominants that have multiple submissives that are not involved emotionally with each other, I tend to view as a harem rather than polyamorous.

This works for me ... it is how I think ... W/we each have a connection, both physically and emotionally with the other 2 ... it is nice
warm smiles to all

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/22/2005 5:22:37 PM

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For me love is uncoditional, relationships are certainly not.
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i am not doubting your word........honestly..........but! i'll be damned if "I" ever found 1 person on this planet that said love is unconditional coz it all centers on $$...the more ya got the longer she stays..
when the $$ so is she.

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/22/2005 6:04:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

For me love is uncoditional, relationships are certainly not.
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i am not doubting your word........honestly..........but! i'll be damned if "I" ever found 1 person on this planet that said love is unconditional coz it all centers on $$...the more ya got the longer she stays..
when the $$ so is she.

take care

It has been a very long time since I've met someone as bitter, miserable and jaded as you, and it breaks my heart to see it -- so a few words of free, strictly pastoral advice...

Clearly, you are unhappy, miserable, and bitter about your life and the way that it is going. You have the right to walk away, and if it is only money that is holding you in your current life, then clearly, you have the means to change it, simply by withholding the money and investing in something that brings you more pleasure.

On the other hand, if you choose to continue to shell out the money for an obviously unsatisfactory arrangement, then it is crucial that you understand your own part in your misery, and accept that you are self-medicating with your own angst.

I wish you well, and hope that you find healing somewhere.

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/22/2005 6:19:55 PM

LadiesBladewing

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ORIGINAL: redheadedfire4u
This works for me ... it is how I think ... W/we each have a connection, both physically and emotionally with the other 2 ... it is nice
warm smiles to all

This is the ideal for us, as well. Of course, we don't tend to rush things, and believe that "love" is a growth process. That's where discussion, honesty, and commitment to the process of "becoming" -- As Zen as it sounds, whatever we become, together, is exactly what we were supposed to become.

In the process, we learn about one another -- the good, the bad, the ugly, and the things that nobody outside of our family would ever -want- to know about us (all the boring minutae of a lifetime of living, like loving to pick the chocolate coating off the Thin Mint Girl Scout Cookies -- see, I told you you didn't want to know! *grins*)

Are there steps before "love" that are valid and affirming? Well, I guess we think so. We believe strongly in things like commitment, affection, appreciation, and "like". It's worked for us for years, and as the wise men said, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/22/2005 6:22:09 PM

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/22/2005 8:04:01 PM

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i was talking about my vanilla women.......

3 ex wives and all.

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RE: how do you define poly? - 11/23/2005 7:00:05 AM

Larry862

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We're very similar. We view polyamorous as equilateral multiple comitted relationships. Meaning everyone is involved. In the case of Dominants that have multiple submissives that are not involved emotionally with each other, I tend to view as a harem rather than polyamorous.

I tend to agree with the statement above. But it also goes along with not any different than dating several women at the same time. I do feel however that a feeling is developed between the sub and Dom/Master even in a harem type setting. I have always felt an obligation for their safety and well being. That besides our play time together that I was a person they could turn to with personal issues and if nothing else would listen. At times asking questions and giving advice from what I was hearing. One thing to remember when reading my view is that all of my subs were married and were serving me with their husbands approval. Just recently because of various family issues both subs have had over the last year. I find myself without any sub, which is started me searching once again. I find having 2 or 3 subs to allow for more variation in play time.

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