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RE: Submissive/Slave - 10/28/2005 4:28:37 PM

submissivesilk

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i think the difference is what the two people involved make it. Master calls me slave, i have no limits other than His and no choice in what happens. There are probably Doms and subs with the same agreement. i don't think subs are better or worse than slaves or vise versa. i try not to judge anyone in this "lifestyle." There is so much judgement from people outside of it.

Anyway, i guess i got a bit off the subject. i say do what feels best to you, call yourself what you want or what your Owner calls you. As long as it fulfills the need, it's all good.

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 10/30/2005 1:10:52 PM

esclavenico

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Maybe it's just a wording issue. I know the difference as it has been exposed earlier on the thread, but basically those two words stands for so much different realities.

Besides, this is in a way a personal issue: to be dealt with your partner/master/dom. I mean it simply depends on your relationship, how you live it, how you want it to be :-)

Words are just words, what is important in this case is how do you act...

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 10/30/2005 4:22:02 PM

ownedjulia

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quote:

i think the difference is what the two people involved make it. Master calls me slave, i have no limits other than His and no choice in what happens. There are probably Doms and subs with the same agreement. i don't think subs are better or worse than slaves or vise versa. i try not to judge anyone in this "lifestyle." There is so much judgement from people outside of it.

This is the same for me.

i have accepted his role over me as my Master. he orders and i will obey.

as his slave i have no right of veto, i can say 'no' and he (and has) ignorned it. this is his right, the right i have given him.

we have a contract that basically says he orders and i obey.

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/3/2005 5:18:12 PM

slavetobetrained

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hello ..I am seeking to speak with submissives and slaves about the lifestyle and how to deal with sharing and jealously of another and all kinds of issues. anyone who would care to speak to me, tell me about their struggles and how you over came them. I really would like to learn more
please help

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/3/2005 6:34:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavetobetrained

hello ..I am seeking to speak with submissives and slaves about the lifestyle and how to deal with sharing and jealously of another and all kinds of issues. anyone who would care to speak to me, tell me about their struggles and how you over came them. I really would like to learn more
please help

A lot of your questions have already likely been brought up, do a search for it. Check the poly boards for more specific issues on jealousy and sharing.

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/4/2005 2:43:35 AM

pet4mymaster

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it is obvious you are getting a lot of back and forth and "bickering" of the differances between subs and slaves....and while most people are trying to be civil i can see how some posters are pulling claws just slightly(and i mean no disrespect or harm in this statement) but what i am seeing and i am sure you are as well is that the differances are differant for each one of us
i consider myself a submissive even though i have a contract...am owned by Sir...and have given total control to Sir...in my opinion(and really that is all you can get here is individual opinions) i am not a slave because i see myself as an individual human being and (as in Dark Angle's previous post) i feel that to be a slave is to be FORCED into doing what you are told to do.....to me being a submissive is giving yourself to someone WILLINGLY and doing whatever you are able to to please them of your own accord
i do appologize if i have offened anyone with what i have written and as i said this is only my opinion thank you and have a wonderful day

Serving Sir Now and Always~Pet

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/4/2005 10:42:31 AM

submissivesilk

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When i first started looking around the different BDSM sites, i didn't even know there was a difference between a submissive and a slave. i was simply submissive. i agree with your definition pet4master. my Sir just prefers calling me slave, but nothing i do for Him is forced. Perhaps consentual slavery is a good term too.

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/5/2005 7:57:47 AM

KinkyKitten

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thanks everyone, your all so much help xx

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/9/2005 9:03:13 AM

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not to beat a dead horse but .... there are difference in my mind anyway . a submissive chooses how much she is ready to give to her Dom/Master ... slave gives everything mind body and soul to her Master .... now heres a question I pose to you everyone ... can a sub truely learn to be a slave or is it that she just chooses to give to her Dom everything out of love and trust for him ....

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/9/2005 10:13:22 AM

ImpGrrl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

not to beat a dead horse but .... there are difference in my mind anyway . a submissive chooses how much she is ready to give to her Dom/Master ... slave gives everything mind body and soul to her Master .... now heres a question I pose to you everyone ... can a sub truely learn to be a slave or is it that she just chooses to give to her Dom everything out of love and trust for him ....

They both choose. Everyone chooses - and they continue to choose, every moment that they are in the relationship. These are consensual relationships.

The difference between submissive and slave? It's what each person, in each relationship, makes of it.

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RE: Submissive/Slave - 11/9/2005 1:15:30 PM

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Greetings..~smiles~

It can certainly be mind boggling at times..lol

I am a dominant slave. I submitted to my Masters grand design for us, and I obediantly carry out those requests to make that a reality as He see's fit.

starshine
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