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TexasMaam -> RE: Letting a long time sub go (10/25/2005 12:45:09 PM)
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Incompatibility.
While My subs needs and wishes remain paramount for both short term sessions and long term sustainability, (see previous threads re: Doms conforming to subs wishes), at some point in any relationship I ask Myself if My needs are truly being met. If and when the answer is no, it's time to re-evaluate priorities.
I strive to meet My subs needs, wants, desires, secret longings, but I refuse to do so at the cost of My own fulfillment. A submissive has to demonstrate a sincere desire to meet My needs on a daily basis. I may forego My own needs if and when I choose to do so, but the sub's desire to please must be there above all else.
Sometimes it becomes evident at the outset; sometimes it takes 18 months, 2 years or longer for that to become apparrent. My personal opinion is that this is due to behavior being skewed towards that 'best behavior' at the outset phenomenon; it's simply more prevalent in BDSM relationships because of WIITWD.
Finding, or KEEPING a partner who is compatible with My lifestyle is difficult enough, even in vanilla relationships. Finding that "one" who fits all of those niches as well as a one who is a good match (notice I say 'good match' not perfect match!) with regard to BDSM interests is even more challenging. It takes time.
If a sub's innate desire to please Me every day is not an integral part of any relationship I'm engaged in, that relationship will ultimately be short lived.
TexasMaam
P.S. "W alterR ego" is a pretty kewl nic....[;)]
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