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RE: The your not my Dom syndrome - 11/30/2005 8:32:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: ModeratorTen

Thread isn't progressing and you should all be ashamed of yourselves for breaking TOS and guidelines.

I appologized, and i still do.
And will stay off the forum...

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RE: The your not my Dom syndrome - 11/30/2005 10:31:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: angaothsi

Because of all the blathering about the name, on the link from his profile he has his name listed there so what is the issue? Apparently it isn't all that top secret.

You cannot have a link in your profile here on collarme.com You cannot send some links in private emails here, so I'm not sure what your talking about. However, you can have them in posts it seems.
Tony

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RE: The your not my Dom syndrome - 12/1/2005 7:10:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
G'day Tony,
mate you really need to find a scuba buddy (female, nubile and a sex maniac) and both of you go scuba diving nakid. The sex is great under water but somewhat differenmt. deffinately an experience I'd reccomend.

G'day Iron Bear,
I've played a bit with sex and water a few time ;-) Yummy. Never with scuba though. Damn now I have a new thing to try out. heh...
Poor me huh? And since fawn is not a big fan of swimming I guess I'll have to look for a girl that would love it too. Oh whoa is me...
OK if you ever get to Manitoba, Canada Iron Bear I owe ya a brew for the idea
Tony

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RE: The your not my Dom syndrome - 12/1/2005 7:52:25 AM

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“The world moved on…” a quote from The Dark Tower. Times change.

Societies grow and evolve or die out. Sometimes it is a natural growth, due to time and environment, sometimes it is because of outside influences, such as disasters or illnesses. The can also be forced to grow with new technologies. Most of us remember Bill Gates infamous quote about never needing more the 264 K of RAM. How many megs of RAM does the latest virus called Windows need now?

BDSM and it variants MUST grow too. The Internet has changed how we look at the world and how we communicate. It has been said that the leap forward in computers is the equivalent of going from horse and buggy to the super sonic jet in 50 years.

Travel has changed. At one time everyone you knew lived within 10 miles of you. It was rare that a person travelled more then 100 miles from where they were born. Now we can talk to people all over the world, and travel there in hours.
Protocol, rituals and traditions will also change. Emily Post defined the protocol for polite western society.

“To do exactly as your neighbors do is the only sensible rule.”
“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”

Two quotes from Mrs. Post. One almost all of us here violate daily. The other many of us violate often. “…You have good manners no matter what fork you use”. Doesn’t that sum up what many of us have tried to say. Our society has and is changing. What is called common sense in one place is rudeness elsewhere. Flipping the bird in one society with your middle finger does not mean the same thing elsewhere. What one person calls common courtesy is ass kissing elsewhere. There is no one set of rules that govern human interaction. You violate the local customs at your own risk. A woman walking bare faced in the Middle East runs the risk of a beating. Writing graffiti in Singapore can get you caned in public (now don’t all you subbies run there and start spray painting all over). Driving drunk gets you shot in El Salvador.

Different rules and different laws for different places, or as Gene Rodenbury wrote it IDIC, Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations.
If you have found yourself offended because you have not received YOU feel is your due, walk a mile in that person’s moccasins and yes that is the original quote. What have you done to offend them BY THEIR CODES. And talk to them.
No, I’m not saying you have to live by their codes and ethics. But if you do not show theirs respect, why in all the names of all the gods are you expecting them to follow yours?
Manners are a sensitive awareness............
Tony

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RE: The your not my Dom syndrome - 12/2/2005 2:22:57 AM

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one has been looking for this very topic on here and is glad to have found it!
There is a great difference between Courtesy and Respect.
buffy calls Those Who she doesnot know or Who have identify Themselves as 'Dominants', as Sir or Ma'am, unless They have identify Themselves as 'Gorean' (yes one knows Mmany donot like the term but People donot have to like it - it exists as a philosophy anyways). This calling of Dominants as 'Sir' and 'Maam' is not any less than she would do and does, in vanilla so all the more here, in this world of bdsm which means so much more to her than vanilla ever has.
To do so it is, in her mind, only 'courtesy', maybe not 'common' but for her, a necessity for peace of mind.
As to respect..... that is quite a different kettle of fish. Respect One earns and thus receives or does not earn and so never receives. Perhaps the difficulty becomes how to show this giving or not giving of 'respect', through words online vs in person (which is much easier to convey then). Online the words 'Sir' or 'Maam' is use to convey maybe some form of 'respect' rather than of 'courtesy'.
What a pity.
It is not that for buffy, only courtesy. one thinks up other more telling methods to show 'respect' online to Ones who have earn that from her.
one has notice that sometimes Ones will not wish her to call Them Sir or Ma'am and that, she try to remember for Those Ones, not to do. This, is also courtesy.
There are Tthose who apparently get all hot and bother that she call Anyone 'Sir' or 'Maam', and to Tthose buffy would say thank Yyous and she will, until the day she is collared, decide on this sort of thing for herself.
Now, for Those who have have shown that They have little if any, respect/regard, for the opinions/welfare of Aanyone save Themselves (and buffy has met a few of those sort).... buffy has not any courtesy, let alone respect, for those. she avoid them like the plague and has nothing to do with them.

Now she can say.....
with respect (respect being to the Lifestyle Wwe say Wwe part of),.....
this is buffy

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