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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 8:14:28 AM

LordODiscipline

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Everyone conforms to some extent to their partners... that is inexcapable.

Adaptation is a natural occurence and health from a relational and psychological perspective for long term maintenance and for personal growth (it is one of the ways in which we mature)

However, having seen you ask this in many different ways, I believe that the question you are asking is:

"Have you compromised your personal ethos/aspects of your personality in order to secure or maintain a relationship?"

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 11:03:38 AM

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Thank you LOD thats exactly the point

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 11:10:04 AM

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quote:

"Have you compromised your personal ethos/aspects of your personality in order to secure or maintain a relationship?"

LOD -
A MUCH clearer, and I'd say easier question, to ponder. I compromised my personal ethos and many aspects of myself UNTIL I found and entered a relationship with my slave. Since then, the only compromising factor has been having to leave to go to work instead of being with her all the time. It's against my preference and wishes to be separated, but it's needed in order to continue to afford toys; not to mention food, clothing, and residence.

< Message edited by Mercnbeth -- 10/31/2005 3:34:35 PM >

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 3:24:14 PM

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i doubt there is even one man who has contacted me who has not listed on his profile something i would never do; once informed of this (1st or 2nd response); they all say "i just added that to pique interest; i don't need it". i find this statement believable from all apart from the dyed-in-the-wool sadists who tell me they'll give up s/m for me; yeah, right.

As for the men who write me, i think Desert Rat said it best: "values above kinks".

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 7:50:04 PM

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As soon as you start trying to behave in what you percieve as an accepted manner, you are dead in the water. Try just being yourself. It is possible that who you are is not a Dom by the way, and pretending will not change that.
I have always been who I am regardless of who I am dealing with. I couldn't care less if I seem Domly or not. I know who I am and would never pretend to be anything else just to impress a sub, or anyone else for that matter.

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 10/31/2005 8:34:57 PM

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quote:

"Have you compromised your personal /aspects of your personality in order to secure or maintain a relationship?"

I had in the past. But i do not/will not any longer. Here i am, what you see or read is what you get. i am so not perfect, but i am proud of myself and my integrity. i don't play games, i am trustworthy and loyal. i would never intentionaly hurt another, i wont say something if i dont mean it. i do not promise unless i intend to keep it

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 11/1/2005 12:39:28 AM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline

"Have you compromised your personal ethos/aspects of your personality in order to secure or maintain a relationship?"

~J

Never had, never will.
Costed me some of relationships, but I dont think they were valuable enough for maintaining anyway, not on those conditions. Either you accept me the way I am either you go find someone else.
In fact, that is something that can truly piss me off and convince me of breaking any relationship - if someone wants me to be not what I am but what he thinks I may be. I dont change - ever.

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RE: Are Doms Conforming - 11/2/2005 4:50:27 PM

LordODiscipline

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Pink -

I am contacting you - and, I do not believe you will find anything on my profile which you would not do.

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