LadyAngelika
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Joined: 7/4/2004 From: Montréal - Canada Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: SherriA I don't participate in relationships that have a punishment dynamic. It's not a healthy place for me to be; I'm an adult and expect to be treated as such in my relationships. . . This, of course, isn't applicable to "play punishment" (which isn't punishment at all really). I agree with you on this SherriA (and by the same token, I respect others that chose to live out their dynamics how they see fit). I look for adult male & female partners that have their life together and who want to have some kinky fun. I do not have the time or the energy to be in control of someone’s life, the way a parent would be. I liked what Taggard had to say about positive and negative reinforcement. Very Skinnerian! But to me this is all within a play dynamic, and not an everyday life dynamic. I’ll give you an example. I had a boy get down on all fours and I put a glass of water in a heavy tumbler on his lower back, by his coccyx. He then had to walk down the hall with the glass of water, without spilling it. If he did, he received a punishment. The distance left to cover determined how severe the punishment would be. After about three months (we saw each other on a weekly basis), he finally made it to the end of the hall. He claims that this exercise taught him something about concentration that he can apply to everyday life. That was a nice side effect ;) - LA
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