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ORIGINAL: Kasia

If I dont have sex with orgasms regulary I turn into arguing bitch. But thats me.
If you are happy without orgasms who am I to judge you? I may internally think its ok or not ok, but I am happy as long as you are happy. And I am never shocked, I may be disgusted with something but never shocked.
I think I have seen too much in my life to be shocked with anything anymore. In fact I find being shocked and showing it equals being rude.

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ORIGINAL: JustaTop

Evanesnce,I am used to this by now in this "'community". The self centered and generally hedonsitic attitudes encourage it.

They hear what they want to hear,and adore creating drama. Lives would be horribly boring without something to be offended by. Let me put it this way, for anyone choosing to be offended by something I have to say in the future-if I didn't say your name-I wasn't discussing YOU.

Get over yourselves,you aren't as important as you think you are.

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Now hold on there, cowboy. You've been here all of two weeks and are already prepared to typecast everyone on this site?

Why don't you take a breath of fresh air, put on some thicker skin (commensurate with the controversial things you like to say), remember that this is the anonymous internet, and stay here if you enjoy participating--or not, if you don't.

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ORIGINAL: JustaTop

Evanesnce,I am used to this by now in this "'community". The self centered and generally hedonsitic attitudes encourage it.

They hear what they want to hear,and adore creating drama. Lives would be horribly boring without something to be offended by. Let me put it this way, for anyone choosing to be offended by something I have to say in the future-if I didn't say your name-I wasn't discussing YOU.

Get over yourselves,you aren't as important as you think you are.

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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

I am guilty of being a bit orgasm-obsessed. But not my own - his. Although I cognitively am aware that orgasm may or may not be that important (depending in the indivdual) and that that is not the focus (or even a part) of play, I still fret over it from an an emotional standpoint. I think it is a measurable concrete way of feeling like you did a "good job." I was married to a man for 13 years that I could make orgasm quickly and frequently, so the change is hard for me to cope with and still feel everone is fully satisfied with the experience.

Yeah yeah. I am working on it.

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was taught and is one of the most powerfull is to orgasm internally. The energy release is not blown into the æther about you but remains inside. It is a mind blowing experience

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ORIGINAL: CaliforniaSlave

Does anyone know a male slave who's given up orgasm forever, the rest of his life?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: Kasia

If I dont have sex with orgasms regulary I turn into arguing bitch. But thats me.
If you are happy without orgasms who am I to judge you? I may internally think its ok or not ok, but I am happy as long as you are happy. And I am never shocked, I may be disgusted with something but never shocked.
I think I have seen too much in my life to be shocked with anything anymore. In fact I find being shocked and showing it equals being rude.

This said it was in reply to me but I actually always orgasm, usually multiple times, when I have sex.

I just don't focus on it and it comes much more easily and happily. I didn't intend for the post to suggest otherwise.

The key for me is to relax.

I am the mistress, afterall, and it is (at least in my relationships) all about me especially if its involving sex

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I've always been highly amused when I hear people talking in lowered voices and in a state of shock about others not having orgasms. Orgasms are great when and if they occure. Personally, it's like penetration, it is the icing on the cake and nothing more. from a diabetic view too much icing is not good. However for more years than I care to remember, I've practiced as part of my Pagan Faith, sex magick in a wide variety of ways including kundalina and other tantric practices. One of the earliest techniques I was taught and is one of the most powerfull is to orgasm internally. The energy release is not blown into the æther about you but remains inside. It is a mind blowing experience and according to my partnets it is extraordinary for them too. Outside the Lifestyle, I get more fun out of pleasing a partrner and bringing her not just to orgasm, but to submission. If I use penetrative sex it's just for my fun after but really not very important, I have what I want - a woman on her knees, nakid and willing to do my bidding.

IronBear