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RE: Chat requests? - 10/19/2005 8:31:56 PM

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thats a pretty pathetic reply.Thats how you get to know someone is by chat.What would be wrong about talking on phone to a stranger?,Unless you are scared of your own shadow its not a big deal

What's wrong with someone sending a note and talking in those notes for a while?

I think if one wants to impress a potential partner one should do what he or she can to approach them in the best manner possible.

Not all of us have hours and hours to be online chatting away to strangers. We must manage our time and finding out more about someone before accepting a chat is one way to do that. Exchanging notes also allows for communication when you don't have lots of time to be online "chatting".

If I can't see someone I feel very little toward or about them online. I find it highly awkward to try and "chat" with said unknown person even moreso. In person I have body language and tone of voice -- here, nothing really until you exchange a lot of words.

If chatting is your preferred way to communicate, good luck with that but is certainly not mine.

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RE: Chat requests? - 10/19/2005 8:40:19 PM

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...What would be wrong about talking on phone to a stranger?,Unless you are scared of your own shadow its not a big deal

For me, talking to a complete stranger, lifestyle or not, has all the charm of making small talk at a wedding reception.

You have to make me *want* to talk to you (generic "you") before it will happen.

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RE: Chat requests? - 10/20/2005 10:50:11 AM

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thats a pretty pathetic reply.Thats how you get to know someone is by chat.What would be wrong about talking on phone to a stranger?,Unless you are scared of your own shadow its not a big deal

And why, may I ask, should anyone talk to strangers on the phone and what about?
I dont talk to strangers - not on the phone, not on the street, not anywhere. And it has nothing to do with being scared, I am not scared of anything. I think too highly of myself to be talking to any common strangers just like that.

The only way I want to get know someone here is by messages - in his message should be proved that he read my profile and journal, that he is someone worth my interest and my time and that he found out on some basis that we can maybe have some mutual interests.
Why should I waste my precious time on chatting with strangers?

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RE: Chat requests? - 10/20/2005 12:10:09 PM

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Hello There,
I specifically mention in my profile I will not chat. Any day I'm online I get 3-5 chat requests.
For the most part if I didn't know better, I'd think half of the men in collarme can't read as few of them actually take the time to see who they're trying to reel in before you see their lame notes that only prove they don't take the time to look. I actually like it as it allows me to know who the idiot lazy asses are and I know to keep away from them.
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RE: Chat requests? - 10/20/2005 12:16:01 PM

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And some sherbet. And a spoon made out of a carrot.

Hello MadameDahlia,
What a combination! Sherbet & carrot in your mouth at the same time?
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RE: Chat requests? - 10/21/2005 11:21:05 AM

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It's a strange habit I picked up a long while ago. I had a bag of small carrots and I couldn't find where I'd put my spoon. On a whim I used a carrot stick.

It might be a smidge strange, but it worked for me.

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RE: Chat requests? - 11/30/2005 6:45:45 PM

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I'm a fairly new member here but experianced from other sites. I enjoy chatting. Now, if I see a profile that is clear on how to initiate contact, I follow the instructions. If there are none, I figure I'll ask to chat, it's their call whether to accept and I'm fine with their decision. I do not approach anyone for cybersex, my interest in chatting may have been piqued by a well done photo, an interesting point of view in their profile, something written that resonated or maybe just a profile that I admire in terms of clarity and quality of writing. One of my favorite incidents involved a profile I saw. The writer sounded very lonely, there were no contact instructions and in fact the author said straight out in the profile that she was interested in chatting with someone. I buzzed and was declined. Okay. The following day, I noted the profile, now filled with a long screed wondering how dare anyone approach for a PC without a proper letter of introduction and so forth and so on. Oh well....

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RE: Chat requests? - 11/30/2005 7:10:07 PM

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Welcome, Solange.

Since you seem to be addressing My post regarding this, I will say that I am sure you, are the rarity: those who might enjoy a quick chat with no hidden agenda. I have realized, in My past days of chatting, that the time goes by way too quickly, and I accomplish little. And I used to get barraged on YIM, AIM and MSN. And the chatting invariably came around to cyber-sex, cyber-domination or a request for web cam. So I prefer email, and from there, if warranted, I will move to the telephone. I do make it clear, that I don't chat, so when I do see a chat request from someone I do not know, or have not made arrangements with for a chat, I will decline it.
I know there are many people who enjoy chatting on the internet. I am one who does not. However, if anyone indicates receptivity to chat, then I see nothing wrong with making the request. I just try very hard to make it clear that I don't engage in that venue.
Again, welcome.

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