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RE: Whist in the dog house? - 10/16/2005 6:20:35 AM

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For this slave, forgive means it is OVER & DONE.

At the age of 46, i found out what true forgiveness was only a few years ago...i thought i knew. I found out that i knew jack shit. This by far is the best statement and advice that can be given.
When the dust settles...all the communication has been done....you are left with forgiveness and choice.

I wish you both much peace.....

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RE: Whist in the dog house? - 10/19/2005 2:09:37 AM

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thankyou for your obviously considered response plantlady64.

You raise many issues in your response, and these i will consider. My journey is far more complex than i would of anticipated.
I really thankyou for the response of how your Master would of reacted. There's a insight i have never had before. How someone else would deal with me?
There were however consequences to my actions. They were not physical. They were adequate. Minimum force necessary was the tool. Im sure, were he to find that he had to repeat the lesson, then clearly, i did not learn the first time round. He can then decide if he wishes to invest more time and reteach the lesson, perhaps in the way your Master would of, or walk away and seek a more fruitful submissive. This would concern me greatly.

Thankyou, i shall ponder now.

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RE: Whist in the dog house? - 10/19/2005 9:36:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: pandoravampire

thankyou for your obviously considered response plantlady64.

You raise many issues in your response, and these i will consider. My journey is far more complex than i would of anticipated.
I really thankyou for the response of how your Master would of reacted. There's a insight i have never had before. How someone else would deal with me?
There were however consequences to my actions. They were not physical. They were adequate. Minimum force necessary was the tool. Im sure, were he to find that he had to repeat the lesson, then clearly, i did not learn the first time round. He can then decide if he wishes to invest more time and reteach the lesson, perhaps in the way your Master would of, or walk away and seek a more fruitful submissive. This would concern me greatly.

Thankyou, i shall ponder now.

Dear pandoravampire,
You are not only most welcome, but also are being prayed for.
I've been praying to God that he helps you understand how to find the peace and joy you deserve to have in your life & that he takes your sadness & confusion away.
Like I said before your life mirrors mine in a lot of levels. Us ladies that have had to raise kids on our own with bad relationships abounding in our past have to stick together hon.
Anything I can do to help I would be willing to try.
Be Well,
sub suzanne

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RE: Whist in the dog house? - 10/19/2005 10:58:00 PM

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Last time i was in the dog house my master tied me up blindfolded me and kept me like that for 2 days he fed me and all but never really knew wat he was putting into my mouth....forced bi first experience for me.......i gotta say it might have been better if he didn't make me gag on it...but i guess thats what i get for forgeting to please my mistress,also she made me do a stuffed animal for her viewing pleasure once and the least to say about that is well she was laughing and i was tryin to succumb to the stuffed animal anyhow thats my story about being in the dog house plz reply....

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RE: Whist in the dog house? - 10/20/2005 5:41:37 PM

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We are back on track.
We are very in love, all in my garden is rosy again. I am a happy sub once more.

I have lived a adventuresome life. I have now found something far more valuable. I have a life partner.
I am not the sort of person who 'makes do' and goes without in the life stakes. I know what i want, and i go and get it. I will work hard at this relationship as it fulfills me like no other has.
I do not feel that i am missing out from not playing with others. Ive done that, been there, its cool, but vacuous to me. I need the depth and intensity of the LTR. The up's and the downs.
I have many friends, but those who've been around for 20+ yrs, have seen me through all sorts that life throws my way, we have history together. These relationships are deeper than the casual or short term friends.
For me, casual partners cannot offer the intensity of love making enjoyed with someone i am deeply in love with. So i do not feel that im dipping out on a aspect of my personality to stay monogamous if you know what i mean.

thankyou for your prayers plantlady. Perhaps they were a contributing factor to our being able to resolve this together.

Slavetomygrave, i gotta ask, what the hell is a stuffed toy? As in you were a toy that was stuffed with a cock in some oriface or other?

enjoy

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Re: Whist in the dog house? - 10/23/2005 8:43:14 AM

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Without trying to reiterate what others have said in response to your post, pandoravampire, you certainly have a breakdown in trust and communication happening in your relationshp. And the fact that your Dominant partner is jealous of others and that you circumvented his control over you by doing something behind his back, has obviously sabbotaged your relationship.

It seems to me that you need to explore excatly why you did this, as well as to take a good look at his responses. You are obviously provoking him to violence, which should never be incorporated into a consentual BDSM and/or D/s relationship. He may, in fact, feel that his power over you as a Dominant is gone, which is why he is lashing out at you in anger.

I cannot stress strongly-enough the importance of couple's counseling...or just simply sitting down with a close friend in the scene who is understanding and who can moderate a dialog between you both.

If you break the bond of trust and cannot repair it, your relationship is doomed to failure! Good luck!

-philip

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