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RE: "i'm just a lowwwly nothing of a worrrrm..." - 11/14/2005 4:16:39 AM

candystripper

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quote:

not the dreaded worm again....AAHHHHHHH!!!

but seriously, doesn't everyone deserve to show a little dignity, be it sub or slave? we may be submissives, but we are 'not' doormats. am i wrong?

MichaellMI

Of course not. Individuals are imbued with an inherent dignity and worth that should be respected by all; those who fail to do so by lying or attempting to manipulate another are disrespectful, amoung other things. Since RESPECT is an absolute necessity (IMO) to any BDSM relationship (as opposed to casual sex) i find the Men who are submissives yet still write to me to be disrespectful..or delusional...one or the other.

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< Message edited by candystripper -- 11/14/2005 4:17:29 AM >

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RE: "i'm just a lowwwly nothing of a worrrrm..." - 11/24/2005 3:23:32 PM

addcted2it

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ORIGINAL: MistressXD

Greetings, submissives and slaves of all types. Here is my rant/question/thing.

Background:
I'm a dominant woman. I'm looking for a male slave. I have an extensive profile, full of detail about what sort of a person I'm looking for and what he'll be expected to do. I'm specific about wanting someone as strong and as confident as I am.

The problem:
And yet, about 90% of the messages I receive here are from men who describe themselves as "useless," "unworthy, "a worm," etc. They're all full of that "i" and "You" capitalization stuff I see so frequently in online BDSM forums (tho I suspect that's another topic for another time), and of course, since I declare myself dominant, I get the lucky capitals. You get the drift, no?

The question:
For those who feel and communicate this way, what gives? Why would I want to spend my time with someone I think is worthless? Why do you think of yourself as... wormly? Worm-like? Wormiful? ;) Do you not think your personal time is better spent bettering yourself so you can feel like a more worthwhile HUMAN BEING, capable of handling another's trust? Or is this some kind of roleplaying thing?

I'm totally serious here. I'm baffled.

XD

Mistress XD:

You're right! It IS a roleplay thing. And as you said, why would anyone want someone who considers themselves to be one of the lowest on the food chain? They want to be degreded. It's as simple as that. But it's probably not the best way for a submissive/slave to introduce themselves. I tend to want to put my best foot forward when meeting or appealing to someone for the first time. But then that's only me.

Phil

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RE: "i'm just a lowwwly nothing of a worrrrm..." - 11/24/2005 6:38:46 PM

MastersBabieGirl

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i love humiliation not degredation
for me in the beginning when im just meeting if they pulled that i would be insulted
it would be like someone off the street throwing a fit calling me names it would hurt
when my master does it i know he is calling me slut etc without the insult attatched if that makes sense
its done lovingly
and as im writting this it makes no sense however there is a huge difference and how could you get that same feeling from someone you dont know
i know i couldnt
perhaps its because when my master does it im his slut his whatever its still done with ownership on his end not on mine
therefore taking the degrading put down out of it
does that make sense to anyone lol

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RE: "i'm just a lowwwly nothing of a worrrrm..." - 11/27/2005 1:15:44 PM

chgosubmale

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Let me try to give something of an answer from my personal perspective. I've read a lot of the profiles on this system and I see a number of dominants who say they want to "cherish" their submissives or make the the submissive their "most prized possession". I'm not saying that is a bad thing by any means, but not all submissives want to be in that sort of a relationship. Some people very much desire to be degraded, not cherished. So in this respect "wormy" or "worthless" might be a code word indicating that the person in question is seeking a relationship based on degradation or humilation, not being cherished.

I would agree that calling yourself worthless is probably not the best marketing ploy. Who would want a worthless submissive? Obviously if there is not something worthwhile in the submissive to the dominant, why would she waste her time? But I do believe that a submissive person can have a lot to offer in terms of intelligence, skills, energy, hard work, dependability, etc., etc. but can nevertheless desire to be treated very poorly by a domme, perhaps even as "worthless". That is, to be treated by his domme as if he has little or no worth to her beyond what services he is rendering. Some might call this fantasy, and my description is probably a bit to the extreme, but there's a certain amount of fantasy involved in any relationship, d/s or vanilla and if there is not a certain base level of compatibility about what the two people are seeking, it just isn't going to work.

If someone is just sending one or two line responses saying "I'm a worm! Make me your slave", then I would not take the reply as even being serious enough to puzzle over.

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RE: "i'm just a lowwwly nothing of a worrrrm..." - 11/27/2005 5:01:22 PM

orfunboi

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressXD

Greetings, submissives and slaves of all types. Here is my rant/question/thing.

Background:
I'm a dominant woman. I'm looking for a male slave. I have an extensive profile, full of detail about what sort of a person I'm looking for and what he'll be expected to do. I'm specific about wanting someone as strong and as confident as I am.

The problem:
And yet, about 90% of the messages I receive here are from men who describe themselves as "useless," "unworthy, "a worm," etc. They're all full of that "i" and "You" capitalization stuff I see so frequently in online BDSM forums (tho I suspect that's another topic for another time), and of course, since I declare myself dominant, I get the lucky capitals. You get the drift, no?

The question:
For those who feel and communicate this way, what gives? Why would I want to spend my time with someone I think is worthless? Why do you think of yourself as... wormly? Worm-like? Wormiful? ;) Do you not think your personal time is better spent bettering yourself so you can feel like a more worthwhile HUMAN BEING, capable of handling another's trust? Or is this some kind of roleplaying thing?

I'm totally serious here. I'm baffled.

XD

You profile comes up not found, so i can't comment on that. As far as the 90% describing themselves as useless, i would have to take them at their word and keep looking, what are you going to do with a useless sub. i am not sure why someone would put that in their profile, but my guess is they will be looking for a long time, or end up with someone who treats them like crap.

i use the small i...has nothing to do with my self esteem, My shift key sticks and its easier to not cap the i's all the time. i can get away with this because everyone thinks its a submissive thing and don't realize i am too lazy to keep backspacing and fixing it all the time. Of course after they read this they will know, but i am counting on short memories and people not really caring that much either way.

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