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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/9/2005 5:35:27 PM

MistressCrista

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i am part of a Poly faimly Me my Husband and our Girlfriend. there is a great deal of love between us and it is a hard life.....when love is invovled it makes it that much harder. but all life is hard. that is just the way it is. the three of us have been together for 5 years and there are still days where you dont know if you can cope. but you do. if love is shared than the rewards are worth it..........and just think 3 paychecks........lol

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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/10/2005 7:12:58 AM

hawk58

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For us:

Dove says she loves me, and is in love with me. However she also adimantly says she does not need or require for me to be "in love" with her. She thinks that I make a better dominant (more rigid ad strict) when love is not in the way.

It is mostlythrough her, that we are seeking a 2nd girl. Unlike most- even though dove h as been with me 4+yrs; she does not want to be 1st girl/alpha slave. She would rather the new gilr be 1st/alpha. As dove says she is seking to deepen her slavery, and servitude to me- without the complications she feels that love can bring.

Love makes some things easier yes. Her love for me, encourages her submssion and obedience. However, my love for her has gotten in the way in the past, as I let things slide, and let her get away with more. (Which she does not want.)

So, it comes down to loving some one or being in love with someone. She again, says she loves me, and is in love with me, but prefers that I not be in love with her. I do love my slave, and all she has to offer me, and does for me. But in love?? I think I will keep her guessing.

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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/10/2005 5:07:50 PM

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I have found that my poly relationships are all different. My primary is now my primary, and all others are secondary... but I can't say that it will always be that way. If someone comes along that fits in well, then things may change.

I have always loved each person differently. There is no shortage of love to go around, so I don't really have a problem with my primary or my secondaries loving others. As far as I can tell my primary doesn't have any issues with that. Now I have recently had some play partners that were concerned that they weren't number one, and I have to do some cogitating on that one.

Babbling.... Anyway, for me as long as I remember that there is plenty of love to go around, I am ok. If I don't feel like I am getting enough attention, it is my responsibility to raise that issue. I am usually pretty reasonable about the issue and my partners respect that I try not to make unreasonable demands, so I have never raised that issue and had it ignored or shot down. Even if they couldn't give me the attention I needed at the time, we worked out a plan so that we both got what we needed.

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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/15/2005 10:51:47 PM

redheadedfire4u

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Love is important to me ... this relationship is to new to be flying off handles ... but I look inside myself and can say that my love for my sis and my love for my Sir compliment eachother, take nothing away from the other and enhance U/us all, so why should I think it is not possible for the same to be said of them ... until proven wrong I will accept that it is ... the pleasure they find together gives me pleasure in knowing they are happy and W/we always keep comunication going strong and it works well .... so I feel love for some makes it easier
but different strokes for different folks
warm smiles to all

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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/16/2005 4:45:59 PM

WildSpirit2001

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quote:

"Love is that condition where the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

Fabulous quote!

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RE: Does Love Change Things? - 11/16/2005 6:50:09 PM

wipmebeetme100

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quote:

I cherish this quote from Robert Heinlein's character Jubal Harshaw: "Love is that condition where the happiness of another person is essential to your own." It seems to me that truly loving someone would make it easier, rather than harder, to watch them experience joy wherever it can be found--especially in the world in which we live, in which joy seems to be such a rare commodity.

I completely agree with you. Love is not all this jealousy that i so often see. Another great quote is by the author John D. McDonald.

"When the satisfaction, security and development of another become as significant to you as your own satisfaction, scurity and development....love exists."

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