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Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do ... - 9/17/2005 1:30:09 PM

TVMistressHelen

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I've just seen a profile from a Mistress where she just says "Femdom looking for slaves."

You can guarantee she'll get many many replies.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 1:40:24 PM

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So? What of it? Who cares? Are you jealous?

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 1:43:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

I've just seen a profile from a Mistress where she just says "Femdom looking for slaves."

You can guarantee she'll get many many replies.

Unfortunately you would be surprised at how many she will probably get. Of course, they'll be one line replies also. I've looked at your profile and no offense, but you don't have a lot of information on yours either.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 2:26:25 PM

TVMistressHelen

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

quote:

ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

I've just seen a profile from a Mistress where she just says "Femdom looking for slaves."

You can guarantee she'll get many many replies.

Unfortunately you would be surprised at how many she will probably get. Of course, they'll be one line replies also. I've looked at your profile and no offense, but you don't have a lot of information on yours either.

True. I used to have a lot more info but then I thought I'd try the minimalist approach too and see how it worked.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 2:39:47 PM

LadyShoshin

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No effort whatsoever, I am getting ready for a play party, lets see, no effort - yesterday I colored my hair, then left the conditioner on overnight which meant wearing a crackly plastic cap to bed, ever sleep on one of those?
This morning I showered, got the goop out of my hair, lotioned my body, shaved my legs, packed for an overnight, not just regular clothing but fet wear, makeup, shoes. Once I get dressed I have to lug my overnight bag, my toy suitcase (large) and an artists tube to the car, drive for an hour and a half on my own & lug everything into the venue.

Of course last month there was choosing and paying for rather pricey fet wear so I can look like it is no effort at all.

And as for advertising - over 6 years I have had thousands of replies, 75% of which start with I am new or I am married or live on another continent and want desperately to join me here. There are the meetings over coffee that go nowhere and occasionally, but very rarely, one finds a friend or a sub who doesn't stay because it wasn't what he expected.

So, yes, all around, we make no effort whatsoever.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 2:47:06 PM

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Yes, absolutely no effort.
Let's see, I've been looking for a boy for about two years....between answering dozens of emails and meeting a lot of them, going to workshops, practicing, buying and maintainign my equipment, and improving myself in almost every way I can, I'm almost ready to give up.
Most of the males who answer Domme's ads are NOT submissive. They may be horny, lonely, twelve, married, or whatever, but they are not looking for a relationship with a dominant woman.
They act shocked when they hear that A. I am a human, not a cyber fantasy; B. I expect something in return (not money, but perhaps service of some kind); C. It's not all about sex for me.
There is one heck of a difference between a sub and a horny geek who wants to live out his fantasy.
Effort?
It's hardly worth the effort.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 3:01:16 PM

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i realize i'm not a Domme, so maybe i should keep my mouth shut (not that it ever has before..lol), but when i read the title of this thread i have to admit i was shocked and offended. i don't often see such blantant sexism anymore -- was hoping most were past it, especially those of us who participate in an alternate lifestyle that has enough built in problems from those looking in from the outside.

Good luck...

(gets comfy in my corner with a bowl of popcorn to *watch*..

anyone wana share my popcorn?)

LOL!!!

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 3:02:06 PM

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Lol! Maybe I should clarify that I was talking about the lack of effort put into some profiles versus the staggering number of replies that even such one-line profiles can generate, not the actual work and preparation put in behind the scenes by genuine people.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 3:04:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: krikket

i realize i'm not a Domme, so maybe i should keep my mouth shut (not that it ever has before..lol), but when i read the title of this thread i have to admit i was shocked and offended. i don't often see such blantant sexism anymore -- was hoping most were past it, especially those of us who participate in an alternate lifestyle that has enough built in problems from those looking in from the outside.

Good luck...

(gets comfy in my corner with a bowl of popcorn to *watch*..

anyone wana share my popcorn?)

LOL!!!

Patience krikket, I hear them signing on and getting ready to thunder in. Have a good time at the show!

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 3:45:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

Lol! Maybe I should clarify that I was talking about the lack of effort put into some profiles versus the staggering number of replies that even such one-line profiles can generate, not the actual work and preparation put in behind the scenes by genuine people.

It might be the result of getting a lot of one-line mails or mails from folks who haven't bothered to read the profile -- if the audience won't read beyond one line, why write more than one line?

Why? Because if you are looking for something particular or for a relationship instead of just a scene the more information you give the odds are you'll get a better group of replies.

My profile is fairly descriptive but I've gotten many mails already that clearly didn't read beyond the "dominant female" part.

I've gotten a few that did indeed read.

The next sticking point is the wanting to scene right now attitude. No talking, no questions, just "here's my chat address" and "when can I meet you".

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 4:17:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

Lol! Maybe I should clarify that I was talking about the lack of effort put into some profiles versus the staggering number of replies that even such one-line profiles can generate, not the actual work and preparation put in behind the scenes by genuine people.

Just think of it this way. The kind of man that will respond to her ad will probably be equivalent to the quality of the ad. The boys worth snagging, well you got to work to attract those a little more. And the pay off is grand ;-)

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 4:20:31 PM

LRODANDMASTER

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U MUST BE DONG SOMETHIN WRONG LADY ANGLEKIA

I HAVE SPUERMODELS EMALING ME OUT OF THE BLUE ALL THE TIME

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 4:24:33 PM

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quote:

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U MUST BE DONG SOMETHIN WRONG LADY ANGLEKIA

I HAVE SPUERMODELS EMALING ME OUT OF THE BLUE ALL THE TIME

That is because the rumour is that you have a foot long ;-)

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 4:25:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

I've just seen a profile from a Mistress where she just says "Femdom looking for slaves."

You can guarantee she'll get many many replies.

Its just one of the many hypocritical things on CM where the Dommes expect full on profiles yet they think 'Im a Domme, Dont question me about it becuase I the one that asks the questions, be happy Im responding'.....

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 4:32:16 PM

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I would just change that to "females"

Like it or not, it's true.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 5:47:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

So? What of it? Who cares? Are you jealous?

Hell yes I am jealous...but then I have a nice long pee while standing at the toilet and I get over it.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 6:40:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

quote:

ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen

I've just seen a profile from a Mistress where she just says "Femdom looking for slaves."

You can guarantee she'll get many many replies.

Its just one of the many hypocritical things on CM where the Dommes expect full on profiles yet they think 'Im a Domme, Dont question me about it becuase I the one that asks the questions, be happy Im responding'.....

Ok, since I LOVE when some make sweeping generalizations, here is what I have surmised so far from these dommes that have answered this post , a few other dommes, versus the OP, and imtempting who is making the generalization:
This is from the profiles on the other side
(Ladies, look at this as free advertising, please, smiles)

LadyAngelika-4 VERY descriptive paragraphs (lovely legs btw, diva!!)
GoddessDustyGold-about 24 paragraphs
BlkTallFullFig- 6 paragraphs
TexasMaam-16 paragraphs
LadyShoshin-20 paragraphs
DreamLadySnow- 1 very long descriptive paragraph
krikket-3 descriptive paragraphs (not domme but poster)
the tammyjo- 1 descriptive paragraph
kc692- 4 very descriptive, long paragraphs

tvmistresshelen- 2 very short paragraphs
imtempting-2 sentences

Imtempting, you might want to change your wording to "some", and then again you might not. Up to you. But, I would think there is not a lot of room to talk in your two cases, boys. Ya know, if ya'll don't get a lot of answers or emails, think you or your attitude might have ANYTHING to do with it? Whiners are SO attractive!!!!!

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 7:15:00 PM

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Hey Taggard I hope the toilet was really cute.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 7:33:20 PM

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Hey Taggard I hope the toilet was really cute.

hey taggard, you know, you look really cute yourself in that avatar you have up. Bet you give the toilet a run for its money.

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RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all,... - 9/17/2005 7:33:51 PM

krikket

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Watching my popcorn being tossed in the air while rolling on the floor in gales of giggles, smiles and cheers!! yay

Thanks for the free advertising, kc, and for spelling my name right..(lol)

Happy Saturday night , y'all
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ORIGINAL: kc692
Ok, since I LOVE when some make sweeping generalizations, here is what I have surmised so far from these dommes that have answered this post , a few other dommes, versus the OP, and imtempting who is making the generalization:
This is from the profiles on the other side
(Ladies, look at this as free advertising, please, smiles)

LadyAngelika-4 VERY descriptive paragraphs (lovely legs btw, diva!!)
GoddessDustyGold-about 24 paragraphs
BlkTallFullFig- 6 paragraphs
TexasMaam-16 paragraphs
LadyShoshin-20 paragraphs
DreamLadySnow- 1 very long descriptive paragraph
krikket-3 descriptive paragraphs (not domme but poster)
the tammyjo- 1 descriptive paragraph
kc692- 4 very descriptive, long paragraphs

tvmistresshelen- 2 very short paragraphs
imtempting-2 sentences

Imtempting, you might want to change your wording to "some", and then again you might not. Up to you. But, I would think there is not a lot of room to talk in your two cases, boys. Ya know, if ya'll don't get a lot of answers or emails, think you or your attitude might have ANYTHING to do with it? Whiners are SO attractive!!!!!

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