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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/4/2005 3:19:29 PM

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if a man was concerned with my weight because he was worried about the long term effects and he was concerned about taking care of me medically, I would say he was looking out for himself and setting boundaries and that would be fine. But the problem is that most men who criticize women for being too big are more concerned about how it doesn't fit into their aesthetic ideal.

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Excellent and deserves to be repeated!

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/4/2005 3:46:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
if a man was concerned with my weight because he was worried about the long term effects and he was concerned about taking care of me medically, I would say he was looking out for himself and setting boundaries and that would be fine. But the problem is that most men who criticize women for being too big are more concerned about how it doesn't fit into their aesthetic ideal.

- LA

Excellent and deserves to be repeated!

No offense, but this WAS stated before, but you thought the health issues were more important and needed to be addressed.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/10/2005 7:47:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

But the problem is that most men who criticize women for being too big are more concerned about how it doesn't fit into their aesthetic ideal.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 6:48:11 AM

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LRODANDMASTER:
I am the Crowned Princess Bitch of the Universe...not just a Bitch.
I once dated a man who was extremely overweight the problem....I was not attracted to him. I'm not saying I like scrawny...oww those damn hips dig. However I don't expect him to have a 6 pack either. If they do and they're interested in me then great if not oh well.
The physical attraction is just as important as attraction to the personality, and the mind to me anyways. I wouldn't date a man who had a 6 pack that was a blubbering idiot either.
Once again I am lucky that my body is porportionate however I don't go looking for approval from everyone, just myself. If someone doesn't like me for the way I eat or what I wear then I ignore them simple as that.
When I was younger I would look at my body as ugly, I hated looking in the mirror just to brush my hair, now I look at all the positive things about myself. I looked for approval from others and well I ended up not liking myself too much. Now I don't have issues of looking in the mirror and I don't care what other people think of me I just get on with my life. I refuse to live up to other peoples expectations or the media's expectations.
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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 7:10:33 AM

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Hi LadyJC,

Please look at LRODANDMASTER's signature line.... his interjections are tongue in cheek (which cheek I won't say!

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 7:49:52 AM

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Ever notice how many submissive women are BBW's? I wonder if it's really low self-esteem as a result of being unhappy with their bodies that drives their "submissive" desires. To me, this not true submissive nature, and I suspect that many of them would not be seeking the bottom role if they had a better opinion of themselves. I think that's why there is so much insecurity and emotional baggage that seems to go with dealing with BBW "slaves".
Don't get me wrong, I'm not putting anyone down, but personally, I prefer my slave(s) to be secure in their desire to be dominated, no matter what their body-type is. Know thyself, slaves.

I'm a Rubenesque (big, full-figured, fat, bbw,) woman and I find nothing insulting about your musing, though the handle did give me pause in the beginning. People wonder about all kinds of things, like I wonder why so many of the submissive men I've encountered seem to have below average size penises. It may not be true of most, but I've wondered. Is there really anything so terribly wrong with wondering and asking?

I think sometimes we are way to sensitive to peoples questions. The OP's questions seem to me to be set off because of his experiences and therefore, it sounds like a valid question, not meant to be insulting to bbws. I just see someone frustrated with the women he's encountered and in turn it has caused him to wonder about the mindset of some women in this lifestyle. Maybe, maybe not, just musing.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 11:21:11 AM

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I wonder if some women are drawn to the dominant role because of penis envy?

*almost spits out her tea* Every once in a while, I come across a truly fucked up comment that makes me laugh when I KNOW it shouldn't, and this was one of them. I am SO saving this for future insult purposes. Thanks for the midafternoon giggles.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 11:22:48 AM

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/11/2005 11:37:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: BeMyDogBitch

"I wonder"

"To me"

"I think"

"personally, I prefer"

Not a single instance of stating any of this posting as absolute fact, merely opinion and curiosity, and yet people are still getting up in arms over it?

Personally, I think that anyone who does not take care of themselves should not be engaging in BDSM to begin with. I believe that if you can't take care of yourself in the most basic areas of life, you will not be able to make good judgements about your relative safety when it comes to risky sexual activities. Mentally, emotionally, physically, all of these to a certain point need to be stable to be safe in what you do, IMHO, whether it is BDSM related or not.

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