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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 4/25/2005 11:29:28 PM

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 4/26/2005 12:38:08 AM

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I am a firm believer in " if the word does not exist .. make it up" as long as its meaning is pretty clear self explanatory what does it matter?
As for the topic at hand poly can mean many things to many people but I guess that the "correct" police would beg to differ ( grinzz .. like I care ) to Me however polyamorous means just that .. loving more than one person at any one time.. I have lived it and it can work. That is not to say that it lasts forever after all what love really does?
I believe the real issue is how one defines love. As that can also mean many things to many people.
Polygamy appears to define having more than one legal husband or wife/partner /mate... Hmm it would be interesting how the legal systen would deal with the issue.. if a person had two or more mates but not married.. who is considered the "legal" partner and does the other/s have any legal recourse?.. but I digress as that is clearly dealt with in My circumstances by establishing a legal entity that issues rights to all concerned..
To Me poly is just that .. having the abilty to successfully sustain a loving caring/relationship involving more than two people regardless of the dynamics and people have been doing it for centuries... smiles

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 4/28/2005 6:19:44 PM

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Back to the original question. No, I don't think playing with others constitutes poly in itself. As some of the other posts have elated to, it's more a bonding or an emotional thing, 24/7, that seems to get the nod as a poly relationship. If your play partners start seeming like they are family and you have this need to have them with you constantly..then you are going poly (IMHO).

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 4/29/2005 2:18:34 PM

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My view is rather simplistic....

When I have fallen in love with more than one person at the same time, then I am poly.

I can care about someone, and not be poly.
I can play with someone and not be poly.
I can have sex with someone and not be poly.

But I can't love 2 people intimately..meaning allowing them to hold a piece of my soul essence...without being poly.

Maybe its not so simplistic after all.

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 4/30/2005 12:58:15 AM

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LOL, My hubbie/codominant would agree. Now try two women :one is your current wife,your former Mistress and now co-top and the other your former slave buddy,now live in slave. Talk about feeling sorry for a guy!

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PS I consider Poly more than two people in a serious, committed steady relationship as defined by their needs. I do not count my play partners in among my family unless they are long standing ,one going relationships.

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/1/2005 4:01:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic
I define myself as polysexual and monamorous.

Out of curiosity, do you feel no connection with your other sexual partners. Are they simply tools to a sexual end? I don't mean to deride your preferences, but I just mean to ask whether you may still have some measure of emotional connection to any of those people. If so, is there an amoury element to these other partners, even if a small one? I'm not judging, maybe there are just sexual encounters, no attachment at all beyond that, and that can be fine so long as no one gets hurt.

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/3/2005 3:56:49 AM

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no Sir we do not feel u are if u would like some more information on this let us know and we can show u where to go and it will expain it better. MasterWhiteLighter(WhiteLighter) and subcharmedlilone

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/8/2005 9:46:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: iamdosh

Poly is simply many, but if you are talking polyamory or one of the many forms of it, then by definition, no. The bases of polyamory type relationships is love. If your just having outside sexual contoact with others then that would be considered to me, more of an open relationship or swinging.

Polyamory n : is the nonpossessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously. Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time. Polyamory is an umbrella term which integrates traditional multipartner relationship terms with more evolved egalitarian terms. Polyamory embraces sexual equality and all sexual orientations towards an expanded circle of spousal intimacy and love. Polyamory is from the root words Poly meaning many and Amour meaning love hence "many loves" or Polyamory

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i agree dosh......

an open relationship or swinging in D/s is not the same as poly, well for U/us any.

O/our bodies can be shared with anyone, but not O/our minds, hearts and wills...that is reserved for that special one who desires like W/we do.

i also do not think love is THE defintion for poly ... one can think they love but when they gives their wills, minds and hearts totally to another is there love that abides.

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/8/2005 9:53:43 AM

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i am borrowing this information from another website.....
it fits here...

"In real time friends these are the situations defined under 'poly'..

1. Man has a sub and is free to fuck/play with whom ever he wishes; he tells his sub when he does.
2. Woman has two male Dom's she is in 'relationship' with who know about each other but never play at the same time.
3. Man has a sub and is free to fuck/play with whom ever he wishes; he doesn't always tell his sub.
4. Man has two subs who all live together and play together.
5. Man has one sub but seeks a second sub to enjoy things his first sub can't/won't do.
6. Man has a harem of six subs; act like a family.

I'm kinda bamboozled about the whole poly thing. "I" thought that the only way 'poly' would work for me would be if the other sub and I were good friends and enjoyed each other in our own relationship. The two of us being committed to 'him' and to each other. This seems to NOT be the case"

i agree with this poster.....
what is workable for U/us is that the girl and i would be freinds, companions, confidants, have our own relationship and i would introduce her to Master and then the three of U/us would be committed and both of u/us serve Him.
Tis the reason He has me search for O/our girl.

But W/we also have an open relationship and swing at this time...of which we do not consider a "poly" relationship.

~~shy

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/8/2005 2:52:45 PM

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I am glad this is being discussed, very helpful. I recently had someone state to me he was Bi and poly, first instinct was greedy bastard *smirks* then he went on to say when he was someone's he belonged to that one person solely, and then I couldn't understand why classify yourself as poly and state that, as my thought was that it meant, your with everyone not just one. *shrugs*

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 5/10/2005 7:51:34 PM

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quote:

I recently had someone state to me he was Bi and poly, first instinct was greedy bastard *smirks* then he went on to say when he was someone's he belonged to that one person solely, and then I couldn't understand why classify yourself as poly and state that, as my thought was that it meant, your with everyone not just one. *shrugs*

Having thought about it a bit first, I think (at least, I hope) what you are meaning when you said "your with everyone not just one" was that being poly meant you "belonged" to the whole group as opposed to just one person in the group? If that is the case then it's possible that the dynamic that person is talking about is one where there is a Dominant that owns a submissive that switches and has a submissive of their own. There is a wide range of dynamics in the poly world.

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RE: What do you consider to be poly? - 6/7/2005 3:49:37 PM

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At what point do you feel that an outside relationship has evolved into polyamory?

I look forward to the replies...

~Thorns
i say Sir, more than 1 slave is poly...does not matter if it is 2 males, or 2 girls,..or both, 1 each. anytime there is more than 1 it is poly to me personally.
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