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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/26/2005 7:14:17 PM

Rubyb

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Yes, I care, too.

For many reasons stated above and others.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/26/2005 8:50:44 PM

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I honestly dont care whether a photo is posted or not. But if there is one, i tend to be turned off my men who post nude pics. For some reason it turns me off.
I also don't respond to men who seem interested in me for my physical appearance primarily. I instantly delete "you're hot" emails.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/26/2005 8:59:36 PM

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I don't either curvey, I used to not belive in having a picture up, but it kept the people I didn't desire contacting me away.

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I also don't respond to men who seem interested in me for my physical appearance primarily

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/26/2005 9:21:25 PM

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I considered both those with and without images.

If asked for mine, I would ask for one in return.

After a few convo's with someone, I almost always ask for a pic. I picture most everything I think about, so it is somewhat jarring for me to think of a person and not be able to provide some few shades of visual detail to go with the thought.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/27/2005 3:29:25 AM

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I'll preface this by saying that I'm not looking, so you can take what I say for what it's worth.

I do prefer to see who I'm talking to. Just because this is the Internet, it's somehow seen as a little outrageous to want to know what people look like? I don't go around meeting people IRL with my eyes closed, so why should this be any different?

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/27/2005 3:55:54 AM

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When i first began talking with my Master (here) there was no pic on his profile. At first i was a little put off by that. But after talking with Him, and getting to know him without preconcieved ideas on what he should look like, i fell pretty hard for Him.. His picture didnt make any difference. So my answer would have to be NO... this slave doesnt care about a pic on a profile.. only about the person behind the profile.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/27/2005 5:45:50 AM

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I do browse pictureless profiles more often than ones with pics. For a very good reason. I know that they get less replies and are most likely more approachable if my email isnt lost in a sea of messages. So, yes I search no pic profiles. I wont usually message a female with a cute picture because I know she gets a billion messages already. So, sad as it is, I skip over cute picture profiles and reply mostly to pictureless profiles. I look for content in a message. I look for interest in a reply. Im wierd I guess.

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ORIGINAL: Euryanx

TearCollector, what if we turn your question back around and throw it at you. Do you reply to women who don't post a pix? Would you meet a woman who didn't post a pix?

In my experience, i've seen numerous reasons why people don't post pix...

They are insecure about their appearance
They are fanatics about their privacy
They are afraid a stalker will track them down
They are married and don't want their spouse to catch them cheating
They are shaped like a bowling ball
They are a man pretending to be a woman

Although looks are not everything, they certainly are one of the ingredients that brings two people together. You're just kidding yourself if you think you're going to find someone who is going to love you based solely on who you are on the inside. In an idealistic world, that could work. In the real world... doubtful. I've communicated with pictureless people on the net in the past, where we made a nice connection through emails or on the phone... then when you meet... suddenly it becomes ho-hum. Physical attraction is just one of many components when it comes to finding real chemistry.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/27/2005 6:48:25 AM

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Just wanted to add a couple more reasons why people may not have a picture up:

When I first registered I didn't add a picture because I hadn't been reading the boards for a long time and wasn't sure who would be able to see my picture, wasn't sure if I was just going to lurk and read posts, or actively participate, and so forth.

Then I saw how much mail just the 'basic profile' sent my way, not only did I decide *not* to post a picture, but also to remove the 'special interests' list, at least for the moment. It might make it more difficult for someone to e-mail me, but I think (hope) that someone would contact me because they like what I wrote here or maybe because they were looking at demographic information. If they seemed sincere, at that point it wouldn't be a problem to share either the picture or the "special interests".

Also, when people write me I usually look at their profile to see whether they've put any effort into it, but the presence of a picture doesn't in any way weigh on whether or not I'll answer -- that's dependent on the content of the message I received.
I only look up profiles when something catches my eye here on the boards, and only once have I actually written to someone as a result of it (he didn't have a picture up).

So in conclusion: well, no conclusion, actually -- just wanted to ring in on this topic.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 5:38:50 AM

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Also, when people write me I usually look at their profile to see whether they've put any effort into it, but the presence of a picture doesn't in any way weigh on whether or not I'll answer -- that's dependent on the content of the message I received.

i agree with this. Anyone can post a picture or decide not to, but if the effort to express who you are or communicate in proper fashion isn't there, why should i care what you look like?

i don't post my picture, but if someone else wants to, that's fine. And i realize that not putting up a pic probably reduces the chances i'll be noticed, but i want my privacy. i'll share pics when i've talked to someone a few times and are comfortable with them.

What handful of replys i've gotten consist of one-liners asking for pics or if i have a webcam. And usually, when i look at their profiles, minimal effort has been put into telling me who they are.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 5:58:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM

I'll preface this by saying that I'm not looking, so you can take what I say for what it's worth.

I do prefer to see who I'm talking to. Just because this is the Internet, it's somehow seen as a little outrageous to want to know what people look like? I don't go around meeting people IRL with my eyes closed, so why should this be any different?

~ Elektra

...agreed!!

...:)

And though i'm looking and like to see a picture straight away... it's not because i want to see if someone is "ugly" or not. i just want to see what someone looks like. ~ i'm no super model... and if someone is a super model or isn't that isn't what's going to make me like them more or less... when it comes down to it looks aren't really all that important to me. ~ but STILL! .... like Elektra said... in real life i don't go around with my eyes closed... shaking peoples hands and saying "How do you do." without ever looking at them and seeing their face! ... i find it weird that people online want to create a "faceless world" ...

i guess that's okay for people who want online-relationships only... but i'm looking for both friendships and a relationship that will move r/t.. and.. well.. in real life you do actually get to see someone! .. and right from the first meeting too!

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ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl

But if there is one, i tend to be turned off my men who post nude pics. For some reason it turns me off.

i agree with this completely. ~ pictures of genitals is an immediate turn off to me. Both when men and women do it. And... for me.. that includes women who are topless.... but... usually topless women aren't looking for "me" anyway, so it all works out. ^_^

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 9:33:12 AM

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I generally don't e-mail with people who don't have pictures. I guess that's a little hypocritical of me, considering I just took all my pictures down. But too bad, I like to see who I'm talking to before I develop a relationship with them. And I agree with EM2, a picture can say A LOT about a person.

I'm not dating someone who is unkempt and sloppy. I like guys with style and confidence. So looks are important to me. You don't have to look like an Abercrombie model to be attractive.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 9:34:02 AM

Nuke718

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I believe what is good for the goose...
Well you get where I am going.

I don't have pictures in my profile currently. I am right on the very edge of whether to add some or not, but keep deciding not to. It's not a body image thing, if you read the profile I'm upfront about being a big guy.

BUT that said, when I reply to an ad that has pictures I will immediately supply at least a face shot. I figure it is only fair that if I have an idea what she looks like, then she should have an idea about me.

Also if a woman makes the initial contact with me and has a pic, I will reply wih one. And the final case where I send a pic is to somebody whose profile is lacking one, but we have exchanged a couple e-mails and are comfy with each other.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 11:23:03 AM

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I don't have a picture on my profile. I am not going to have a picture on my profile. My appearance has absolutely nothing to do with the reasons that I am here.

If I want to go out and get my ego stroked, I can cruise up to the local slut-hut, dance club, whatever. Here, I WANT people to see me for who I am beneath the skin. I am intelligent and articulate, and that should, in this forum, be the true currency, I think. We are all here to exchange ideas and experiences, and that is the "best foot" I wish to put forward.

That said, after having chatted with someone for a while, it's nice to know what the person on the other end of the keyboard looks like, but it isn't so much about physical attraction at that point.

But what works for me doesn't work for all. Some shop with the eyes, and that's fine.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 11:34:24 AM

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i am not looking for a partner at the moment, but i do still read profiles out of simple curiosity. i do notice the photos; however, i won't avoid profiles that do not have them. On the whole, it isn't a big issue for me and hasn't been. The only exception is when there is something different enough to catch my attention in the picture, something that speaks about the poster. Then i may reread the profile. For example, there is a gentleman on the boards who is swimming with dolphins in his photo. That got my attention. So did Taggard's tux (old photo but very classy). And the photo of the Mistress with whom i'm exploring shows her in a Renaissance costume.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 11:45:59 AM

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I will answer e-mails (provided they're polite) from just about anyone, whether they have a picture or not. My first sentence is usually a clarification that i'm not looking for a partner, but i've developed a few running e-mail conversations and i don't recall even looking at their profiles. When Master and i met, it took Him a couple months to send me a pic. By that time, i had already fallen for Him so His looks were pretty much immaterial. He still maintains that i wouldn't have fallen for Him if i'd seen Him first but we sort of agree to disagree on that one, lol. Bottom line? Some of the most physically attractive people i've ever met have come to repulse me thanks to their attitude, and vice versa. No, i don't care whether a person has a pic up or not. Intelligence and courtesy are far more important.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 12:25:22 PM

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Pictures matter but I'm not sure exactly how or how much.

I have a new picture for my profile on Collarme because two subs wrote suggesting I should have something else up (not the head shot I used). I could see their point but the picture they didn't like is one of my favorites of myself.

It doesn't matter to me if a profile has a picture. What interests me is a variety of factors including how a person expresses themself, what they are looking for -- you get the idea. At the same time a picture on a profile is a plus. It helps to make that profile stand out.

There is a person who I met on Collarme who has become a dear friend. There is no picture on their profile and I expect I'll never see their picture which is okay with me. If a photograph would jeopardize our relationship I'll do without.

Woodsbunny

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 12:29:57 PM

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brokenhallelujah, im with you there, honestly im not looking for anything, and even if i was, i would HOPE that my physical appearance would NOT be the first thing someone would be interested in... the one thing that used to bug me horribly was, when i was dating, there would be the pic question... they get a nice pic of me, i get a dick shot... ummm scuse me? *shakes her head* that just bugs me... a person with no pic would get alot better response than someone with that kind of shot...

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 12:52:07 PM

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For me a picture is a way to identify with a person a little more than just the words in their profile. I do believe that after a few emails, if both parties are comfortable with each other that pics should be exchanged if meeting has been talked about. For me it is seeking truth from a person. If they show up and look nothing like their pic or how they described themselves, I will not be a very happy person. The trust would have been breached and with me that is the end. My profile does state that if you do not have a profile pic up prepare to send me one. I am there for all to see, and damn the people that may know me and not like my activities.

I can understand the many points and reasons for not having a pic up. I can also understand the idea of contacting those that have no pics if the profile is interesting enough. BUT, if there has been numerous emails, pms, and chat, and a meeting is being discussed, it is time to send a pic.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 1:53:26 PM

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I'm not looking for anyone, but it's still nice to see who you are talking to. Even if they are butt ugly, pardon the phrase, it gives me more of a sense of who they are, who I'm holding a discussion with. Also, if I was looking for someone, a picture would be a must. We all convince ourselves that someone should love us and want to be with us regardless of looks, but someone's soul probably isn't the first thing you'd notice. If there is no attraction there physically, then it's unlikely that more will develop besides friendship. This isn't always true, but I've noticed it in the majority of cases.

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RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? - 8/28/2005 1:56:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: woodsbunny

I have a new picture for my profile on Collarme because two subs wrote suggesting I should have something else up (not the head shot I used). I could see their point but the picture they didn't like is one of my favorites of myself.

Now that is interesting. I took a look at your profile, and I can imagine that that picture says something of what you would like to express about yourself, and I can also see how someone else could focus on a perceived negative. I see a man absorbed, writing. Probably writing about things he loves... someone who has a focus, and values thought... blah blah whatever. Someone else might look at the wrist strap. I think that says a lot about pictures. People can focus on different things. You can start worrying a lot about what a 'picture says'.

But maybe the person who really is going to connect with you doesn't see the strap... sees the focus, sees 'who you are' as expressed visually.

Pictures are great. They add A LOT to a profile. But if you don't have one and you message me... I'm not going to run a mile. I might run a mile if you say you don't have one. LOL. And anyone who doesn't have a cam these days and is seriously considering hooking up with people online... um... they're not expensive.

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