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Tears - 8/19/2005 5:05:31 AM   
Quivver


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From: Rural OZ
Status: offline 		I've also been thinking about tears.
Tears for me are emotional.
I cry if I've disappointed someone, if I'm watching a sad movie
(I couldn't watch Lassie as a kid without tears)
I can find Tears over a loss such as a death, or those
happy tears over a birth.
But Tears from personal physical pain? no way.......
No matter how busted up I've been or how bad it hurt
my reaction hasn't been tears. I know I can be alone
with this, how about the rest of you?

Q
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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 5:29:13 AM   
Kindred2Evil


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Status: offline 		I've cried during a scene, but it wasn't due to physical pain. It was more a release mechanism than anything. I didn't cry when they shot Ol Yeller and most tear-jerker movies leave me dry as well. The last time I cried was from a phone call about family. I've had a mentor tell me that the reason I don't cry from physical pain stems back to my parents, my mother (whom I love very much) was always saying things like "Suck it up, big girls don't cry and you're a big girl honey." So I swallow them. Hmmm...now there's something new to discuss in therapy lol

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Her touch is on the breeze that brushes your cheek, Her voice rides the thunder as the storm breaks, Her tears will clean your heartache when the rains come, Her sun will light the darkest times when you feel alone...She is the Goddess.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 5:59:22 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I'm a big man, macho man..manly man! If I were a subbie, I'd be a pain slut, just to show how tough I am and how much pain I can take without batting an eye lash.
However, if I ever take you to a chick flick love story....pass the tissue....I'm an emotional mess when it comes to that shiat....go figure?

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 6:11:08 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello There,
I in my experiences have found when spankings are severe I do indeed cry. It's funny as the tears don't bother me at all, but the Dom's I play with seem to be very affected by my tears & back of of the severity factor. I wish I could just not tear up as it affects my play, but I just can't seem to help it. It makes me mad I can't stop it as I think it makes me look weak.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 6:16:43 AM   
lovingmaster45


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Status: offline 		I love tears on my cock.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 7:55:17 AM   
Isolde


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From: Hamilton, Ontario
Status: offline 		I'm the same way. My tears always come from strong emotions, both good and bad. Physical pain causes me to make a lot of funny faces and loud noises.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 8:20:53 AM   
BenevoleMasterFL


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Status: offline 		I like your signature RE: Assumptions.

Assuming things have caused me lots
of pain in my life.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 8:28:45 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

I know I can be alone
with this, how about the rest of you?


this slave has had tears run down her face from every conceivable emotion--from utter sadness to extreme joy. this slave has also woken up in the recovery room ALREADY crying and screaming from the pain. of course, there is always the inevitable onion chopping--that'll do it every time.

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"The words printed here are concepts. You must go through the experiences." - Saint Augustine

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 8:44:18 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Tears are common in scenes, from any source.

Trust me, if someone got you into a situation they could make you cry from pain. Whether you would prefer to end the scene before that or not...it can be done.

But that's not the point, as long as your scenes and relationship work great for you, then enjoy.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 11:49:19 AM   
wednesday


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Status: offline 		I have cried from pain outside of the bedroom, cutting my hand in the kitchen and the like. But I never cry from the pain IN the bedroom. Usually, if I cry at all, it's from shock, and it stops pretty quickly.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 12:05:19 PM   
Elegant


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Status: offline 		Yes, I have cried from pain in scenes with Master twhen He is in a primal sadistic mood. While I am a masocist and usually enjoy what he does sometimes it downright hurts! That is part of my service to him.

Regards In Leather,
Elegant
~Slave to Master Archer
~Southeast Bootblack 2005

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 12:20:51 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		I didn't cry when I broke my hand. My immediate response to physical pain is to curse and scowl. I think that when I was a kid it was frowned upon to cry when you fell down and hurt yourself. People thought you were a baby. So I learned to control that response to pain and replace it with something deemed more appropriate.

I tend to cry when I'm angry or frustrated, but not from physical pain.

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Me: David, do you know what's going on with him? I just don't understand.

OMGITSDAVID: It makes no sense. Maybe he's tired or whatever

OMGITSDAVID: maybe he's finally gone insane. you have that affect on guys.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 12:31:39 PM   
innoSINt


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Tears....either from pain or emotion
have always come easily to me
but in the bedroom
with Sir above me
smiling down as i serve him completly
makes any tear
any pain
and all joy
worth it



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< Message edited by innoSINt -- 8/19/2005 12:32:59 PM >

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 12:39:03 PM   
mossy


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Status: offline 		There is something that "hurts more" when i have cried tears in bdsm pain.
Personally for me it is very emotional, even though i may not realize it at
the time, or want to show it. i think thats it more than anything, the tears
feel like an expression of "You have broken me down" "You have made it
through my wall of defense" and it is a very unsettling experience for me.
Now i can only say this this about the beginning of a relationship. i have no
idea if a year down the road, this would still feel the same way. i would hope
not, and i am just of course speaking for myself about my own experiences.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 3:12:39 PM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		I'm like you and cry at sad movies, or while reading sad stories. I have never cried, not since I was 10 anyway, at physical pain.

Two years ago I crushed both of my legs, never once did I cry from the pain. Not when it happened or during recovery. There are days I cry because I feel sorry for myself with my disability, but thats another story.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 4:38:22 PM   
CalliopePurple


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Status: offline 		I cry a lot. Some would say too much. Happy, sad, frustrated, hurting, stressed out, flopping back and forth between moods...I cry at all of those times and probably more that I haven't thought of.

Books or movies don't do it often, but some songs always will. I can't figure out the reason sometimes, but I'm fairly content with being an emotional person.

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So bring it on, I've been bruised
Don't give me love that's clean and smooth
I'm ready for the rougher stuff
No sweet romance, I've had enough
~Elton John - I Want Love

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 6:41:55 PM   
InnocentSexpot


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From: San Francisco, now living in Utah
Status: offline 		I tend to cry for other people... whether it's a news story, a good biography, or the personal experience of a friend, I cry when other people are suffering.

and yes I too, cry when chopping onions - I've tried the cold water trick, but it just doesn't work for me...

Rain

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 7:21:15 PM   
softandshy


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Status: offline 		Odd. i seem to be opposite to most of the people who've posted on this. i will cry when i am hurt physically, provided that it's bad enough, and i consider this acceptable. However, it's extremely rare for me to cry over emotional pain. i've learned to vocalize emotional pain, talk through it, but physically i just shut down, go blank faced and monotone.

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 7:28:46 PM   
ProtagonistLily


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quote:

I love tears on my cock.


Thank god you've imparted this knowledge to the masses....

L

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RE: Tears - 8/19/2005 9:27:18 PM   
Lepidoptera


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Status: offline 		I know EXACTLY what you mean.

Pain CANNOT get me to cry- if a dom wants me to cry, he has to both hurt me fairly badly AND humiliate me- without the mental componant the tears just do not come.

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