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RE: Keeping it in. HELP PLEASE!!! - 8/1/2005 2:45:50 PM

mistoferin

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Maybe instead of everyone suggesting bigger, or different shaped plugs, we should consider exercise. The video "Buns of Steel", comes to mind. Tighten those buns, tighten that ass, yes for $19.99 a day and 20 minutes of exercise, you too can hold a butt plug in place while running errands around the house.

While this type of exercise will definitely improve the tone and appearance of the gluteus maximus muscles(the buns), they will have no effect on the tone or control of rectal muscles. The only thing that improves those are pelvic floor exercises(Kegels) and as it has been already pointed out...those muscles are only partly in play and there are involuntary muscles also at work.

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RE: Keeping it in. HELP PLEASE!!! - 8/1/2005 7:40:31 PM

pandoravampire

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hello plantlady,

i think two things:
1. you need a plug that is cone shaped, that has a definate neck, before the stop end, that way, your sphincter can grasp around the neck. straight plugs cannot be held.
2. he's messin with ya

no red flag, just clean fun in my opinion.

May i suggest, that as i find it harder to keep the plug in, the more aroused i am, as your sphincter (everyones does) contract involuntarily as you twitch with pleasure. If his previous partners kept theirs in, they were er, not so pleased as you seem to be lol.

If this is not him playing with you, he'd be rather slow, to not be incorporating this situation into play. I think this is a wonderful opportunity for you both to have heaps of fun with.

enjoy

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RE: Keeping it in. HELP PLEASE!!! - 8/2/2005 7:29:55 AM

plantlady64

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ORIGINAL: pandoravampire

hello plantlady,

i think two things:
1. you need a plug that is cone shaped, that has a definate neck, before the stop end, that way, your sphincter can grasp around the neck. straight plugs cannot be held.
2. he's messin with ya no red flag, just clean fun in my opinion.

May i suggest, that as i find it harder to keep the plug in, the more aroused i am, as your sphincter (everyones does) contract involuntarily as you twitch with pleasure. If his previous partners kept theirs in, they were er, not so pleased as you seem to be lol.

If this is not him playing with you, he'd be rather slow, to not be incorporating this situation into play. I think this is a wonderful opportunity for you both to have heaps of fun with.

enjoy

Hello pandoravampire,
You hit it on the head. After reading him the responses here I light heartedly suggested maybe my rear was nice and tight since I'm so new to things being inserted, and maybe hers (um hum) was just a little wider and being well spread helped her keep it in. You should have seen his grin.
We are having lots more fun with this since I know it's not a realistic expectation and he's accepted it's not that easy to do. I'm still trying to figure it out. Who knows maybe one day I'll get the dang thing to stay.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Keeping it in. HELP PLEASE!!! - 8/2/2005 8:11:44 AM

plantlady64

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ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury

sub suzanne/plantlady64 sorry I don't know you well enough to call you what you wish to be called...as it is..you've explained better what it is you derive from these encounters and I'm glad you set my mind at ease on this issue...since this is a open forum and we all see things differently...misinturptations of a post are the casualities of war...again thank you for the clairification and I hope we don't butt heads again...or should I just put a plug in it and shut up now...(smile)

Fury

Hello Sir Fury,
I prefer suzanne or sub suzanne Sir. I also thank you for your time and effort when it came to being sure I was not being treated badly. I appreciate the fact you cared enough to voice your opinion of worry.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Keeping it in. HELP PLEASE!!! - 8/2/2005 12:53:03 PM

LittleMissSub

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Hey there Suzanne,

I've seen you mention on here before that you don't like anal. I wonder if you've ever manually stimulated yourself during anal sex? Or used a vibe or something like that for clitoral stimulation? Wait until the pain of initial entry has gone away and your muscles have relaxed, then go to town. Orgasms are usually a very good way to change the associations you have in your head with something you don't like.

As to your problem, I've never experienced it, ever. I have a medium sized Doc Johnson plug, and to tell you the truth, going in, is fine, having it in is fine. I can do anything in the world with it in, although i do sit down gentley with it is. However, taking it out, HURTS soooooo much. I have to remind myself that it can't stay in forever. And I usually take it out alone, in the bathroom.

Maybe the problem has something to do with what your body goes through physiologically when you climax. Every woman does it differently. Some women PUSH their muscles to climax, I squeeze my muscles, like I'm doing a really really long keigel excercise. anyways....that's something to think about. But definitely try to climax with SOMETHING in your bum, lol, it's very different, and quite intense, and for a few moments, you don't even feel your bum, just wonderful waves of orgasm lol.

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