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allalone47 -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (11/24/2005 7:29:52 PM)


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ORIGINAL: blackwolf99

'living is easy with eyes closed'

sound about right?

No I don't agree. You have to live this life single or poly with both eyes whide open and both ears open, and a open mind as well. It is hte ones with closed minds and sometimes eyes and ears that get into truble and make the evening news



Patrick2005 -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (11/25/2005 6:27:48 AM)

Poly relationships are fine for those who are in them, but we occasionally hear these laments about "why can't I get people-particularly subs- to understand and love poly so I can get more women?" You gotta admit, that sounds just a little suspicious.

About 90% of the poly relationships I know of consist of one person of one sex collecting multiple partners of the other sex- like the offshoot Mormon poly marriages.

A poly relationship of, say, four men and four women, living together and sharing everything, would have considerable appeal, so long as the entry and exit requirements were carefully defined and rigidly adhered to.



MasterDakota -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/1/2005 3:58:07 PM)

I have com across the same problem, I am a Dom married to a Dom/me, it is hard to find subs that are ok with everything, most of them just want to play and don't want to have any other type of relationship. I have always known be honest, you may lose them but it is better to not have them then to be a dishonest Dom. There are alot of submissives that have been mislead about the poly lifestyle or a Dom with more then one subissive. You cant force someone to be your submissive so be honest and they will come.



LadiesBladewing -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/1/2005 6:20:55 PM)

Poly has worked best for us with people who are already comfortable with poly in the same style that -we- are comfortable with poly. Trying to convert people to our style of poly has not worked well for us, and frankly, we expended very little effort on doing that, once we realized that it just really didn't work. Of course, we're looking for -family-, and we want family that is comfortable with a strictly hierarchical style. We want people who share an openmindedness about spirituality and are comfortable with the intensity that marks our particular household. We want people who want a place to really -belong-, and who we can really, truly cherish for years to come. There are other things that will likely happen, like sex and floggings and other things, but they aren't the foundation of our lives, and so, if someone needs those things more than they need what we have to offer, they'll eventually find themselves unhappy with us. We don't want that, so we try to show ourselves for what we truly are, and be completely honest about our lives.

Lady Zephyr



LadyAidan -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/9/2005 1:44:14 AM)

Maybe because they are afraid to try it or something new. or they as others have said come across posers, wannabes and fakes.

As human we fear what we do not understand and thus we put it down or try to destroy it.

I think that is why tehy run. I am lucky to have very understanding and caring sub/slaves who are not afraid of poly and are with me because they want to be no matter who I am with.

Lady Aidan



Onknees5858 -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/9/2005 7:22:04 AM)

Sorry but I dont read all the 5 pages of posts ... I read your profile and dont see any where the word "poly". If I just read your profile you are a dominant male who look for a trans.
Maybe you could try to explain your point of view in your profile instead of waiting people write to you and discover they dont look for same thing than you.



MsPurrmeow -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/11/2005 1:20:22 AM)

Wow. It's very interesting that this thread has lived since mid-July and is still going strong. Poly is good for some, not so good for others, the same goes for monogamy. There will never be any way of getting non-believers to understand, nor is there a way of making the square pegs fit the round holes. I'm just happy to see that there has been positive, loving reponses to both sides on this topic.

So, how is this thread doing for "longest-running-thread ever?"

Cheers,
Purr



lovingmaster45 -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/11/2005 5:37:40 AM)

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Whats wrong with being a normal one on one couple or do all men have to hide under the cloak of bdsm, as in the vanilla world how many women would put up with this poly crap.


If you don't understand it; call it wrong/abnormal/sick/stupid.

I just got back from Max's Ho Ho Ho party in Raleigh.

I went with my wife, Head Bitch Barbie. The hostess (Max's gf) is a former sub of mine and we still play. Three of the other couples in attendance were also a part of my "family". All 3 of the wives had been trained by me and I helped them to find their current husbands. (All 3 still come to visit when they need a "fix".)There was also a sub who had lived with us for a year. She had asked for her release just 3 months ago; but there was no discomfort and she gave me a holiday blow job; just to show there were no hard feelings. (Some of the people here will recall her...the thin redhead with me at Black Rose 2004.)

Tonight I will have dinner with one of my two current subs and another who is under consideration. The evening will likely end in the hottub under the incredible stars here on my island.

I am sorry you do not understand or tolerate others kink; but I do have a question?

Why would someone so hostile to poly relationships bother to come to this part of collarme?



snowgirlsub -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/11/2005 10:20:06 AM)


If all I wanted was a play partner…poly would not bother me…but I yearn for so much more than that. I’m seeking a committed monogamous relationship that will ‘work’ in and out of BDSM.



MsPurrmeow -> RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly (12/11/2005 1:03:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: snowgirlsub
If all I wanted was a play partner…poly would not bother me…but I yearn for so much more than that. I’m seeking a committed monogamous relationship that will ‘work’ in and out of BDSM.


Are you under the impression that poly families do not WORK outside of playtime? I'm in a 18 year and 10 year poly family based in the vanilla world with lifelong commitments all around. We have the support of multiple family members, investments and future plans that are much more solid than most two-person relaitonships and we get a lot more done in any given day with three abled bodies than with two. It works very well, thankyouverymuch, and any essence of kink is just creamy whipped frosting on the top.

Any additional partners or family members that decide to become a part of such a solid, grounded, long-term family will be doing so on completely even-handed vanilla terms. Life is life, commitments are commitments when it comes to bills, housing and those kinds of decisions. Power structures are simply about how we relate to each other due to emotional or other commitments. Poly works VERY well in the real world.

Just a shot of reality for ya!



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