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MstrHellsFury -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/6/2005 7:03:47 PM)
I've stayed away from this thread for awhile because I really wanted to get some input from mine...each and every one of us seek what's to fill our lives..we don't do it to please or make anyone else happy...what works for me may ( an it seems) be completely wrong for someone else...it kinda got off point suggesting if the Dom/Master looked then the sub/slave was left out ot the loop to be stuck with someone not compatable...I didn't think I mis-spoke on this and re-reading I didn't...I simply stated I made first contact...then my others had all the time and a lot more energy to put into a follow-up...as it was stated who wants the foundation it took years to build to come tumbling down...this was all my opinion on how I do things...I never thought it would disintergrate into a right or wrong thing...if what you do works for you..that's good...what I do works for me...it may take longer to find that right one...but when I do...she's usually around for more than a blink...like long time for me is years...not weeks or several months...so you see it works that way... Fury

shylittleheart -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/7/2005 4:42:33 AM)
Ive read along time on this thread and today felt like placing my thoughts down. Master and myself have looked long and hard for the one to join our home, make our lives even more complete then what it is. Some think a Master of Mistress only wishes another for the sexual side, but that is not our case. It is to form a family unit to be companions,friends and such. My need for a sister is not for sex, yes I believe if a girl wishes poly she doesnt have to be Bi, it would be an added bonus but not a requirement for us. I long for my sister, my friend and companion first. As i have learned I will indure alot of heart ache, heart break before I find my sister. I know she is out there, but where I do not know.

Gurnis -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/9/2005 2:27:28 AM)
I/we have been looking for a "sister-sub" for about 7 years. We have had some success in finding sub's that are interested, we've even had two who moved into our home (not at the same time). However, it has been my experience that a sub usually has some underlying reasons for getting involved in a triad relationship. The first sub to move in with us was getting a divorce and saw us as free room and board. She was into the sex part of the relationship and the D/s aspect. But her primary goal was a rent free room, free laundry, free food and someone to maintain her car. Within a few months she was seeing other people outside the relationship and avoiding us as much as possible. But she didn't want to leave because we were taking care of her. When all attempts to salvage the relationship proved fruitless, I had to take her to court to get her out of my home. The next prospect was really into the relationship, she truly wanted a long term traid. But she also wanted us to raise her 4 children, under her parental rules, but she didn't want to do anything herself. She would not even change her own child's diaper! She would not cook or clean or do anything with her children. All she wanted to do was have sex and watch TV. We tried to make that relationship work for over 9 months before realizing that it was no use. My advice to those seeking D/s/s or Triad, the internet is a good starting point but get away from it asap after finding someone. My sub communicated with that last potential sister sub for 2 years online and talked to her for at least an hour per day on the phone during that time. And still, we were not aware of the problems that lay before us when we finally moved her into our home. No one is perfect and you can expect lots of problems when a person moves into your home. But even with that in mind, there are often problems that are too great to overcome. Just something to think about in your search. A good sub is usually already taken.............................

subcharmedlilone -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/13/2005 8:05:22 PM)
YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS RUN INTO THIS PROBLEM I REALLY BELIEVE THAT MOST OF THE SUB/SLAVE DONT REALY KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS LIFESTYLE EVEN WHEN THE HAVE BEEN IN IT FOR YEARS AS SOME SAY. WE HAVE RAN INTO THE SAME PROBLEM SO WE POSTED IN OUR PROFILE NO HEAD GAMES AND GUESS WHAT THAT DOESNT DO ANYGOOD EITHER. GUESS THEY NEVER LEARNED TO READ EITHER.

MasterGraywolfe -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 8:38:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subcharmedlilone YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS RUN INTO THIS PROBLEM I REALLY BELIEVE THAT MOST OF THE SUB/SLAVE DONT REALY KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS LIFESTYLE EVEN WHEN THE HAVE BEEN IN IT FOR YEARS AS SOME SAY. WE HAVE RAN INTO THE SAME PROBLEM SO WE POSTED IN OUR PROFILE NO HEAD GAMES AND GUESS WHAT THAT DOESNT DO ANYGOOD EITHER. GUESS THEY NEVER LEARNED TO READ EITHER. I agreee with this. We have the same problem.

slavedesires -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 9:32:44 AM)
is this a valid website? This is what i found. Welcome to the Home page of the future website for slavegirltraining.com Administrator, to get started with building your new website, edit this page with any HTML editor or follow these Quick Start steps to begin: To create a website, do one of the following: • Login to your Control Panel to access your File Manager under Site Tools. • Install your Netfirms Website Starter CD to access a complete set of website-building tools. • Watch a demo or read Netfirms tutorials/guides on how to build and manage your new website.

stef -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 9:42:11 AM)
Define 'valid.' The text yiou quoted means that someone has purchased the domain slavegirltraining.com and there is a placeholder for it, but tthe domain owner hasn't yet uploaded any content. ~stef

slavedesires -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 10:02:06 AM)
thanks for clarifying steff...valid means to me, i cant access, so invalid for me to read or learn or whatever....hope the owner opens it up...to learn....... *smiles

ragdoll -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 11:14:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavedesires is this a valid website? This is what i found. Welcome to the Home page of the future website for slavegirltraining.com Administrator, to get started with building your new website, edit this page with any HTML editor or follow these Quick Start steps to begin: To create a website, do one of the following: • Login to your Control Panel to access your File Manager under Site Tools. • Install your Netfirms Website Starter CD to access a complete set of website-building tools. • Watch a demo or read Netfirms tutorials/guides on how to build and manage your new website. If you actually "click" the link (rather than copying and pasting the URL that "DominantMan4f" has above his posts... then you'll be taken to: http://prettyslavegirlswanted.com/ (not SlaveGirlTraining.com) and "prettyslavegirlswanted.com" will then in turn redirect you to here: http://profiles.yahoo.com/prettyslavegirlswanted ~~ ^_^ it seem a round about way to see his Yahoo profile... :) - - and sfgrrl explained placeholders and stuff exactly ^_^ ~

slavedesires -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/14/2005 11:20:36 AM)
thanks again ragdoll. self promotion. *sigh

zaynab -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/22/2005 10:03:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure... I think it's better for the Master to do the interview first... but a sub may want to talk to the Master's sub first for several reasons... ~ she may feel shy or intimidated about talking to the Master first ~ she may think that the sub can give her an idea of how the Master is, from a sub's perspective ~ she may be able to read between the lines to see if the sub sounds truly happy with that Master, while they are communicating ~ the Master's sub may tell her something that she knows would not work for her, and she can end contact then, without wasting the Master's time... kinda like a 'pre-screening' to save bothering him ~ she may want to see if she and the other sub can mesh well first, so if they don't, she doesn't have to bother the Master or waste him time again I would take it as a sign of consideration if the sub talks to the Master's sub first and not him. But for me personally, being that he is the Master, I would be brave and approach him first.

zaynab -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/22/2005 10:08:27 AM)
Wow, Gurnis Sir, You sure do put up with a lot from your subs! ~ zay

slavedesires -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/22/2005 10:26:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zaynab quote: ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure... I think it's better for the Master to do the interview first... but a sub may want to talk to the Master's sub first for several reasons... ~ she may feel shy or intimidated about talking to the Master first ~ she may think that the sub can give her an idea of how the Master is, from a sub's perspective ~ she may be able to read between the lines to see if the sub sounds truly happy with that Master, while they are communicating ~ the Master's sub may tell her something that she knows would not work for her, and she can end contact then, without wasting the Master's time... kinda like a 'pre-screening' to save bothering him ~ she may want to see if she and the other sub can mesh well first, so if they don't, she doesn't have to bother the Master or waste him time again I would take it as a sign of consideration if the sub talks to the Master's sub first and not him. But for me personally, being that he is the Master, I would be brave and approach him first. Bingo zay.... bravo. And Master has told sub/slaves i would be writing. Master is ALWAYS in the background and may even intrject a line to the girl Himself as we chat. Nothing hidden from the One who makes the ultimate choice and who controls all. ~~shy

JohnWarren -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/22/2005 10:38:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zaynab quote: ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure... I think it's better for the Master to do the interview first... but a sub may want to talk to the Master's sub first for several reasons... ~ she may feel shy or intimidated about talking to the Master first ~ she may think that the sub can give her an idea of how the Master is, from a sub's perspective ~ she may be able to read between the lines to see if the sub sounds truly happy with that Master, while they are communicating ~ the Master's sub may tell her something that she knows would not work for her, and she can end contact then, without wasting the Master's time... kinda like a 'pre-screening' to save bothering him ~ she may want to see if she and the other sub can mesh well first, so if they don't, she doesn't have to bother the Master or waste him time again I would take it as a sign of consideration if the sub talks to the Master's sub first and not him. But for me personally, being that he is the Master, I would be brave and approach him first. There is also the not-insignificant-number of times when it turns out there is NO slave and the advertisement was placed by a HNG hoping to get a little fun before the replying party realizes that "she's on a business trip" and "she'll join us after I decide if I like you" really means "GOTYA"

slavedesires -> RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? (8/22/2005 11:02:32 AM)
quote: There is also the not-insignificant-number of times when it turns out there is NO slave and the advertisement was placed by a HNG hoping to get a little fun before the replying party realizes that "she's on a business trip" and "she'll join us after I decide if I like you" really means "GOTYA" please Sir, i can see this happening yes, but for us who really desire, no amount of trolling or cybersex talk is part of what we look for. we received email yesterday and offered my cam to see me....ONLY to chat as my pic wasnt very appropriate...i never turned my cam off faster. so i have had this happen in reverse. lessons learned.... Failure is not fatal. Failure should be our teacher, nor our undertaker. It should challenge us to new heights of accomplishments, not pull us to new depths of despair. From honest failure can come valuable experience. ~~shy

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