RE: not allowed to love Him what do I do?

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feline -> RE: not allowed to love Him what do I do? (7/18/2005 12:05:38 PM)
First of all . . . I don't "play" with people I'm not emotionally connected to. [:)] To answer your question . . . . . move on. I know it's not as easy as it sounds. But in the end, it will be better for you. And more fullfilling to be with someone you can love. [image]local://upfiles/17000/31904F34F51A48C2877D8DF63406F504.gif[/image]

Hissweetshiv -> RE: not allowed to love Him what do I do? (7/20/2005 7:13:29 AM)
"Not allowed to love Him"?? "Stop loving Him"??? I feel your pain but since when is emotion something you can turn on and off like the garden hose? A C/couple can agree not to allow emotion to affect the relationship if T/they prefer (and some actually manage it) but you can NOT tell someone "you aren't allowed to love me" and expect them to obey you. Emotion is not logical - never has been. I have to agree that you need to take a large step back and spend some time evaluating your self and your needs before heading off to where He is. You are obviously very unhappy as things stand - why make it worse by being unhappy in a place where you don't know anyone but the source of the unhappiness?

Mercnbeth -> RE: not allowed to love Him what do I do? (7/20/2005 8:26:24 AM)
quote: Yes that's right I'm not allowed to love my Master. if that was a direct order and you have disobeyed Him, did you really expect to "change" His mind? sounds like He has been honest with you--you are not the one He is looking for to be "in love" with. this slave would encourage you to either accept it and continue your one-sided love relationship or beg for release.

Faramir -> RE: not allowed to love Him what do I do? (7/20/2005 8:55:01 AM)
This is a reasonably common circumstance: a Dom or Master who wants control and power, but doesn't want, for whatever reason, emotional intimacy, paired with an "s" who longs for emotional intimacy. That's a game framed to lose. You have contradictory values, and a contradictory ultimate end - it is hard to imagine a worse situation. I won't offer any judgment or advice - I am sorry you have such a tough situation, and hope you both have the wisdom and honesty to find a just solution to your situation.

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