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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/20/2004 1:07:21 PM

Voltare

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ORIGINAL: EStrict

::trying to keep a perfectly straight face::

Yeah, but if all us keep talking about how hot Lawrence's ass makes us, we may give him a *swelled head*,,,,, or two :)

I have a vague thought that if I discussed how hot Lawrence's ass made me, that he'd do much swelling (grin.)

Sorry, just not my thing.

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/21/2004 6:18:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: confusetheswede
because two Dom's can never be happy with eachother.

Interesting. I have seven years under my belt that so far would prove that to be wrong.

*smile*

Granted I *am* a switch - but those that know me real life would agree with me (I think) when I say I am naturally primarily dominant, and that is how I comport and handle myself nearly all the time.

I don't think I really give off much of a sub vibe even when I'm around or interacting with my partner in day to day things - though I'm sure others would be able to speak better on that as no doubt I am far too close to see that objectively.

In the end - time will tell if we work out. 7 years is a good start, I'd say though, and a good indictation that the probability and potential for working is indeed there.

We shall see, I suppose, lol.

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/21/2004 7:39:47 PM

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I wrote this today for a message thread on another site, but it does a good job of summing up some thoughts I have.

Stephan

I have this image, of a woman. She is strong, intelligent, vibrent. When she smiles, the whole room lights up. She smells wonderful, and wears these sexy clothes all the time, because she loves how it makes her feel. She has fascinating thoughts, amazing perspectives, and really makes me stop and think. She challenges me in every fibre of my being, but never as an opponant - always as a partner, a friend, a playmate.

None of this is because she is a submissive - submission is simply an aspect of our lives. She loves her role in supporting me, and I love my role in caring for her.

My fantasy doesn't include the times when we're tight on money, or when one of us decides we hate our job, or when someone we love dies: these are the things that we endure as part of life, and reminds us that life isn't about what we do in the bedroom (or living room, kitchen, front porch, on the highway) but about every part of life.

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/22/2004 12:42:40 AM

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back to Lawerence's ass....

laughs...I couldn't resist.

Ladies, I am thinking it is past time for an update with new pics.

Isn't it nice to be ... lusted after?

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/22/2004 10:30:07 PM

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Isn't it nice to be ... lusted after?

M. Kiss-

It is lovely, and a balm to my battered psyche- thank you all.

I think I may in fact have an update- I'll post them when I make some I like (it's amazing how hard it is to get a shot that doesn't look cheesy).

Stay warm,
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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/23/2004 8:36:58 AM

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might I suggest a thread dedicated solely to the pics of your gluteous maximii??? where the ladies can drool in private (as it were) and not have to contaminate every other thread here with references to your buns?

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/23/2004 6:14:36 PM

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/23/2004 6:19:02 PM

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Hello,

Personally, the tasteful presentation of his gluteus maximus, and the various posts relating to it has made me ponder whether I should waste valuable internet bandwidth posting a shot of mine. A lot of this stems from the fact that this low carb diet and exercising all the time (work) seems to be giving me muscle definition (like six pack abs) in places I thought would never get it again.

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 6/23/2004 6:31:32 PM

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ok trying again here---lol--sounds like a marriage to me--- 2 people with equal rights and opinions-- same interests--respect playing a large part in it-- people who understand the issue of trust and live by it-- not a bad situation over all if love is there

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 7/3/2004 10:38:20 AM

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Though many people have put their opinion, I see not many responses on those who have been in dominant relationships.
I still talk to my first boyfriend, and only recently found out he can be submissive, just never something I thought about. The relationship ended for the wrong reasons, and if I could live it over, I probably would, and do it right
My second boyfriend was very dominant, and I finally had to end the relationship because of it (it wasn't quite vanilla, and not quite bdsm O.o where does that fit?)
I have for a long time felt...filthy isn't quite the word, but upset at the very least at submitting to someone partially against my will (don't take that wrong, I do have a rather buried submissive side that comes out and makes me feel very uncomfortable when it does)
As to if I could ever be in a long term relationship with a Dom/Domme....I don't know. Friendships are one thing, and I'm sure I could manage that, but I don't think much more. I do not feel the natural order of things is Male Dominated. I feel the Female is much more capable of 'ruling the world' so to speak. And where this notion came from no one has quite figured out yet.

I prefer being the dominant over a submissive as compared to a co dominant relationship, because I tend to have much less problems in that type of relationship. Yes, a dominant may be good for me, but they tend to unintentionally make me something that I am not, and actually makes me sick to become for any length of time (if you think it's a joke it's not, I was sick constantly in the dominating house of my mother and get sick often in my father's house, but anywhere else, or when they're not home, I'm just fine)

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RE: Dominant Male & Female Relationships? - 7/3/2004 1:47:12 PM

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I am a natural FemDom and am currently in relationship with a Dom. I've had one before, and in both cases, both of Us were evolved, in touch with who We are and what We want, self-aware, communicative and sensitive. It is absolutely the BEST that it can be..if both people bring a LOT to the table. I enjoy submissives with those qualities, as well. We are truly equal...do not struggle over "who has the upper hand" but very fluidly share and move together, and explore everything that is possible.

But it takes two VERY VERY rare people.

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