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deelights -> confused (6/1/2005 9:47:47 PM)
I have recently joined a poly relationship, things seemed to be going really well and one small incident sent me into an emotional tailspin. I do mean small it was petty and I do not believe either I nor the other slave intended any hurt to one another. It was she who introduced me. I did discuss it with Master and yes it is extremely petty it was over something i created and added to her creation that she later removed. It was something I was told I was in charge of so when it was removed i thought Master removed it. I was so deeply sorry that I had offended her when I realized what had happened but I was also very hurt. I apologized but I am still hurting, I feel that I stepped over a boundary or something and as it is petty I hate to bring it up again. Maybe I just needed to write this out, being new to the dynamics I just felt horrible that i somehow caused this and want to deal with it better next time

ShiftedJewel -> RE: confused (6/2/2005 3:34:56 AM)
As much as I, and many others, would love to help you out here deelights your post if pretty vague. Would you be able to elaborate some? Jewel

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: confused (6/2/2005 5:50:44 AM)
And just keep talking about it with everyone. This is the not so fun part of poly- everyone has to find their niche, everyone has to learn how to work with all the different personalities and quirks that we ALL have. But just keep talking, get to the roots of it and work out how to prevent it next time. As long as everyone feels heard, anything is possible.

asissyforher -> RE: confused (6/19/2005 11:18:42 PM)
quote: Buying the right computer and getting it to work properly is no more complicated than building a nuclear reactor from wristwatch parts in a darkened room using only your teeth.--- Dave Berry not trying to change a thread here..but just quickly..whomever this berry character is; i have built by hand 4 computers myself i fail to see the issue. is it just me? thanks i'm done. just a comment is all.

SweetDommes -> RE: confused (6/19/2005 11:33:57 PM)
And back on topic ... I would say that if you have discussed it, but aren't satisfied, then you need to talk about it more. Did you only talk about it with you Master or did the three of you talk about it together? If it was something that you were put in charge of, and the other sub changed it, in my opinion, that is something that the other sub should be punished for (unless she didn't know that you had been put in charge of it ... in which case, there is a lack of communication that needs to be addressed). The whole thing is, there has to be communication ... lots of it ... and often. No relationship can survive without communication, but in a poly relationship, it becomes even more important (I think). There are just so many more issues that will come about in a poly relationship that don't come up in a mono relationship.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: confused (6/20/2005 5:25:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes There are just so many more issues that will come about in a poly relationship that don't come up in a mono relationship. Off topic comment: Sweet that's such a cute kitty! One of the boyfriends cats looks just like that.

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