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hello, we are new here - 6/11/2004 7:17:22 PM

MZkit10

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hello everyone we are new here, just signed up today on the site. We are a married couple looking for a female to be a sub to us. We are unsure where to start searching or how to find one. Any help?? thanks for any ideas you may have for us

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/11/2004 7:24:11 PM

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Hi! and welcome from a fellow newbie!

If you haven't filled out your profile that's the best way to start, you can put a description of what you're seeking as well as your interests, experiences, etc...

You can also use the search feature and look for female subs in your state.

Good luck in your search!

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/11/2004 7:37:26 PM

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Welcome to CollarMe

To all of you!

Starting on the other side with a personal is a great way to start. Keep in mind there are liars and fakes everywhere you go, so use caution. If you have any questions this board offers a wealth of information, if you cannot find the answers already posted somewhere, post the question. We have some excellant members here that are very helpful!

Should you ever need anything or have an issue you need to address feel free to contact the Moderator's on the personal's side. Just type in Moderator in the search box and you will find profiles for all of us, there you can mail us. Or you can use the Contact Admin link at the top of every page. We may not always know the answers, but will try to help best we can, or try to find someone with an answer.

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/11/2004 7:51:53 PM

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thanks for the welcome and I have one quick question, I filled out our profile and when it gets to the part about our interests, there are many things NOT on the list. How do I add things to my interested list??? For example we are interested in anal sex and anal worship (example) and they are neither on the list for me to click. How do I add additional ones like I am seeing in other peoples profile???

thanks for all your help

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 1:43:55 AM

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Welcome to the site! *smile*

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 6:43:32 PM

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Hello MZkit, To both of you,

. First anal worship is at the top of the list, please look again. As to addressing interests that are not on the click list. Simply list them on the comments side, remember what you free type in will always appear with your interests list. Good luck in your hunt. Watch out for fakes, be safe, Sundew

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 8:24:06 PM

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hmmmm......maybe I am blind, but here is what i see..........

Click on interests for brief descriptions

Shibari Fisting Equestrian Play
Knife Play Medical Exams 24/7 Naked / Only Collar & Cuffs
Needle Play Suspension Long-term Imprisonment
Rubber Fetish Enemas Chastity Belts / Orgasm Denial
Spanking Gorean Single Tail Whipping
Wax Play Mummification Ownership Tattoos & Brands
Play Rape Breath Control Induced Lactation
Fire Play Golden Showers Verbal Humiliation
Scat Objectification All Expenses Provided
Old Guard Electrical Play Polyamorous Relationships

I do not see any anal worship, oral sex giving recieving, vaginal sex,.......etc

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 11:37:50 PM

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I think that the interests that are listed depend on what you classify yourself as. Maybe someone else can verify that.

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 11:48:46 PM

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Estring is right, it depends on what role and gender you classify yourself as.

Best way to fix it is said before, just include the list on your profile about 'you.' Also, just a word from someone who's been around the block a bit - couples looking for a single female sub are a bit like a single guy trying to pick up a lesbian at a straight bar. I'd estimate there might be ten couples for every single female sub seeking a couple - without addressing appearance, location, habits, and other important issues. I would suggest you might have some luck attending local muches and becoming active in your nearest People Exchanging Power or other BDSM affiliated social organization. You could get lucky online, of course, but realistically expect to take a good year or three to find someone to meet your needs.

Just my few cents, welcome to the boards!

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/12/2004 11:51:55 PM

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Or try kidnapping.

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 3:03:12 AM

inyouagain

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MZkit10
I do not see any anal worship, oral sex giving recieving, vaginal sex,.......etc

In the "Edit Profile" window, click interests, and there should be a note below the interests you see listed in your profile:

"Note: Each type of profile has a different selection of interests"

In your case, as dominants, you get to search for those submissives who are into anal worship, oral sex, etc, and any subs seeking will review your profile interests (structured by your classification). As stated by others, the comments section of your profile is your free-reign area, to fully expand what it is you are truly seeking. This is also the area in which you speak directly to prospective subs/slaves, so take advantage of that and clarify your particular interests.

Click on "Advanced Search" in the search box and it should give you both a "handle/nick" search box, as well as a "text to search for" box and better search options for your particular search interests.

This board runs on a script that remembers your last completed search criteria and returns the same search until a subsequent search is performed. Remember this, as each time you change the search criteria, the script recalls your last search. This is also true of the several buttons on left side for "New Users", "Favorites", "Admirers", etc.

Also as mentioned by others, don't expect the wonderful internet to be inhabited by sincere and genuine lifestylers, as they seem to be the exception most times, where the rule is normally lots of players, wannabes and trolls just looking for kinky sex, or masturbation fodder. It could provide results quickly if the circumstances were perfect, but as mentioned... it could take a good long while, as you experience dashed hopes and become used by some of the unscrupulous type players you will meet.

After all this, any local groups or organizations would likely be a better starting point unless you have nothing but time on your hands, and wish to stay with the "pot luck" online search.

Welcome and best wishes.

Inyouagain

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 11:52:02 AM

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ok so how do we go about meeting someone in person at a function like you say? I have never heard of anykind of function like this anywhere at all in my area. Is there a place that lists these type of functions somewhere?

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:08:06 PM

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MZkit10,
Where are you located? When trying to do a search on the collarme side. It shows no profile at all.

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:30:56 PM

MZkit10

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it doesn't show? we are in northwest ohio
I just did a search and it brought up my profile.............don't understand why you dont see it

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:35:23 PM

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It did'nt for me. I even copied your name to the other side in the search box. I think it was iwillserveu who was having the same problem. You may want to ask him what he did to correct it.

I'll try it again just to be sure though. Maybe its a glitch on my side...who knows.

Anyway there are several organizations on Ohio. You just need to know where to look.

If I get your profile...I'll let you know...

Here is a link for you.

http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgsohio.html#OH

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:45:48 PM

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I still can't bring up your profile. Not sure..what's going on. Maybe I should look my own up.

Anyone else know if you can see MzKits profile?

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:47:37 PM

MZkit10

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what does it say when you just search in ohio, ages 30-40, dominant, etc.........see if I come up that way, you can also click with pics since we have one

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:49:33 PM

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It shows up then. Not when I just type your name in though. What's up with that?

I copied and pasted your name from here so I know I didn't mis-spell it.

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:50:51 PM

MZkit10

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anything about my profile I should change? Like I said we are new at this and will take any advice you may give........thanks

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RE: hello, we are new here - 6/13/2004 1:53:48 PM

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I'd say as long as its honest and what you truly are seeking then it's good.

However, you are saying you are a couple. What about him? You can always add more photos. Or a him and her photo. Give the same type of description of the man in the relationship.

I know if it were me I'd want to know everything I could about both parties.

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