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difinitions..switch/dom/sub - 2/17/2006 12:19:26 PM

jimej6

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Hi, I was just wondering what this all means to everyone else, specifically, and it can never hurt to get outside opinions. I for instance, call my self a switch because I can switch depending on whom I'm with and the situation. My desires center on my partners mainly because I have such a diverse fantasy life. I have noticed others assume I cannot be dominant or submissive exclusively in a relationship and be happy, I can and have. I have a lot of experience with both. When I refer to switch I am talking about my desire to fulfill my partner. That is my goal at least and my definition. What about everyone else? I have to believe there are many different perceptions about the titles and roles. So what do you think? I am not looking for strict definitions just personal ones.

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RE: difinitions..switch/dom/sub - 2/19/2006 8:47:18 PM

ShadeDiva

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I think it will always vary on who you ask.

I really don't dwell much on labels myself, because frankly, I don't work well with labels and I don't fit neatly into little boxes.

I tend to find out how the person I am interacting with sees it and then go from there. Works for me anyway.

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RE: difinitions..switch/dom/sub - 2/21/2006 8:57:00 PM

Laura

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I agree. A label is something you have to fit into rather than being who you really are. Being a Switch is a choice in a way cause it's the only label that doesn't come in a tight llittle box. Someone who chooses to be a sub is stuck there. But to switch means you can change at will.

It's funny, I don't consider myself bi not even bi curious yet I can write it well. Everyone has edges they come to, where you stop and decide not to keep going. But, too many edges will make a box.

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