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a quick qeustion - 4/10/2005 9:13:25 PM

analwhore

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I have recently met a misstress who treats me very well and thus far we seem to fit together like a puzzle. She has also expressed her wishes to collar me and I must admit that it fills me with joy to be her property but on to the qeustion just a bit of background. The other night after a very enjoyable session we did the usuall talking and comming off of the high we get from eachother. misstress asked me a qeustion and my response was not fitting. Misstress was sturn with me for a moment then told me that it was hard to be sturn with me. The question is that is it good or bad that it is hard for misstress to be sturn with me? I seek to please misstress and this has brought many thoughts to mind. Like I said earlier we get along so very well and our feelings for eachother are mutuall. This is seriuos relationship and I only want to know how i can improve my service to misstress. thank you to all of you who would read and or ansewer this qeustion for me.

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RE: a quick qeustion - 4/11/2005 8:10:32 AM

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Maybe she doesn't feel a need to be stern as you are so good!

Best way to know how to be better for her is to ask her. Us Dommes are different in our likes and expectations so what I may like she may not.

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RE: a quick qeustion - 4/11/2005 8:48:43 AM

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Thank you for the advice mam. I am still trying to learn the ropes and how to cope with qeustions so please accept my appoligies if I should say something that is not right. I would tend to think it's not that im being good (I have much training yet) but, I do aim to please misstress. I do understand that just as with any other aspect of personality everyone is different but, I had hoped for some general thoughts on this matter. Also please forgive my spelling of stern. This qeustion is one of many I have for misstress. I must admit that when misstress first contacted me that I had fear in my eyes but, through her actions misstress has laid many fears to rest i crave every time more than the last. In her training of me she always stopped it if if it was hurting me in a way that could be damaging. When ever I ask misstress what set the red flag off and why (always in curiosity i have no reason to qeustion her judgement) misstress is always very open and explains clearly in a way that I may understand. So I can't see why this would be different. Again thank you mam.

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RE: a quick qeustion - 4/11/2005 9:24:11 AM

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I think maybe the two of you may be going through a "getting to know you" time right now, that may be part of why she stops and asks you if you are ok so often, she is trying to discover your limits and thresholds.

She may have found it difficult to be stern with you at that moment because of the timing as well, as you said, you were both coming off the "high" from your "playing". I agree with Oumae, you should ask her about it.

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edited for grammer error.........

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RE: a quick qeustion - 4/12/2005 7:44:35 PM

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I have to agree with you madaam jewel. I asked misstress why she found it hard to be stern with me and, what she told me was that when she is stern with me that even though she knows that I am her slave and knows that I know my place with her that I have this way of making her smile. When she does smile while she is stern I still know what I have done wrong and I feel terrible about it either way. Not once though has the play when further than I wished for it to. Again thank you both madaams.

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RE: a quick qeustion - 4/12/2005 10:07:03 PM

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I believe ShiftedJewel is right on the money! May I suggest that your desire to please your Mistress does in fact "Please Her"! From what you are discribing it seems you have a careing, and sensual Mistress who is getting to know your limits etc. I believe that if you continue to ask your Mistress what you can do for her, then do your best to carry out Her wishes; you'll both be very happy.

You are fortunate! May I suggest you check the Ask a Mistress topic. There you will find many threads answering a veriety of questions. And, by all means ask questions! You will find you can ask about anything here as long as you do it politely and tactfully.

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