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a friend did this - 3/25/2004 1:18:32 AM

CoolScentDomme

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deleted...because you ppl are to feeble

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RE: a friend did this - 3/25/2004 6:45:51 AM

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Alright, first of all, not to sound calloused about it, but I can't make heads or tails of what she is talking about. I'm guessing (and it is only a guess) that she was friends with a man, then took him as a sub and moved into his place? Some time after this happened, he stopped being her sub and the relationship went back to being platonic? Now, he is having the unmitigated gall to ask her to move out (rather nicely, it sounds like)??? I'm probably way off base here because this post, as I said, is kind of murky to a reader who doesn't know the context of the thread from which it comes.

If I'm not off base here and the circumstances are what I described, she needs to be a grown-up and go get her own place to live. Relationships do sometimes end, and it doesn't necessarily (or even usually) mean that one or both of the parties involved were "playing at BDSM".

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RE: a friend did this - 3/25/2004 2:44:06 PM

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Cool, if you want to disparage us, you should get it right. It is"too feeble", not "to feeble". Otherwise you just look ignorant.

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RE: a friend did this - 3/25/2004 3:00:14 PM

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i don't understand. you got one reply and decided to pull your post. i think if you'd left it up a bit longer, or perhaps clarified, you could have gotten more feedback.
i found it a bit confusing, and would have liked to read more about the situation.

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RE: a friend did this - 3/25/2004 3:25:24 PM

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Exactly Perverse. I had read the post and agree with Leonidas that it was a bit vague in what the actual problem was. I was hoping for some clarification before fully forming an opinion. Even he did not actually give an opinion, he said if (a) then *a*, if (b) then *b* but that he would prefer more information.

I have to wonder Cool, *is* there a friend, or is this one of those *friends* that people use when they want advice but don't want to admit they may have done something wrong, stupid or thoughtless? If it is a friend, you have shown yourself not to be a good one to her by not allowing this to play out. If it is one of the other kind of *friends* it comes of as showing that you sought to have your poor bruised ego stroked (after all, the male sub in question rejected the dominant female), and when that did not happen chose to denigrate those that dared held the mirror for you to look into rather than opening your eyes to other possibilities.

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RE: a friend did this - 3/25/2004 4:37:19 PM

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I'm disappointed Cool. I was reluctant to respond to your post in the first place because it bordered on the kind of "lets air some dirty laundry in public" drama that any of us with more than a few months' experience in this life avoid like the plague. I gave you the benefit of the doubt on the off chance that you were seeking honest opinions and feedback. I guess I was wrong.

I will tell you a little something that I've learned over the years Cool. A truly dominant personality handles their own business. They deal with others in a forthright, mature and upstanding fashion. They behave like grown ups, and they take their lumps in this life along with their pleasures. That isn't to say that they don't seek advice from their peers sometimes, because they surely do if they are smart. What is really telling though, is how someone takes advice once they have asked for it. In my humble opinion, someone worthy of being called a dominant doesn't seek, nor will they abide the company of kiss-asses. Someone who does isn't dominant, they are co-dependant. They seek out both submissives and kiss-ass peers because their wanting ego and self-image needs constant salving. The type is too common, dangerous, and the source of a great deal of the strife in any D/s community. I do hope that you aren't one of them, but your behavior here makes me wonder.

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RE: a friend did this - 4/20/2004 1:41:56 PM

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Well being a member of the "you ppl"
and not having a clue what this post
was about,( dont like being called feeble
when I dont know what Im being lasooed
into with the rest of the ppl)hows about
I get to see what this post was? ~giggles~
"a friend did this" sounds like it could of
been interesting......

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RE: a friend did this - 4/20/2004 3:15:45 PM

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In addition to the incorrect use of the word "to", I think feeble is misused as well. Although I will be putting words in her mouth, I think we "ppl" would be "too feeble-minded" as opposed to just plain old feeble.

However, I am glad Cool used the word feeble, because it's kind of fun to say over and over and over.

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RE: a friend did this - 4/24/2004 9:44:22 AM

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I missed your post, but read Leonidas' response to it. I've read some of his other responses and I've come to respect him thusfar, even if I don't always agree with him. That's the way it is here. I believe we call that "growing pains" in life. Don't delete your posts and run away. You really are among those of like mind, all of us growing together, as it were. In a forum where there are Dominants and submissives, some switches, and perhaps a few who are new to the lifestyle and a bit undecided. Whatever the case may be, it is all good. We are not "feeble" at all, mayhap a bit challenged before the second cup of coffee in the morning (I prefer chai latte' myself), but certainly not "feeble".

I am Lady Beckett, and I look forward to sometimes agreeing, disagreeing, but always growing with you. Welcome, CoolScentDomme.

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