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What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/2/2006 6:25:38 PM

plzblisterme

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I know that I need, and crave, to be spanked. What I don't know is how I offer what a woman needs to be the spanker. How do I serve, or at least make myself more aware of her needs....if I ever find "her".

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RE: What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/2/2006 6:35:15 PM

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I know that I need, and crave, to be spanked. What I don't know is how I offer what a woman needs to be the spanker. How do I serve, or at least make myself more aware of her needs....if I ever find "her".

Is getting spanked all that you crave?

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RE: What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/2/2006 7:22:24 PM

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If spanking is your sole interest, I advise you to make that very clear. The spanko universe is a world away from bdsm---actually, many spankos are astoundingly vanilla!

Many men make the mistake of saying they want a "domme" when they really just want to bottom to someone. There's nothing wrong with being a bottom, of course, but a domme is going to want much more from you!

I haven't been out and about in Ohio in awhile, but there are spanking clubs in Pittsburgh and Columbus. Are male bottoms welcome there? Not usually....... Crimson Moon in Chicago is switch and male bottom friendly, google them and they might be able to help you with local groups.

Outside of a party situation, a woman is generally not going to just want to play with you and get nothing out of the deal. You will more than likely have to make friends with her first, and treat her like a person, rather than a hairbrush activation device.

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RE: What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/2/2006 8:01:20 PM

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Pittsburgh Spanking Group

This is a group for people in the Greater Pittsburgh/Tri-State areas who are primarily interested in spanking. The group's purpose is to create an safe active supportive spanking community in this area. We meet for monthly munches and parties. It is an adult moderated group. Everyone must be 25 have a Yahoo profile which includes their: age, gender, location, and marital status.

Web Site: groups.yahoo.com/group/PittsburghSpanking

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RE: What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/2/2006 8:04:53 PM

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But if you are looking for a hairbrush activation device (hehe, love it LadyHibiscus) then I suggest that you look for a Pro. I think there are several in the Cleveland area, I may still have some of their screen names if you would like.....

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RE: What does it mean to serve a domme? - 1/3/2006 1:56:36 AM

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I know that I need, and crave, to be spanked. What I don't know is how I offer what a woman needs to be the spanker. How do I serve, or at least make myself more aware of her needs....if I ever find "her".

You cannot serve her without being aware of her needs. You cannot be aware of her needs without first having communicated with her.

Her needs and your needs are different.

Which is more important. The fufilling of your needs to be spanked or the want to serve? They are not the same thing (not that both can't be fulfilled, not the any variation in between the poles can't be experienced).

You write of your 'need' to be spanked and your 'want' to serve so you can get spanked.

Just an observation, but then, I'm an extremist.

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