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What Category...


Monogamous?
  63% (37)
Open Relationship?
  12% (7)
Polyandrous?
  13% (8)
A-sexual or non-sexual?
  5% (3)
Other explain?
  5% (3)


Total Votes : 58
(last vote on : 11/23/2005 6:03:54 PM)
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What Category... - 7/31/2005 7:50:49 PM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		What category do you fall most closely into when in
relationships?

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RE: What Category... - 7/31/2005 7:53:03 PM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		I am in an Open relationship, but prefer a Monogamous one.

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RE: What Category... - 7/31/2005 8:01:31 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		I am also in a totally monogamous relationship. We tried to have an open relationship, and a poly, but we just are too jealous I guess

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RE: What Category... - 7/31/2005 9:59:14 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		We are monogamous, but i would prefer a more open relationship.

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RE: What Category... - 8/11/2005 2:18:32 AM   
NakedOnMyChain


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Status: offline 		Monogamy for me. I wouldn't have it any other way. But everyone's different...

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RE: What Category... - 8/11/2005 10:29:05 PM   
MadameDahlia


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Status: offline 		If I'm attracted to Person A and Person A seems equally attracted to me - I let them know what I'm like, how I think and what sort of relationships I'm open to.

- They can be good friends with benefits.
- If they want more I let them know who I am, what I'm like and what I want from life - which is never to be restricted in the number of people I am involved with. If that isn't their cup of tea there are plenty of other people for each of us - and I wish them the best.
- If they can understand and be comfortable with the fact that I'm bisexual, dominant and greedy - as well as interested in loving/playing with whomever I wish - I may explore other options with this person.

I may focus entirely on Person A while s/he and I learn more about one another, trust one another more deeply and solidify the foundation of our relationship. When both Person A and I are comfortable I may alert them to the possibility of a Person B. I'll repeat the process. A and B may not wind up scening together, may not wind up touching one another - but both will understand that this is how I intend to function. Both will either agree to be okay with it and respectful to one another. Otherwise it simply won't work.



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RE: What Category... - 8/12/2005 1:01:08 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		Interesting, thanks for your imput MDalia,

You are more extreme in your thinking and way of doing things than my Domina.
We have been together a year and a half without having been sexual or romantically interested in anyone else, although we have an agreement that our relationship is an open one. We may have to face this as a couple down the road, niether of us has been in an open relationship before so it is something new to both of us.

We are a couple in our 40's. She has decided she is jaded on the belief's you can only love and be sexual with one person at a time or that true love lasts forever and wants to keep our lives open to exciting and new experiences.
I care about her deeply, but honestly do not know how either of us will react(mostly me)
when and if we find ourselves attracted to another, we have talked about bringing in at some point another woman and possibly living poly. But that is something way down the road, depending on what happens.

Oh the possibilities.

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RE: What Category... - 8/12/2005 1:22:30 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		I wanted to also say...I am surprised at the results of the Poll so far.
I don't know why? But for some reason the big lead of Monogamy seems somewhat high....Geeze maybe I am getting Jaded too

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RE: What Category... - 8/13/2005 11:41:07 AM   
Hallittlelolita


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Status: offline 		Monogamy for my Master/Husband and I and nothing else. I've had a fantasy on someone watching us though but that's as far as it will go LOL.

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RE: What Category... - 8/13/2005 12:31:30 PM   
nella


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From: Norway
Status: offline 		I am in an Monogamy that might be made into a Poly.

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RE: What Category... - 8/14/2005 11:16:03 AM   
smile2cu


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From: Dayton, OH
Status: offline 		Was married and monogamous for many years. My wife passed away, and I'm dating a number of very nice women at the moment. I'm not into one-night stands, so these tend to be open relationships.
I'm probably too affectionate and romantic not to settle down eventually, but I really like this phase as well.

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RE: What Category... - 8/14/2005 12:09:45 PM   
ragdoll


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From: New England
Status: offline 		My response is probably a little dumb... but i chose "Other"...
i wanted to choose "Open" (since i like that idea when it comes to relationships).. but honestly i haven't been in a relationship ever, unless a small relationship in highschool counts...

~i picked "Other" 'cause i figure "when it comes to relationships" i can't fit into any other catagory.

heh.. :) i know, maybe that's silly.....
anyway! if i were in a relationship i think i would like it to be an "Open" one.. but.. i'm not totally sure... ^^;

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RE: What Category... - 8/15/2005 3:08:38 AM   
MadameDahlia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: brightspot

Interesting, thanks for your imput MDalia,

You are more extreme in your thinking and way of doing things than my Domina.


-small grin- I'm not entirely sure that I'm extreme exactly - I just feel that this would clear up jealousy and several other issues to some degree.

If I'm in a caring, understanding relationship with Person A and s/he and I communicate often and well enough I'd then be able to explore adding someone to my family. I do not require Person A to interact with Person B sexually, emotionally or physically. (For example Person A might be a lesbian while Person B may be a heterosexual male.)

However both must be comfortable with being respectful and considerate toward the other. (No cat fights, no nasty behaviors, no snide comments - no being rude or argumentative simply because they're being pissy with one another.)

Both must understand and accept that I'm one person and I cannot be in two places at once. (If both of them want to interact with me - but they do not wish to scene with one another - they'll have to be comfortable with compromise.)

They'll have to agree that small concerns and issues that crop up will be dealt with in an adult manner. I don't want either of them to act up should they disagree. (I don't want to hear about Person A having had all her make up thrown away because she put Kool-Aid in Person B's shampoo bottle - They should solve problems in a more efficient manner.)

All I'm trying to circumvent is senseless bickering and petty behaviors that might make a household such as this impossible - or downright unbearable to live with.

** However you may consider one thing about my future household a bit extreme - and perhaps a tad "Big Brother". I don't want to deal with that "he said/she said" nonsense. And I don't want anyone to take advantage of anyone within my home. Closed circuit televisions and microphones will monitor all rooms of the house. Video and audio recordings will be saved six to eight months after being recorded.

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RE: What Category... - 8/15/2005 3:48:57 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		No offence meant MDahlia.
Thanks for expressing more of how you do things.
I learn something new, almost everytime I come here.
And I am of interest because my Domina in the future
may chose to introduce a 3rd woman into our relationship
and it helps to educate myself as best I can as to somewhat
prepare myself.

I have never been in an open relationship(year1/2 now), let alone
been part of a triad.
We haven't experimented yet and haven't been sexual out-side of
our relationship. But my Domina is very open and honest of this
being a possibility She would eventually like us to explore.

Yes, the Video taping
does seem extreme to me, where is the trust?

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< Message edited by brightspot -- 8/15/2005 3:50:58 AM >

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RE: What Category... - 8/15/2005 4:01:35 AM   
MadameDahlia


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Status: offline 		No offense taken!

I would assume that anyone I take into my home as a 24/7 live-in would be someone I trusted. They wouldn't get that far without it. However if two in my household came to me with a quarrel I think it would be simple enough to solve the problem if it came down to a matter of "A's word against B's".

On top of that I'd like for the security measures to be in place so that the people in my home are safe. However life's roads are not always paved as well as we'd hope or like. Should someone break in I would very much like to have solid proof of that for court - in whatever manner the footage may be used.



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RE: What Category... - 9/1/2005 1:10:12 PM   
KnightRaven


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Status: offline 		I'm not averse to monogamy, my mental makeup is most aligned to poly. Though I wouldn't have the ability to be in a large family, my attention focus is too narrow for that, someone/s would end up being neglected and I wouldn't tolerate that. So it's small families for me.

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RE: What Category... - 9/1/2005 1:30:10 PM   
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quote:

What category do you fall most closely into when in
relationships?
I believe in love and doing one's best to have a happy monogamous relastionship. However, if I never fall in love again, I believe there's no reason I should not to go on dates and play with one or two men with whom I share affection, respect, and physical chemistry. M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 9/8/2005 2:29:55 PM >

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RE: What Category... - 9/2/2005 3:37:05 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		We're open in the fact I may see others and engage in any activity I wish aside from actual intercourse, his penis is not going in my mouth ass or pussy n anyway shape or form. Joe and I belive while all other play including sex toys is fine intercourse is very sacred

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RE: What Category... - 9/7/2005 7:54:24 AM   
frenchpet


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Status: offline 		Answer : monogamous.

Interesting that we can choose polyandrous, but not polygamous. Any explanation ?

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