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Warning.... - 1/22/2005 10:30:35 AM

NsearchOFmydom

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I hope this is approved for posting, because it needs to be said...There needs to be a section on this site that people can warn others about the known predators that use this site. I have had an encounter with a certain dom that is very well spoken, articulate, and well versed. He knows the game that he plays very well. Just be warned that things are not always as ther seem.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 10:41:48 AM

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I'd forward all evidence you have to a mod. They will take care of it for you.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 10:47:27 AM

NsearchOFmydom

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Thank you for the info...I will do that.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 10:53:10 AM

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Dear Search-

The trouble is, what consistiutes a 'known predator'?

We have seen of late, people who posted that they were alarmed becuase some one had added them to their favorites list, several who seemed to feel that a series of rude emails was reason to fear for their safety, and one or two that seemed to feel that if their questioned were answered honestly, or thier states objected to, that they were being attacked.

None of this means that there aren't threats or dangers or situtions that should be dealt with with. The best way to deal with that is to document what happened, and pass all the details to the Moderators.

Do understand that they will likely need to see some clear proof of wrong doing, and may consider the sitution to be beyond their jurisdiction, but posting a list of accusations won't fix anything.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 11:35:45 AM

NsearchOFmydom

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Thank you for your info…My position is this…I feel that trust is the most sacred of all bonds between two people. In the beginning I have no expectations set upon the person I wish to get to know. Threw conversation I start to build a mental file, if you will, encompassing all that I have been told by this person. I take that at face value. If there is some compatibility between us then I will open my mental file and dig deep to see if this person is in fact all he claims to be, in regards to all aspects of his life. I am very cautious about who I choose to involve myself with. When I find out that thing are in fact not as they appear, I will not waste anymore of my time with him. I consider a predator to be someone who maliciously manipulates people for his own pleasure. Someone who corresponds with many different women feeding them with the same empty filled promises. A man who doesn’t realize that the lies spoken would eventually reveal who he truly is.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 12:40:05 PM

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i think waiting things out and not being in a rush will tell you right away if a person is sincere or just looking for sex.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 1:35:11 PM

LdyAuburn

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Predator lists dont work, either role dom or sub. It is usually a matter of how one perceives the person. Also can be sour grapes from an ex.
People also may not give every piece of information at first meeting. It isnt neccessary to say I have 2 ex wives that I pay maintenance to. Physical are difficult to lie about but other things can be glossed over.

ps umm I had better explain I dont actually have two 2 ex wives, Australia doesnt have same sex marriages

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 2:37:09 PM

Paulnz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LdyAuburn
Australia doesnt have same sex marriages

Behind New Zealand on this one, we have Civil Unions and same sex is OK.

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RE: Warning.... - 1/22/2005 3:09:38 PM

LdyAuburn

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apparently the rules regarding same sex has something to do with the states all need to agree to same sex marriages. So with some states who still live in the 18th century I think. Australia is still nay on the same sex

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