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The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/4/2006 11:19:23 PM   
candystripper


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From: Upstate New York; living in Ohio
Status: offline 		These are the top ten personality traits i want in a Dom -- what is your list?

1. He truely is dominant, by virtue of character.

2. He is honest. Without being cruel, He can honestly state His desires so i can consider if i'd be happy fulfilling them.

3. He is attentive. The D/s relationship we are considering matters very much to Him, and He gives it the time and attention necessary for either of us to know if the other is the right person.

4. He is smart. i feel i could learn from Him; that He'd open my eyes to things, and not merely sexually but intellectual.

5. He is loving. Not yet to me, but to His friends and family; and He has a history of loving people, especially women.

6. He is sensual and sexual. i feel wanted; i am intrigued.

7. He is respectful, not asking for a Dom's rights before the collar is on.

8. He wants a similiar relationship in D/s as i.

9. He is about my age.

10. He is sexy and funny. Charming, witty, and poised.

candystripper

< Message edited by candystripper -- 3/4/2006 11:20:41 PM >

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics of Master - 3/5/2006 6:39:18 AM   
Mercnbeth


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From: Palos Verdes Estates
Status: offline 		He is:
1. confident: He knows WHAT he wants and WHY.
2. intelligent and witty: He has a way with words!(and He knows some really hard ones!)
3. humorous: in that sarcastic New Yorker stlye
4. communicative: says what He means and means what He says and there is no question this slave has asked of Him that He has left unanswered.
5. compassionate: especially with His loved ones and friends, but also to those less fortunate.
6. open-minded: a love-r and live-r of life, his only prejudice= fraud.
7. loves to travel: by car, train, boat, plane, or donkey rides~the journey is a big part of the destination!
8. socially adept: He enjoys parties and get togethers on a regular basis~also making and entertaining friends.
9. incredibly sexy: mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
10. able and willing to be fully present in our relationsip each and every day.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 8:02:28 AM   
IrishMist


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From: Indiana
Status: offline 		1) confident; not only in himself, but in what he wants from others
2) has a sense of humor; able to laugh not only at life, but at himself also
3) intelligent
4) open minded
5) laid back
6) caring
7) compassionate
8) sexy
9) quiet, yet not unobtrussive
10) has a deep, dark, mean, sadistic side to him

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 8:54:51 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
9) quiet, yet not unobtrussive


Curses! Foiled again

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:09:47 AM   
petcerina


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Status: offline 		i've lost my list since i met Master, but arrogance is one quality that is a MAJOR turn on for me, but that i have to watch out for when choosing a Dom as usually those ones don't make for a good match for me.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:12:49 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 2651
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		Polyamorous

Self aware

Socially aware

Socially comfortable

Stable and secure life situation in terms of health/finances/family/etc.

Highly intelligent

Loves music

Spiritually inquisitive

Sexually driven

Takes more joy than pain from life

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:29:00 AM   
Aileen68


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Joined: 8/2/2005
From: New Jersey
Status: offline 		confident
intelligent
artistic
masculine
relaxed
great sense of humor
great work ethic
proud
protective
consistent

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:46:24 AM   
candystripper


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From: Upstate New York; living in Ohio
Status: offline 		Great lists, ladies. Wonder if the Doms and Masters have a list for us?

candystripper

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:52:12 AM   
champagnewishes


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Joined: 10/31/2005
From: Hollywood, CA
Status: offline 		Confident--(without being cocky) of his abilities.
Secure--within his own skin without being self centered.
Intelligent--with a thirst for knowledge.
Mature--emotionaly & in regards to handling life in general.
Expressive--in verbage and action.
Broad minded--knows the world is colorful and everything isn't always black and white.
Empathetic--doesn't have to experience first hand to know how others feel and is aware of how other's feel and is respectful of it.
Complex--in thought and life experiences.
Captivating--by words and actions.
Trustworthy--not advantageous

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 9:54:56 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Great lists, ladies. Wonder if the Doms and Masters have a list for us?

candystripper

As has been stated before- foremost we're looking for good and compatible PEOPLE.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 10:03:25 AM   
KatyLied


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From: Pennsylvania
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quote:

we're looking for good and compatible PEOPLE.


We seem to lose sight of the fact that we are looking for a person. A person who should posess all of the qualities we'd enjoy in a friend, or relative or acquaintance. It's the many small traits that someone possesses that makes them wonderful. Add a few specific to the lifestyle and you have it. As far as lifestyle, I'm talking about a person being able to dominate to the level that is required for you, a person who's kink is compatible with yours, a person whose immersion in the lifestyle is similar to yours, etc.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 10:08:42 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I do:

Honest
Obedient

It's not as easy as it sounds.

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Great lists, ladies. Wonder if the Doms and Masters have a list for us?

candystripper


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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 10:39:50 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper
Great lists, ladies. Wonder if the Doms and Masters have a list for us?


1. Confident
2. A need to submit (To the right someone)
3. Honest
4. Intelligent
5. Affectionate
6. Sense of humour
7. Imaginative
8. Secure in her sexuality
9. Attractive (Thats both physical and personality)
10. Most importantly, that spark of emotion that makes things work between us

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And it must follow, as the night the day,
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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 10:49:09 AM   
fastlane


Posts: 1386
Joined: 5/26/2005
Status: offline 		Subs list

1. submissive by nature.
2. Horny by nature
3. Curious by nature
4. Spontaneous by nature
5. Innocent by nature
6. Confident by nature
7. Picky by nature
8. Maternal by nature
9. Tantalizing by nature
10. Someone who wants to explore the nature of the lifestyle with me, because we are in love and it is the nature of our coming together as one.



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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 10:49:17 AM   
MHOO314


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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Great lists, ladies. Wonder if the Doms and Masters have a list for us?

candystripper



Poo! pouts and wants Mistress' to be able to come out and play!

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 11:03:59 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314
Poo! pouts and wants Mistress' to be able to come out and play!


Candy is a lady and wouldn't leave you lovely Dommes out intentionaly dear.

Post away, lets see your lists ladys

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 11:47:16 AM   
MHOO314


Posts: 1850
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline 		Top Ten Characteristics I wanted (and got) in a Submissive:

1. Articulate
2. Tender
3. Passionate
4. Funny
5. Serious
6. Sexy
7. The burning need for submission as a way of life not a game with the right person
8. Discriminating
9. Honest
10. Willingness to be open



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"I would rather 30 seconds of something wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special." Steel Magnolias

Mistress Hathor

Proud owner of subtoFemDommes--who is known as Her private label in training.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 11:52:54 AM   
fastlane


Posts: 1386
Joined: 5/26/2005
Status: offline 		Damn M.H. take out number 7 and I fit your bill........Fastlane runs before he hears the crack of the whip!

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 12:13:02 PM   
MHOO314


Posts: 1850
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline 		hmm I didn't remember writing arrogant and cocky on this list---picks up MissTress's new book, "Nailing Scrotums for Dummies"..thumbs to Chapter 7-- The Arrogant Doms

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"I would rather 30 seconds of something wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special." Steel Magnolias

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Proud owner of subtoFemDommes--who is known as Her private label in training.

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RE: The Top Ten Charcteristics i Want in a Dom? - 3/5/2006 12:18:35 PM   
fastlane


Posts: 1386
Joined: 5/26/2005
Status: offline 		arrogant? Cocky? Fastlane looks around the room innocently...no one here fits that description...Maam.

Now, close the book and leave the ball buster material for someone who would enjoy it...not me.......Purdy, Purdy Please??????????? My KIND Mistress H.

Kevin

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