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The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 4:04:37 PM

zaynab

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Hi Friends,
I want to know from subs, considering this phrase.."The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil?" .... do you think that with several subs... the one who is the meekest and most obedient receives less of everything because she is like that?

I'm wondering if giving up "all" (for example the right to make decisions), only equals giving up "all"....

I can't think of how to describe this any better... when does being a sub diminish who a woman is as a whole? Certainly there are other aspects of a woman's mind and soul that are reduced by her sub-ness.... and if and when that happens, doesn't she lose out on her enjoyment of life generally?

then again, maybe I'm just full of crap today.... *sighhhhhhhhhhh

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 4:21:12 PM

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As an exhibitionist its hard to say.

It is good to know to speak up and communicate what you want and need, you can't expect others to mind read.

However, this can be done in whispers or in shouts. As long as the person knows how to do it well and feels fulfilled, that is what matters.

I love getting attention and I generally know how to elicit it easily and positively, but it's hardly the only thing when it comes to being fulfilled. Think about all those hollywood stars who get tons of attention but seem to have empty lives.

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 7:49:45 PM

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I agree with Emerald Slave.

Sometimes I feel the *least* fulfilled when I am in a great relationship because I realize that there are so many aspects of me that NO ONE will ever know. Ever. Not even if I were to find someone who were like me in every single way. There are so many parts of myself no one will ever understand about and no one will ever know.

I can't blame that on my relationship, or my job, or anything else. I feel like women have so much going on inside them and it kills us all. Maybe that's being too overdramatic... but I feel especially helpless when I realize that even being the best sub I can be, being in the best relationship, etc., etc., all the money in the world won't take away that feeling.

Maybe *I'm* just rambling too.

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 8:09:55 PM

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quote:

I want to know from subs, considering this phrase.."The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil?" .... do you think that with several subs... the one who is the meekest and most obedient receives less of everything because she is like that?

Not in my experience. The squeakiest sub generally gets the boot unless that particular owner enjoys said squeaky sub's attention seeking behaviour.

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 8:28:23 PM

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thanks for responding, friends.

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/28/2005 10:25:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: zaynab

I can't think of how to describe this any better... when does being a sub diminish who a woman is as a whole? Certainly there are other aspects of a woman's mind and soul that are reduced by her sub-ness.... and if and when that happens, doesn't she lose out on her enjoyment of life generally?

then again, maybe I'm just full of crap today.... *sighhhhhhhhhhh

Not full of crap..........*smile*

I would say that yes, there are other aspects of a woman's mind and soul that are reduced by her "sub-ness". In my case, it's worry and stress, and some other not so great aspects of my mind and soul. Definitely loneliness as well and I'm sure other things like that. I'm happy to have those reduced and that only adds to my enjoyment of life.

However, if you had in mind good or positive aspects, I really don't have any of those reduced or give up on anything that would alter me in a way that would negatively impact my enjoyment of life.

I will add that I HAVE been in at least one relationship in which I would give a different answer, but that is why the relationship was wrong for me and ended quickly. If my relationship with my Master is causing me to lose out on enjoyment of life, there is something wrong, with someone or in some way that needs to be fixed. And remember, there is a big difference between someTHING not being enjoyable (which we all unfortunately have in our life) and your overall enjoyment of life.

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/29/2005 7:01:05 AM

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Hello There,
My Master does not have any other full time subs or slaves at this point. I do have sub friends that live in ploy situations. I've actually been noticing with most of them the one who does the most is actually usually not the one the Dom plays with more, but less actually. I have a friend who not only cooks & cleans even though her Dom has two other full time subs, but she only gets the computer or phone if the lazy other two are not using it. I think with my friend and in other situations I've been exposed to that the one the Dom is most attracted to gets the most play. I don't think it's based on the workload they perform or how subserviant they are.
I also think it's not fair to make one a maid to the others just because he's more attracted to them. I think like mothers are with their kids it should be equal chores, equal rules and equal time, but I'm finding that's not the norm.
SIncerely,
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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/29/2005 10:09:25 AM

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I never use oil on my squeaky wheels, but rather on her tight ass

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/29/2005 10:27:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I never use oil on my squeaky wheels, but rather on her tight ass

*laughing... thank you for that visual, fastlane... it helped with my attitude a lot....

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RE: The Squeakiest Wheel Gets The Most Oil? - 7/29/2005 12:44:05 PM

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Squeaky wheel getting the oil?? Perhaps if the wheel squeeks too much it is simply removed and replaced. One must never forget that this too is an option.

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