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The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/11/2005 11:19:31 AM   
AquaGent


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Status: offline 		Here's is a fairly important issue. So may I inject some thoughts here. Individual writing skills along with a whole host of other issues, have our slave communities in dire need and help from our esteemed dominate counterparts.

I would suggest, if from your recall, or other stored access, that you "cut and paste" the most memroable "Slave Intro" you ever heard. If we give but a few "would be slaves" the chance to read the perfect introduction, and they find it a complete solution to what they want to say; they could copy and use it for their own use.

I hope to hear from a few entries on this, with great interest and curiosity.

Best Regards,
Aquagent



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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/11/2005 3:40:25 PM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		You might be interested in reading through the thread 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression which deals with exactly this issue.

On a side note, I personally would never cut & paste the introduction letters I've received into a public forum because they are personal, private and were written for me and my eyes only.

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/11/2005 7:23:19 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I agree with LadyAngelika, I would never post the introduction letter, but I will share this much. I received a letter from a male slave asking me permission to send a letter of introduction. The letter was extremely well written, words spelled correctly and was very respectful... I told him I would be honored to read it and we are still in contact. And just as an fyi... he is from overseas. If he can go to the trouble of making sure that all of the words are spelled right and the grammer is good... and I have to tell you, that says a LOT... the people that live in this country and english is their first language... well, dictionaries are cheap and easy to use. Just my opinion.

Jewel

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/11/2005 10:10:19 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		What works best for me is direct, honest approach, telling me about yourself (generic you), not telling me your fetish/needs until I ask about them, telling me how you feel you can fit into my life, much better than cut and paste; I've gotten that, to me it reeks of insincerity, and I don't want to be one of the 50 Dommes you send the same email to. M

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/12/2005 9:16:50 AM   
SecretDomme


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Status: offline 		I've received a couple of impressive personal introduction letters from subs on this site. Unfortunately, when I responded, the subs disappeared without futher communication. It's much more impressive to me when a sub can continue to communicate with me, even if it's only to say "Sorry, I've changed my mind."

Be well,
Julie

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/12/2005 12:29:53 PM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaGent
they could copy and use it for their own use.



What usually makes an intro letter perfect is that it is personal, fairly grammatically correct and respectful. It is written TO the Dominant, and is not just some random cover letter. I can not tell you how many times I've gotten long rambling letters of detailed introduction that I know have been sent to 500 other women. I hit del and move on. If I am not special enough for you to know why you'd want to serve me, and write a well thought out personalized letter telling me enough about where are interests mesh to catch my attention, you're not worth my time.

You are very unlikely to attract a Domme with cut and paste.

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/12/2005 6:33:21 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		This is a littel of topic, but this seams like the perfect operturnity to get some opinios on if the intro letters i send to Dominats are okey. Most of them are somthing like this. i am sorry for going of topic. Also pllese i know my grammar and my English skill are not perfect, but i have done as good as i can.

Hallo

my name is anja my screen name is nella and i was wondering if i might have amoment of Your time. i read your profile and found it interesting, and You seam like a person that it is interesting to get to know. i hope i do not take up to much of Your time whit this letter, thank You for reading.

i am a girl from norway that just utned 23 and i am submissive. i have a Dom that i love dearly but we are looking for a second Dominant to bring into our realtionship. Preferably one that has more experience than us. But all that can wait, if You dont mind, and if You are interested in coresponding whit me, i would like to get to know You first before we discuss such matters, as for me, the person behind the whip is more inportant than the whip itself.

i am an dedicated Occultist, and i love to read aboute the superantrual, both fictional and real, this is my passion in life. i also like to play computer and rpg games, and watch mivies whit supernatrual topics, you might say i am a bit obsessed aboute it. Otervise i like animals, romatic walks and interesing conversation.

Thank you again for reading my letter. i hope You have a good eveing. If You answer this letter i will be werry happy, if not, then thank You anyway and i wish you luck.

nella



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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/12/2005 11:25:58 PM   
AquaGent


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Status: offline 		LadyAngelika I have to admit I have not spent alot time reading the threads here at Ask A Mistress. After reading your 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression, that is definitely required reading for all subs who wonder in. This makes me think of a feature I've seen elsewhere called "Forum Classics". Your post is surely a prime example for such a feature. I admire your dedication and thank you sincerely.

After reading just a few of the responses here, I must agree totally that a complete cut and paste would be inappropriate. By keeping the discussion alive and renewing it from time to time, we can remind the would be sub how important the issue is when making an initial introduction.

AG

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/13/2005 11:04:25 AM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

LadyAngelika I have to admit I have not spent alot time reading the threads here at Ask A Mistress. After reading your 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression, that is definitely required reading for all subs who wonder in. This makes me think of a feature I've seen elsewhere called "Forum Classics". Your post is surely a prime example for such a feature. I admire your dedication and thank you sincerely.


That is actually a great suggestion. I know many threads that would fall under that heading. Feel free to make your suggestion here: Feature Suggestions for CollarMe.com .

And thank you for the kind words.

- LA

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/14/2005 8:19:16 PM   
GentleLady


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Status: offline 		nella....personally I would be looking for something more personal that shows Me that you have read My profile or My postings on the board...anythng that would indicate that you see Me as a Person and not just a fantasy Domina

Gentle Lady

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/15/2005 12:35:56 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Thank you Gentel Lady, yet i dont know what that would be, most profiles is aboute BDSM and littel aboute the person i am contactings other intrests. I dont usualy feel comfortabel getting into that part before i have gotten to know the person some. Therefore is usualy sugest mailing some mails before one get into some of those things.

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/15/2005 4:48:12 AM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella

Thank you Gentel Lady, yet i dont know what that would be, most profiles is aboute BDSM and littel aboute the person i am contactings other intrests. I dont usualy feel comfortabel getting into that part before i have gotten to know the person some. Therefore is usualy sugest mailing some mails before one get into some of those things.


Then that is a fault of the profile and there is little that you can do about that. Perhaps we need a tutorial on how to write a good profile... any co-author volunteers?

- LA

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/15/2005 6:50:44 AM   
MistressInNYC


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Status: offline 		Additionally, sub/slave should READ a desired domme's profile what is required to submit information along with your well-written introduction. Oh, about pics, personally I don't appreciate your genital area pics over and aver again.
That is a totall turn-off - that I never want to respond.
BDSM/Vanilla - it doesn't matter I don't want to be greeted by your penis especially I haven't even seen your face!!

Also, BE HONEST - if it's smelly and sketchy from the beginning, it's a sign of No-No to me.
Your age, physical condition & appearence etc have to be as accurate as possible if you really want to meet a domme in real time.


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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/15/2005 3:32:36 PM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaGent

Here's is a fairly important issue. So may I inject some thoughts here. Individual writing skills along with a whole host of other issues, have our slave communities in dire need and help from our esteemed dominate counterparts.

I would suggest, if from your recall, or other stored access, that you "cut and paste" the most memroable "Slave Intro" you ever heard. If we give but a few "would be slaves" the chance to read the perfect introduction, and they find it a complete solution to what they want to say; they could copy and use it for their own use.

I hope to hear from a few entries on this, with great interest and curiosity.

Best Regards,
Aquagent




The best introductions I have ever received from submissive men, both on the net and in person, have been completly unsubmissive. They were polite, honest, eloquent, self confident and interesting. The sex side, the sub side, the kink list, the wish list of fetishes -- all secondary.

What impresses me is when a man makes the effort to get to know me as a woman, and wants me to know him as a man, and let the femdom/malesub details come a little secondary. No need to be bomdarded with a list of fetishes right out of the gate.

And I don't like men that posture as submissive or meek. I like them to act normal and show their "outward" personalities, which often for subs is very non-submissive.

Akasha

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/15/2005 11:18:24 PM   
GentleLady


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Status: offline 		Good point nella

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/17/2005 8:57:37 PM   
MistressWoulf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

The best introductions I have ever received from submissive men, both on the net and in person, have been completly unsubmissive. They were polite, honest, eloquent, self confident and interesting. The sex side, the sub side, the kink list, the wish list of fetishes -- all secondary.

What impresses me is when a man makes the effort to get to know me as a woman, and wants me to know him as a man, and let the femdom/malesub details come a little secondary. No need to be bomdarded with a list of fetishes right out of the gate.

And I don't like men that posture as submissive or meek. I like them to act normal and show their "outward" personalities, which often for subs is very non-submissive.

Akasha



Couldn't have said it better myself. (Hello, new here, hope y'all don't mind me hopping on in.)

I'll just reiterate the need for good grammar, spell check, etc. I can't stand "'net speak" and I immediately dismiss who uses it. Plus, I'm not just interested in a slave, I am interested in a whole person, and I hope you are too. That goes along with just telling me about yourself. I think Akasha put it so eloquently. :)

Jade

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/18/2005 8:05:24 AM   
Oumae


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha


The best introductions I have ever received from submissive men, both on the net and in person, have been completly unsubmissive. They were polite, honest, eloquent, self confident and interesting. The sex side, the sub side, the kink list, the wish list of fetishes -- all secondary.

What impresses me is when a man makes the effort to get to know me as a woman, and wants me to know him as a man, and let the femdom/malesub details come a little secondary. No need to be bomdarded with a list of fetishes right out of the gate.

And I don't like men that posture as submissive or meek. I like them to act normal and show their "outward" personalities, which often for subs is very non-submissive.

Akasha


Yes!!!
This is why I leave my profile fairly blank as I prefer to chat first and talk about things generally before getting into very personal stuff.

Oumae

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/18/2005 8:07:42 AM   
Oumae


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SecretDomme

I've received a couple of impressive personal introduction letters from subs on this site. Unfortunately, when I responded, the subs disappeared without futher communication. It's much more impressive to me when a sub can continue to communicate with me, even if it's only to say "Sorry, I've changed my mind."

Be well,
Julie


I've wondered about this too.... Have had a couple of well written mails... responded with a question and nothing! Its almost like they have nothing else to say. lol

Oumae

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/18/2005 11:32:30 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Same here Secret and Oumae ... it always makes me wonder what they are really up to.

And I tend to ask them - or point out to them that it's polite to end communication if you are finished talking with someone. A few of them have actually responded, appologizing - some of them even have reasonable excuses for vanishing (the one who's mother has cancer - and he can provide details, so if his mom doesn't have cancer now, someone close to him has had it in the recent past - him, I can forgive for vanishing). Most of them though, take the coward's route and don't reply, or worse, delete the message without reading it.

I think they should have the fortitude to say what they want/need to, even if they think we won't like it. I much prefer honesty to cowardice.

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RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave - 3/18/2005 2:57:47 PM   
lkg4rldomme


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Status: offline 		Beside the fact that there is a thing called spellcheck and a host of online dictionaries........

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