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Submissive? Not Really - 7/19/2005 11:07:01 PM

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The Stranger is an alternative weekly in Seattle and has a regular column about kink. Here is one article:

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"Oh, that wasn't really submissive. That was just being a little kinky."

I stared at him. "Let me refresh your memory—I dressed you up in my lingerie, fucked you up the ass with a strap-on, and pissed all over you on the kitchen floor. Plus you kissed my feet a lot. You don't call that being submissive?"

He shrugged. "Yeah, okay, but I didn't feel submissive while we were doing it. It wasn't a Mistress/slave thing, it was just... kinky sex."

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Content?oid=21903

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 7/20/2005 1:34:56 AM

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Nice article, thanks. M

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/13/2005 10:41:17 AM

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i have to agree.. i am a sado maso slave.. i like inflicting as much as reciving and i cant dominate my way out of a paper bag....

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/13/2005 12:56:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: onceburned

quote:

"Oh, that wasn't really submissive. That was just being a little kinky."

I stared at him. "Let me refresh your memory—I dressed you up in my lingerie, fucked you up the ass with a strap-on, and pissed all over you on the kitchen floor. Plus you kissed my feet a lot. You don't call that being submissive?"

He shrugged. "Yeah, okay, but I didn't feel submissive while we were doing it. It wasn't a Mistress/slave thing, it was just... kinky sex."

And that..........is BDSM in a nutshell. Some call it "kinky sex". I call it "playing checkers". I.e.......a game. Do whatever you wish..........there is no problem in that. Just call it what it is. Nothing more, nothing less.

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/13/2005 1:34:00 PM

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Yup.

It's not the acts,it's how you FEEL about them.

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/13/2005 3:31:44 PM

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Eh Raven, many of us like BDSM and is not playing, jsut becouse one like pain or like inflicting it and dont use the whip for the tall and lofty, punishment only, do not mean one is not serious.

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/15/2005 12:59:44 PM

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That post had me cracking up, as I can relate to it personally.
I played the bottom and insisted that I was not a submissive, even though....she did refresh my memory also....LOL....Gawd, WTF am I, other than a Domb SOB!

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RE: Submissive? Not Really - 8/15/2005 2:12:27 PM

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i am sobmissive, and i dont play at it, and i still are interested in BDSM and enyoy a good spanking.

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