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Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 8:30:27 PM

slavejali

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Relationships are an intimate thing between two..or in some peoples cases more than 2 people. I noticed there are tons of people on here who are actually in D/s Master/Mistress slave/submissive relationships,so it made me think...we are all participating in a forum, exchanging of ideas, putting out a problem or two, sharing experiences, asking questions..but what are some of the things you would never talk about on here in regards to your relationship? I know there are areas for me I wont publish to the forum..things like..say I disagreed with Master over something and I was upset...I'd never ask for advice on here....thats something for Master and I to work out..I wouldnt invite people in to advise...I dont think Master would want me to either.

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

If your not in a relationship at this time, where are your limits in regards to what you post?

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 8:39:22 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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My limits would be plentiful..if it is something that can be responded to with common sense they hey I am there with an opinion..however if it is something that deals with actual D/s experience and not just human nature or male/female issues then I say nothing,as I feel that with novice status my 2 cents would be worth less than 2 cents....be well..Tempting

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 8:43:57 PM

CERCKL

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I am new to this forum and therefore not much is known about Me...I am not in a relationship at this time and have been open about my seperation (she gets her apartment the first of May...) but somethings I won't post directly have to do w/family, I have spoken to friends and emailed people I know...I also see this as an exchange of thought (and quite a bit of humor ) but I agree, directly personal such as a disagreement between you and your Master is none of My business...though I could see a post regarding how to deal with that situation in general...and you'ld prob'ly be told to talk with your Master LOL...
I enjoy the thought provoking posts on the board in general and the honesty and attempts to learn/teach.
C

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 8:45:24 PM

theRose4U

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I think that problems currently going on in the relationship are a biggie. I post things about my boy that was released for the sake of learning from mistakes even if I'm not always the one getting the benefit.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 9:04:58 PM

BitaTruble

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quote:

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

;) I'm not telling.

Celeste

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 9:05:06 PM

Driver1961

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He enters, dips His lid smiling,,,,

thinks to self of that song "You can't touch this....."

and that in short is the boundary.

If you feel that to post your comment is to be hurtful, disrespectful and detrimental to the other person then dont - Whether your Dom/me or to another poster. (I sometimes struggle myself with other posters) To do otherwise is a poor reflection upon oneself.

Too many people yell from the rooftops about their self-rights yet totally forget about others' rights. The only rights I have are the ones that people give me through respect of me, just as I endeavour to do to them.

Yes, of course we can post of troubles in our D/s M/s relationships cos there is truly learning for others to be had in reading those posts, but I believe these posts are generally of 'healed' troubles to be positively received within the existing relationship and with other posters. Whingeing? or Educating? another bottom line.......

The posts recently of subs and Ds speaking of their childhood, adolescent abuse and their learning is a great example. Yes, this impacted in Wild's relationship with men in general and then I questioned it with Us. Yes it impacted hugely on our relationship and the reality is that it may rear it's head in the future; however we are both sufficiently secure to share this and she was able to convince me that she had sufficiently 'healed' to assist others' education in their self- healing for more fulfilling relationships.. On this particular topic it pleases me that the pain I give her is a fulfilling healthy need not a fucked-up one.

I trust this makes some sense.

Warm regards

Paul, Sir to His Wild and His Angel.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 9:06:38 PM

Delvin

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Hmm,

Here as well as other places Myself and my slave use these forums for information on how others view this life we all live, how they live each day. I really cringe when someone starts to bring out their personal laundry and will post to it if I see something I can offer up as advice. As for our personal laundry, it is never placed on the open forums simply because that is My burden to take care of not a large list of strangers with no idea how we live. If I should need advice on something, I will seek out the proper professionals if needed which include Men I trust within this life. I give my slave a little freedom to speak with other slaves to work through some of her day to day emotions and feelings, though everything she may discuss is always discussed at home as well.

One note here is a personal private journal she will keep for herself which I have placed as off limits to Me as well as anyone else as long as I own her. This is her own detailed journal which she can reflect on as the years go by. If at some time she wishes to divulge that information, that first would be discussed with Me before releasing it to open scrutiny unless of course she no longer serves in which case, she is free to do as she wishes.

Ultimately we are here to seek out other like minded people who we can enjoy conversations and yes, even heated discussions about this life, but beyond that, the personal information remains that; Personal.

D

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 9:58:31 PM

IronBear

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Generally I prefer to post to a subject already on the boards. What goes on in my life tends to stay there. It is of little interest to anyone else anyway except when I can used it as an example or to demonstrate a point.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 10:06:38 PM

DragonNphoenix

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What happens in our bedroom stays in our bedroom. Sex is not something that I would really discuss here, either would be any big problems in the relationship.

1st Girl Phoenix

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 10:14:44 PM

Vendaval

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I am a believer in the motto, "Discretion is the better part of valor". As a general rule I will post information on a forum that I would share in casual kink conversation such as -

#1 Have you tried the new club/dungeon yet? I was thinking of going there with my
sub next weekend.

#2 I just attended a particular workshop/class with my sub and we enjoy the
practicing the new techniques.

The inner workings of the relationship are a private matter. If I need advise, constructive
feedback or just to vent, then I turn to my close friends in The Lifestyle.

Sincerely,

Vendaval

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

If your not in a relationship at this time, where are your limits in regards to what you post?

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 10:14:45 PM

Arpig

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I really don't know. As a rule i would say that what is between my pet and I stays between her and I.
However, that being said, I do tend to ramble and will probably reveal things that would be better left unrevealed....that's the price of having a big mouth, both actual & cyber.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 10:26:43 PM

slo18

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I dont know there was a message board that I posted on for years that recently became defunct. I told everything right down to names. but, no one i talked about posted there and there was no chance of these ppl ever meeting those ppl so no ones feelings got hurt and i got good advice. here I dont know I am not at that level of comfort and there is a chance of meeting ppl who know ppl bla bla bla

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/8/2006 10:38:23 PM

ownedgirlie

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i'd tell you, but i don't talk about it.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 12:15:56 AM

LATEXBABY64

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i can see your point most of the problem is most people do not know how to cultivate a relationship on anylevel so they have to ask questions and post and grow. most things are by trial and error nomally at someone elses expense. but thats the way this lifestyle is all about me not we shrugs

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 1:12:26 AM

TexasMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

..but what are some of the things you would never talk about on here in regards to your relationship? I know there are areas for me I wont publish to the forum..things like..say I disagreed with Master over something and I was upset...I'd never ask for advice on here....thats something for Master and I to work out..I wouldnt invite people in to advise...I dont think Master would want me to either.

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

If your not in a relationship at this time, where are your limits in regards to what you post?

I don't post about what I don't want to post about.

Texas Maam

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