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Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 9:26:35 PM

lilserenity

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I wanted to suggest if I may to have a post here from a RT Dominant who can tell others what responsibilities it is to have a sub in RT..I know a Dom ,myself who is seeking but has no home but loooking,and has no money to even buy enough food for himself let alone a sub/slave..I find this to be a urgent call for One who DOES live in RT with His RT sub/slave. Tell others what their responsibilities are to a partner or soulmate..Please .. They have to know and be prepared ahead of time because we need alot of care and love when that time comes upon Us to go forth and be Real Time.. thank you lilserenity

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 9:41:24 PM

MistressDREAD

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Id say what He was seeking lil
is either help but is to proud to ask
for it where He could gain it and
is llookin for sympathy from a kind
heart. and which I would say at this
point is not being very Dominant
but then again sumtimes People
have hardships come into Their
lifes that cannot be helped.
OOOORRRRRR
is a Preditor looking for prey.
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now which lil red riding hood
is gonna take the chance to
find out which one HE IS???

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 9:49:21 PM

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each relationships
foundation is different.
being a Dominant
does not nessisaraly
mean providing ALL for
a sub. nor does it mean
a sub providing for a
Dominant in real time
living all either. Each
Dominant chooses how
They desire to give into
Their relationships and
what They desire to take
out of it. This is the same
for a sub or a slave. I could
give you a well defined list
of Lifestyle proticals but as
you can see there are many
in these days and times whom
do not agree with such things
in this new Guard online world
of BDSM. The Preditors ESPECIALLY
APPRECIATE the tearing down of
rules regulations and protical for
it opens a very large Door to Them
to prey with in.

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 10:16:20 PM

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Midear Serenity-

I want total authority in a relationship (I promptly give a big chunk of it right back to the suborninate, but I want it off the bat).

Therfore, I have to be ready to take total responisbility for my property. I must be able to manage my own life well enough to be able to manage their's, too, and able to reaarange my schedule to be able to deal with any crisis they may have, serious or otherwise.

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 10:43:59 PM

Sundew02

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My question is a bit more direct. IF he has no home, no money for food, how the heck does he have the money for a computer and access to the internet? Everyone has had rocky times, but when they come the extras are gotten rid of first. Even though many live FOR the computer, it is an extra. My health would definitely come first over being online. FOOD, a roof, and clothing would be on my must list, a darn computer would not. Sundew

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/6/2004 11:04:40 PM

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What Lawrence said.

In spades.

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/7/2004 7:55:05 AM

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I'm going to step out of character for a moment and channel what seems a previous life.

Love, be it regular old love or the kinky variety, doesn't need money. I can't recall a happier time in my life than when I was young and in love and very very poor. Sharing a sleeping bag in a tent on a campground in Canada because we didn't have a place to live in the US (where I was going to school). Spending a night on a dance studio floor, because it was raining and the tent wasn't waterproof, huddled with my love for warmth. Finding sudden riches when one of us was approved for a JC Penny card (I honestly can't remember which one of us it was).

Of course, I agree 100% with what Lawrence writes. You simply can't own another if you don't know where your next meal is coming from. But oh my, the wonderous adventures that can be had by two poor souls very much in love...

I now feel like I should spank someone, to get rid of all these mushy romantic feelings. *smile*

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/7/2004 10:50:30 AM

allura

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Hmmm, no job, no money...I wouldn't trust Him to control an iota of my life...*s*

BTW, this is 1classy1.

Warmly,

allura

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/7/2004 1:58:25 PM

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I would have to agree with TDW. If you're in love and not in a PE relationship, being poor is fine and dandy. All you need is love, right? But when you are taking on the responsibility of another human being you should be able to provide for them. It's common sense.
As Always-
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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/7/2004 3:17:43 PM

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Strictly on the comment of being homeless and internet access. It is indeed possible, and actually easy. Public libraries in many cities have computer terminals with internet access available. Also there are internet cafe's to pay by the hour.

I have been unfortunant to live on the streets when I was younger and there are always ways to get what you want, depending on what you are willing to sacrifice for them. I suppose that is true for anything in life when you think about it. It all depends on what you are willing to do, or give up.

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RE: Responsibilities of a Dominant - 7/7/2004 4:21:38 PM

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I guess this boils down to what you want from your dominant. Are there responsible people in the world who are unemployed? Most certainly. If you are looking for a dominant to pay your bills, financially supprot the home, put the kids through school, etc., there's nothing wrong with that, but to say that a dominant is not responsible because they may be unemployed...that seems a little unjust.

As far as my responsibilities within my relationship:

I am responsible for all of the finances within my home.
I am responsible to not harm my slave. (Hurt and harm are two completely different things.)
I am responsible for ensuring that my slave is gainfully employed.
I am responsible for maintaining order and discipline.
I am responsible for ensuring that my slaves basic needs are met. (Not wants...but needs)

Thats the short list. One thing I will be very clear about: I am NOT responsible for a slave's actions. Some people believe that a dominant must control the actions of their slave. No. We provide the guidelines. We provide the structure. We provide the healthy and safe environment. We provide discipline. A slave still chooses to obey or not.

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