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Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 3:40:23 PM

sultryvoice

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I have tried to look in the archives for this and I am not having any luck..I am talking to a potential Dom and I want to know more about him. I don't want only D/s compatibility but compatibility in other areas. I have waited a long time and I want to be sure we have enough in common for it to have a chance of working. I would like to compile a list of questions as a guide..I am open to your suggestions..

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 3:45:48 PM

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Well, if this was just a 'nilla relationship you were trying to build on...what kind of things would you want to know?

Those are the questions that I would be asking...the D/s side...that's obviously there already, so now you need to know what kind of a person he is outside the scene.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 4:17:17 PM

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Well, i would start with your interests. What do you like to do for fun, or entertainment.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 4:20:39 PM

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Ask him about his life, his work, his hobbies, his family. You can tell a lot about someone by learning their basics. You should learn what he's about as a person before you get overly concerned about the Dom stuff. Then you can move on to lifestyle and kink-specific information.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 4:27:10 PM

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I'm with everyone else. A BDSM relationship is built on trust. You can't have trust if you have no prior relationship. Sure, you can play here and there but that is far from a relationship.
So, get to know him. Who he is, what his hobbies are. Are you compatible on a vanilla basis? If you are then start asking the lifestyle questions.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/10/2006 5:40:57 PM

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Yes, I plan to do those things..I do know a bit already..but the vanilla is what I'm concerned about right now..I know we have some possible compatibilities in D/s..Thank you for your answers..

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/11/2006 3:04:14 AM

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sultry,

here are some great questions to ask potential dominants - even titled as such...lol

http://www.kamsky.org/Submissives/Submissions/floorkitten/questionsfordominants.html

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/13/2006 6:23:54 PM

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Thank you for the link floorkitten..

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/13/2006 7:13:43 PM

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Thank you for the link floorkitten. I never can rember the questions I want to ask a potential Dom/Master. Now I have a list I can just look at and ask away. Play 40 questions...lol

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/13/2006 7:22:50 PM

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Even I have to admit, that is one hell of a list of questions......very, very smart and well thought out.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/13/2006 10:25:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: floorkitten

sultry,

here are some great questions to ask potential dominants - even titled as such...lol

http://www.kamsky.org/Submissives/Submissions/floorkitten/questionsfordominants.html

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That's an impressive list of questions there!

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/13/2006 11:29:31 PM

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somehow seems to take all the romance and passion out of it really, but then again I am picturing meeting in some cafe and sitting down and being grilled with all 40 questions

. I don't think I would really ask many of those things outright, but most would be a good thing to learn.

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/14/2006 1:06:45 AM

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They're good questions for anyone to ask really... Dominant individuals and submissives alike could ask all of them, in some cases with a bit of tweaking.

Very nice link...

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RE: Questions to ask potential Dom - 1/14/2006 4:02:27 AM

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Those are terrific questions. I tend to try and avoid the touch-feely ones and concentrate on the REAL ones. Like who are you ...REALLY?
and the isnsitance on talking to others he/she has been involved with.
I would never get involved with a divorced person without first taking the ex to dinner...lol.
Every story has various angles.

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