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Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 4:54:49 PM

odinlove

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What is it really? I am a vanilla and would love to recieve some input and opportunity to learn new things, so what is Polyamorous Lifestyles?

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 7:07:43 PM

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It's a brand of condoms intended for people who fuck a lot of other people at the same time.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 7:42:29 PM

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It's a brand of condoms intended for people who fuck a lot of other people at the same time.

OMFG LMAO

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 8:19:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: odinlove

What is it really? I am a vanilla and would love to recieve some input and opportunity to learn new things, so what is Polyamorous Lifestyles?

Well, here is what I can tell you
poly=many
amour=love

Beyond that, everyone will probably have a different opinion and definition.

So if you love many, then you might be polyamorous. Or, I guess you could be a slut :)

silly tonight,
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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 8:28:34 PM

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Boring? Fun? A pain to coordinate phone calls?

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/29/2006 8:38:43 PM

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So if you love many, then you might be polyamorous. Or, I guess you could be a slut :)

Ill take slut tonite
maybe tomorrow Ill just be in love.....................

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/30/2006 10:33:17 AM

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LA, you left out all the thank you cards that one must open and read, or write and send out as the case may be...

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/31/2006 3:33:56 AM

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For us it is a very loving family group. We all live together in a closed relationship. Not that living in the same house is a requirement, (that isn't my opinion, just what I've been told) it's simply the only way it would work for us. The dominants (my husband and I) have our room and the submissives have their room.

Finding four people that fit together isn't easy and it doesn't happen overnight, but when you find that combination it's wonderful. It takes a lot of open communication and self understanding. We don't fight the green eyed monster, we dismiss it. There isn't room in a poly home for insecurities and petty bickering. We discovered long ago that contrary to public opinion it is possible to live free of jealousy and other negative feelings, that it's ok to love more then one person freely and with an open heart and it amazing when it all comes together.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/31/2006 7:44:55 AM

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We discovered long ago that contrary to public opinion it is possible to live free of jealousy and other negative feelings, that it's ok to love more then one person freely and with an open heart and it amazing when it all comes together.

Jewel

Yes, but it's also more than possible to have a happy fulfilling poly relationship AND have jealousy and negativity as part of life. It's all in how you deal with it.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/31/2006 1:05:18 PM

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Amen Jewel. There are 5 of us. Master, Head Bitch, two sub females and one trainee. Master does not allow anyone inside the family who exhibits any jealousy.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/31/2006 5:21:20 PM

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does not allow anyone inside the family who exhibits any jealousy.

Hmm, but they are "allowed" to experience the feeling...just need to manage it in a way that is not considered exhibiting jealousy?

I can not understand the concept of not being allowed a reaction or emotion.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 1/31/2006 6:29:53 PM

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well you can always say not o "feel" jealousy, it does happen, but its how its dealt with that will ascertain whether the poly is viable, if its dealt with love and care and gently explained all is good, and they are loved as well and cared for in the same way, that they also have to accept when others have attention given to them, it will happen, it takes care on ALL parties to get through it, from the Dom/me and the other subs in the poly family.
It does work when you get through it like they shifted jewel and gbgirl say, but its the openess, willingness of all in the family to work through it, its part of love and care, the wholeness one feels in a poly, some just love their Dom/me, but in ours and why it works so well is, sis and I really love each other and care for each other as well, takes the pressure and some concern off Sir and so W/we are happy and content (most of the time

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 2/4/2006 8:51:08 PM

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Poly is not the part I think freaks people out is it?I mean is'nt it the actual
act of being married to more than one person? If thats the case...only a piece of paper gets you in trouble.Right or wrong.Thank you.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 2/4/2006 9:34:14 PM

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Well on my part of the discussion so far, thank oyu and you all geta kiss

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 2/5/2006 7:31:26 PM

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Jealousy and insecurities will destroy a poly relationship befor it even starts.Speacking from my own all must have the same goal in sight and if even 1 does not it is doomed.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 2/15/2006 10:48:17 PM

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LMAO and where does one purchase these condoms at? What happens if it breaks?

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 2/22/2006 10:20:53 PM

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I do believe its possible to have such relationships without jelousy, but many people today cannot differentiate love from sex and such so they feel cheated on. Its possible but hard to find and work to maintain but i certainly am giving it my best shot.
not having much of a consious doesnt help tho. hehe.

Dude. The hippy's had it goin on (please don't argue, hippy's arent the point)- FREE LOVE.

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 3/5/2006 7:14:35 AM

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I got a lot of useful information from this page thank you all for sharing. I am sending my sir to it to let Him know about this as well. I have two subs of My own and He has another for His use, We love the lifestyle just didnt know it had a name.
Kisses to all,
Mistress Celest (and will send Sir Saber soon, lol)

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RE: Polyamorous Lifestyles - 3/5/2006 9:08:34 AM

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I do believe its possible to have such relationships without jelousy, but many people today cannot differentiate love from sex and such so they feel cheated on.

DollFace... I never thought of it like that... what a great point! I've never considered love and sex to be one and the same and it was difficult to make my husband understand that at first. Then, one day out of the blue, he had an epiphany and has understood completely since then. It just never occured to me that could be why so many feel cheated on.

Thank you.

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Polyamorous Lifestyles - 3/6/2006 11:55:42 AM

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I too am trying for such though as mentioned longg it may take to achieve and hard to maintain after. Who kknow's I could the world next great master.

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