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Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 12:21:28 PM

Davesgirl

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Hello ya'll....me again. Sorry, but I have a lot of questions, and the people here have been very helpful with great advice

ORgasm control is something very intriguing to my Master, but I have a very hard time being able to stop myself before he gives me permission. How does one train themselves to not orgasm? Is it more psychological, or physiological? I get into some trouble over this one, so would greatly appreciate any and all suggestions.

Thanks everyone!

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 12:51:54 PM

EmeraldSlave2

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As with any training, it takes lots of time, patience, and practice.

Orgasms are very psychological and sensitive to most females so training in this area generally needs to be taken with extra care to not become an issue of contention.

But otherwise, by using repetition, by taking it slow and building it up, usually by associating the orgasm with the command to orgasm, you can learn to control your orgasms and some people can learn to orgasm with no physical stimulation at all.

Some women don't have this, orgasms are extremely difficult for me with other people, so controlling it once I am actually able to have one is not something that would seem possible for me, and thus far it's nothing any of my relationships have been interested in exploring.

So just give it time, I'd only be concerned if your dom expects you to have control when he hasn't taken the time to train you.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 2:00:36 PM

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I agree that orgasm's are very psychological. It does take a whole lot of time to learn to do this. I have learned to have an orgasm on command, and that took forever(or so it seemed!) I am now learning to control when I have one. If you feel yourself starting to have one, just think of anything else but sex(not easy to do, I know).
Just remember that everything worth while takes time to control.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 2:49:31 PM

Mylee

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Last night for the fisrt time ever just as I was going to shatter he told me No, at first I didnt understand what he was telling me and then when I did I had a moment of wanting to let go and shatter anyway, but then this strnage peace came over me and it suddenly felt so right that he would tell me when I was allowed to shatter for him, I have to admit though, that, even in that strange peace I felt it was hard to keep from letting myself shatter, later when I felt I was going to shatter agian, I asked him for permission and I was rewarded with a look of praise in from him, I didnt know life could be so sweet

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 4:44:05 PM

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I see nobody has mentioned the potential negative side affect of being un able to come after the relationship ends when one has been trained to only cum for one person and ones command.

Every once in a while you hear about someone on here who can no longer come because while in the relationship they were trained to only come by his command, and when it ends, they're screwed over.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 4:59:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

I see nobody has mentioned the potential negative side affect of being un able to come after the relationship ends when one has been trained to only cum for one person and ones command.

Every once in a while you hear about someone on here who can no longer come because while in the relationship they were trained to only come by his command, and when it ends, they're screwed over.

* drops her jaw and whimpers*

Umm oh my, what a way to scare a newbie....

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 7:39:36 PM

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It's true. Details on request.

So don't fool around with orgasm training unless you're pretty sure you know what you're doing.

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

I see nobody has mentioned the potential negative side affect of being un able to come after the relationship ends when one has been trained to only cum for one person and ones command.

Every once in a while you hear about someone on here who can no longer come because while in the relationship they were trained to only come by his command, and when it ends, they're screwed over.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/20/2005 8:17:00 PM

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But just as someone can be trained towards a behavioral response, it can be trained out of the person, either naturally on its own or with the same techniques that trained it in the first place.

We're adaptable people.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/21/2005 5:21:13 AM

littleone35

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My late Master only denied me orgasm whrn he wanted to make my climax more intense so for a day or 2 he would not let me then whan he ddi let me sent me righ into subspace. Very intense

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/21/2005 8:11:29 AM

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Well, yes, we're adaptable people, but we're not protons. Our actions and responses aren't predictable. Just as there's no way to know whether someone can be trained to come on command--and certainly no way to know what technique will work and what won't--it's also impossible to know whether someone can be trained back--and, again, no way to know exactly how to do it. I know people who have really suffered because of this. One woman insisted she couldn't come for years afterwards.

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But just as someone can be trained towards a behavioral response, it can be trained out of the person, either naturally on its own or with the same techniques that trained it in the first place.

We're adaptable people.

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RE: Orgasm Training - 6/23/2005 12:58:58 PM

comesoncommand

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i think by name alone i have to respond to this question

*small laugh*. i'm relatively new to the lifestyle. Highly orgasmic, i both begin and end orgasms at my Master's command. For me, training myself to be able to accomplish these things was for a large part mental. i view my orgasms as a gift to Him, and in my mind i focus on allowing that gift when He desires. *small laugh* i can focus on that NOW...in the begining i simply tried to think of things that didn't turn me on when i got to the brink but wasn't allowed to orgasm. Not sure if this is the best tactic, but i had to get my body used to not coming by mere physical stimulation (in other words, before i was used to orgasming when my body had been played with enough...now i had to get used to stimulation being more than enough but not letting that push me over the edge util permitted). i would also just say in my mind "not yet"...i would literally focus on not orgasming at that moment. It kept me close, but focused...and when i was given permission to slide into orgasm they were amazing b/c i had been held on edge :).

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RE: Orgasm Training - 7/3/2005 10:08:12 PM

babebirdy

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Master started with the orgasm training before I even knew he was training me, but it worked, in fact all it takes now is the word from Him, even through text, (e-mail or text message).

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RE: Orgasm Training - 7/4/2005 5:17:17 AM

zaynab

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wow.... amazing....

i sure hope my Dom doesnt read this post lol

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RE: Orgasm Training - 7/5/2005 5:32:41 AM

wetrope

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Wow <comesoncommand> that is awesome what u can do. I 'd luv to be able to train my subbie to come on command, so far have been working on not allowing to cum, not playing, not touching, without instruction. This has worked very well, and makes org's better when i'm there, but I would realy like to learn how to do what u can, any pointers?????

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