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New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 10:54:36 AM   
MasterCook


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone.

I have just started an online relationship with someone who I hope will become my slave. For the forseable future it will be online (I wont bore you with the details).

She is quite new to the scene, as am I, and I was wondering whether any of you had any thoughts / suggestions about possible online punishments ? In terms of pleasurable tasks, I've got that covered !

Thank you
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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 10:56:49 AM   
MasterCook


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Status: offline 		Oh just one thing. I know I could have posed this question in the Master's section but I prefer to know the opinion of subs/slaves. Thanks

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 11:00:01 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Wow she must be very badly behaved for you to need to start punishing her already.

Have you decided what punishments are to be used for? In what circumstances? To what purpose long and short term? Have you explored other methods of behavior training?

In order to know how to punish, you have to know what behavior you are trying to mold, the personality of who you are training, and many other factors of the specific situation.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 11:20:26 AM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		What Emerald said. What do you plan on punishing for?

I prefer that the things I could be really punished for are layed out so I'm not blindsided by breaking a rule I didn't know existed (though, rules are of course subject to change)

If you're talking about play punishment, I think it's important to communicate with your partner that you are hurting them b/c it pleases you to do so, NOT because they've messed up, otherwise things get really confusin.

My punishments are basically this-
No TV
No desert
No internet
No orgasm.

I get stuff taken away. It works well. I -like- those things and don't want to lose them, that kind of punishment modifys my behavior.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 11:33:40 AM   
KatyLied


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Wow she must be very badly behaved for you to need to start punishing her already.


Yikes! I was thinking the same thing. If she's that new, I think you should focus on "training" more than punishment.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 11:49:06 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Online punishment that sounld like an oxymoran(sp). All i can say is i agree with the others she is new training is better then punishment.

littleone

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 1:33:26 PM   
JustaTop


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Status: offline 		Get yourself some training,then look to training a slave.

Putting the cart before the horse just means the horse has to push it,right?

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 1:39:52 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		My Sir and I are new to this lifestyle and we are online. We don't do punishments. If I do something wrong or whatever we discuss it and deal with it. I think maybe what you are wanting is discipline and training her in the way you want. That is different in my opinion then punishment which says she did something wrong. I agree with the others that you have to learn yourself and whatever you do take it slow. Online is very limiting, but your still real people and you need to handle your submissive carefully and be clear on your intentions.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 1:57:18 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		ok wait you guys just started and you're already wanting to hand out punishments?

Stop looking ahead for possible infractions and just learn each other, punishments and mistakes happen all to fast with out people going n looking fr them.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 2:15:53 PM   
MasterCook


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the advice folks.

By punishment I did mean discipline. I have and am in the process of setting out the rules that I want.

I wouldnt dream of punishment/discipline for something that she was not aware of.

I already use the removal of things she likes i.e. masturbation.

I was just wondering if anyone had better ideas. Nothing wrong with increasing my knowledge.

I hope that my thread, has not offended anyone, that was not the intention.

Thanks


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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 8:27:18 PM   
perverseangelic


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ORIGINAL: MasterCook

I already use the removal of things she likes i.e. masturbation.



Honestly, I find this to be one of the best punishments ever. Think beyond masturbation though. Remove something she wouldnt' even think of doing without.

For example, remove hot water from her allowed list of things. Cold showers suck.

Remove salt from her diet for a few days.

Remove sugar.

Etc.

I find that the punishments that are effective for me are the ones that honest to god inconvience me, not the ones that are sensual or sexual in any way. If it's got a sexual componant, it becomes pleasurable for me, however there's no fun at all in going to bed immediatly when I get home from work.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/26/2005 10:43:05 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Both of you, read, Read READ! Oh, and communicate with her on all levels. You might also want to consider keeping this a Dom/Sub relationship until you are both better qualified and more knowledgeable. Train each other and help each other grow. That's the fun part, ........ sometimes.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/27/2005 7:34:21 AM   
orfunboi


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Status: offline 		The only thing i can think of, would be to make her write an essay or something. Obviously you can't beat her online. i suppose you could tell her to put clamps on her nipples or something like that, but i can't think of anything else.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/27/2005 8:51:41 AM   
Sartoris32801


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Status: offline 		Isn't on line "D/s" punishment enough?


Sartoris

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/27/2005 3:10:13 PM   
Greatcornbow


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Status: offline 		For purely online punishments, look at the Fond of Writing program.

Also, consider whether you can have her do tasks while you watch via webcam.


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCook

Hello everyone.

I have just started an online relationship with someone who I hope will become my slave. For the forseable future it will be online (I wont bore you with the details).

She is quite new to the scene, as am I, and I was wondering whether any of you had any thoughts / suggestions about possible online punishments ? In terms of pleasurable tasks, I've got that covered !

Thank you


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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/28/2005 1:14:41 AM   
DarkestSword


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Status: offline 		Dont Punish early in the relationship and definatly for no reason, In time you will both find your selves as you are both new to this.

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RE: New Dom requires your advice - 10/28/2005 8:58:38 AM   
sweetnewsub4U


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Status: offline 		When i first met my Master i made a list of things that i truely enjoyed - like spending time with friends, getting pampered with manicures, and soo on. That is now used as my punishment list. If he is away and cannot be here to punish me - i loose a priveledge. And it sucks to look at your nails every day and know why they look like crap.

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