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My first submission - 9/15/2005 11:06:17 AM

statechamp62

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I am talking to a Domme an hope to meet in the future what should I what should I bring,wear,ect to please her and also what should I expect for the first session with my Domme. David

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 11:14:42 AM

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I am talking to a Domme an hope to meet in the future what should I what should I bring,wear,ect to please her and also what should I expect for the first session with my Domme. David

The only person who can tell you that is the Domme that you are seeing.

Everyone has different expectations. Talk to her. That's why we all emphasize communication.

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 11:25:14 AM

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Bring your "A" game.
Your best smile, a quick wit and put your best foot forward.
I assume she will want your Ass soon enough, but that will depend on her first impression of you?

Just my .02, Kevin

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 11:28:26 AM

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Ask her if she'd like you to dress in any certain way or bring any sort of extra clothing.

Be polite, communicative. BDSM is much like all erotic and romantic interplay.

Richard

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 2:58:33 PM

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Since you haven't actually met her yet, you might consider reading The Courtship of a Dominant Woman.

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 3:26:10 PM

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You really need to speak with her about that. I might have completely different expectations. Also, unless she has indicated that she will be taking this on to a play session, don't expect or do anything more than you would on a first date. That means being polite, engaging, respectful, witty, and showing her the best parts of your personality without being untrue to yourself. Since you are referring to a "session" rather than a "meet", no one can tell you what to expect. That is between the two of you. But I will say that meeting to continue exploration of a "D/s relationship" as opposed to meeting for a "session" can be two very different things.
If you wish to come with gift in hand, be sure to read the Gifts thread!
Welcome to the boards!

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 9/15/2005 3:27:04 PM >

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 3:26:59 PM

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Great sight onceburned, though it killed a posting I was going to do. Gee darn.

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RE: My first submission - 9/15/2005 4:36:11 PM

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No one can stress enough the value of communication. One of my best buddies is a top. She and I are like night and day in things we enjoy in a sub and from a sub. People also have different play moods, so what she wants from you on one meeting may not be the same as the next. Then again, she may want you to be trained to do the same thing, the same way every time. So ask the Domme you are seeing.

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