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Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/1/2005 7:33:30 AM

DomWhiteMale

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It seems most poly relationships I am familiar with that involve both sexes are male/female/female. I am interested in a male/male/female poly relationship. Anyone have experience with this type of poly relationship? Any advice, stories, etc?

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/1/2005 4:11:29 PM

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It can work, although it takes a significant amount of work, as males tend to be naturally territorial in nature, whether Dominant or submissive

The biggest question that you need to ask is what the interaction is going to be?

Is it going to be a relationship where all 3 are intimate? Possibly if you are bisexual and all three will intimate with each other, or perhaps, are the two guys just going to be friends, but both are intimate with the woman. Or maybe the two guys are going to be intimate, and the woman will just be an observer?

Essentially, everyone needs to figure out what they want out of the relationship, and talk it over, so that everyone is one the same page when the relationship starts. That builds trust, and makes it easier for everyone to communicate if things change later on down the line. That is what will keep a poly relationship going, so that if the desires of all the involved parties changes, the whole thing doesn't come crashing down like a house of cards.

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/2/2005 1:06:26 PM

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It's very possible. Out Male/Male/ Female family has lasted about a decade so far with no signs of any major changes. It's funny that there's always someone that will say that men are more naturally territorial and therefore the situation is unlikely, but many people I know have found it to be exactly the opposite. People are people. People with self-esteem issue will be more prone to certain behaviors than those who do not, regardless of gender.

One thing that I would point out is that Communication and Trust are critical to any poly relationship, and although I hate gender lines, men are a bit less likely to have been instructed on complete and open communication. As a generalization that I take full responsibility for, it is more likely with men that everyone may need to learn a whole new way of communicating needs and desires. Females are "allowed" by society to talk about feelings, yet it is often discouraged in males. For a poly family to work, everyone has to be able to be open.

It may be a little bit more work, but it's very doable with the right people. Good luck!

Oh yeah! Don't let anyone tell you that it won't work if everyone isn't screwing everyone else. We laugh at that every single anniversary. It will work however you all want it to. It doesn't need to hinge on the Orgasm Scorecard if that's not what you want it to be.

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/2/2005 6:46:04 PM

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IME it works just about the same as other polys do, everyone has to be in the loop, everyone has to be comfortable with where everyone else is and everyone has to flow together.

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/3/2005 6:11:29 AM

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I live with two Doms. One I married, the other we both met 6 years ago and invited to live with us last year. Things are going along beautifully. I honestly think that our relationship(s) are as smooth as they are BECAUSE of the amount of time qwe spent getting to know each other - none of us were seeking this, it all just kind of fell into place.

My advice: SLOWLY!! GO SLOWLY!

I am always somewhat taken aback by things like:

the number of people who meet and two months later are living together, like there is a race to be won, and

none of the 3 or 4 or however many of them can manage their time sufficiently, which leads to getting stood up for dates, and

the idea that everyone in the family, or at work, needs to know how you live your life.

Good luck to you!

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/3/2005 7:31:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: DomWhiteMale

It seems most poly relationships I am familiar with that involve both sexes are male/female/female. I am interested in a male/male/female poly relationship. Anyone have experience with this type of poly relationship? Any advice, stories, etc?

We had a male/male/female/female core. It worked well, even with three dominants and (in the beginning) only one servant. Before we could go this way, though, we had to have a huge measure of respect and affection for one another. Two of us had known each other for 15 years, two of us were married (not the same two who knew each other for 15 years), and 2 were soldiers together (again, not the two who were married or the two who knew each other for 15 years), and two of us had lived together for 2 years as room-mates (again, not the two who were married to each other, the ones who fought together, or the ones who knew each other for 15 years) so there was an intricate web of knowledge, love and affection, as well as a deep and abiding respect between us that slipped into place and built a family.

It was an unparallelled success, and I wish to heck we could repeat it. We've got the long-term-mated couple (8 years and counting)...

Lady Zephyr

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/9/2005 8:21:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomWhiteMale

It seems most poly relationships I am familiar with that involve both sexes are male/female/female. I am interested in a male/male/female poly relationship. Anyone have experience with this type of poly relationship? Any advice, stories, etc?

No advice, though I suspect that you don't see it much due to male homophobia. Bummer!
Hang in there!
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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/25/2005 9:24:33 PM

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I am From a Alpha Master/Master/Alpha Mistress Gorean Poly Home
The core was a 27 year marrage with the second marrage being added
and encorperated for 15 years. All three Dominants Owned several
slaves of various contracts or lifetime service and Our Home worked.
Both Masters are now passed and have not been replaced. Seems todays
standards in the Lifestyle are not what they use to be from the past
and there are not many Poly Masters that are confortable with Dominant
Woman My age into Gor and Poly and long term relationships. It gets
harder with age Ive found to fill the voids death takes of Alternate Poly
Dom Men. Especially when You have a Home filled with responcibilitys.
Not wanting to sound whinnie but I think many need to know this kind
of relationships hardships as well as all its rewards.

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RE: Male/male/female poly relationships - 10/27/2005 8:15:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

IME it works just about the same as other polys do, everyone has to be in the loop, everyone has to be comfortable with where everyone else is and everyone has to flow together.

I could'nt agree more.

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