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Life goes on - 10/28/2005 5:37:49 PM

littleone35

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Today i was told by the Dom i was hoping who would collar me that he will not because he really does not have time to be the Master he would like to be. He did say he would help me find a new Master. I am glad he told me and not let me twist in the wind. I have heard many stories about that ,i was one of the lucky ones. I guess i am not looking for advice i just had to let this out. Thanks for reading.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/28/2005 5:40:37 PM

RainGod

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Hi littleone,

I am sorry you experienced this sad event. It is never easy to feel disappointment. I wish you the best of luck, though.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/28/2005 5:42:49 PM

littleone35

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Thank You Rain God I am just glad he told me before we got too too involved and we both ended up hurt. That said still hurts a little but is managable and we are going to keep in touch.

littleone

< Message edited by littleone35 -- 10/28/2005 5:51:26 PM >

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RE: Life goes on - 10/29/2005 8:08:06 AM

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I'm sorry this happened. I have never experienced it myself, but I do know what it's like to have your hopes destroyed. I guess you can look at the bright side, and be glad that he will help you find another if that's what you want. I do wish you the best of luck.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/29/2005 8:26:36 AM

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floundering about and indecision are never good.

with him helping you to find another you have less chance of finding one that is full of it so to speak,that seem to swamp so many subs w/ email.

good luck and blessings

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RE: Life goes on - 10/29/2005 8:42:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fyreredsub
floundering about and indecision are never good.

with him helping you to find another you have less chance of finding one that is full of it so to speak,that seem to swamp so many subs w/ email.

good luck and blessings

Why? She can't trust her own judgement?

IMO that sort of situation usually ends up with the sub just hoping the dom will somehow change his mind and cling to the attachment they really want.

Not necessarily what happens, but often enough.

At any rate, that is the sucky part of the dating process, but much better to be honest up front rather than force a commitment that isn't right.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/31/2005 8:04:58 AM

littleone35

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I know he will not change his mind so i am not clinging to that hope. Even though he cannot be my Master he wants to make sure i am gonna be ok tat is why he is helping me.

littleone

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RE: Life goes on - 10/31/2005 9:43:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I know he will not change his mind so i am not clinging to that hope. Even though he cannot be my Master he wants to make sure i am gonna be ok tat is why he is helping me.

littleone

it sounds to me as if you've your head squarely on your shoulders with no unrealistic expectations (albeit finding another Master that works could be difficult). at least this Master had the wherewithall to be upfront with you, instead of changing the dynamics.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/31/2005 10:49:49 AM

Littlepita

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Well, he is a smart man to let you go if he knows he can't give you the time you would need. I have a girl friend that has a Master that she rarely gets to talk to and I feel so sorry for her. I personally think he should let her go so she could find someone that would give her the time she needs.

Good luck in your search.

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RE: Life goes on - 10/31/2005 1:36:02 PM

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Sorry that happened to you, sounds like he had enough strength to be able to be honest with himself and do that... my previous Dom didn't have enough time for me but didn't let me go as soon as that happened, and in the end i had to explain to him why i couldn't carry on in the relationship.. glad that he wants to see that you're ok.

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RE: Life goes on - 11/1/2005 4:32:32 AM

MasterRobert1

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He's acting honorable and with integrity. Be thankful you started out with such a Dom.

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RE: Life goes on - 11/1/2005 6:15:31 AM

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